Out of the Fog

Moving from Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

De: Dana Morningstar

Narrado por: Dana Morningstar

Duración: 8 h y 59 m

Resumen del Editor

The FOG is an acronym that stands for "Fear, Obligation, and Guilt". These three emotions are often how narcissists, sociopaths, and other types of emotional manipulators go about controlling others.

However, this type of destructive manipulation isn't just limited to narcissists and sociopaths. There is no shortage of people with well-intended bad advice out there who unintentionally fall into the FOG as well and push targets of abuse into keeping the relationship going.

The FOG is one of the main reasons that people stay "stuck" in abusive relationships for so long, why they continue to get involved with abusive people, why they feel they are the problem, and why they tend to feel that the abuse is somehow their fault. When a person is being manipulated, they have a hard time figuring out who has the problem, what is normal, what is problematic, and if their wants, needs, and feelings are valid. The disastrous effects of being lost in the FOG are confusion, crazy-making, people-pleasing, and an erosion of boundaries. What makes this well-intended bad advice so damaging is that, on the surface, it seems like good advice - especially if it's coming from people who seem to have our best interests in mind, such as friends, family, church members, support-group members, or a therapist.

Some examples of this well-intended bad advice that comes from other people is: "Who are you to judge?", "No one is perfect", "You need to forgive them", "She's your mother, you need to have a relationship with her...she's not getting any younger you know", and "Commitment is forever".

This audiobook dives into these and other commonly confused topics such as:

• "Who are you to judge" vs. being discerning
• "You need to forgive them" vs. keeping yourself safe
• A parent vs. a predator
• Commitment vs. codependency
• Self-love vs. selfishness
• A person acting the part vs. a person actually changing
• Gut instincts vs. hypervigilance
• A friend vs. someone being friendly
• Caring vs. caretaking

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Dana Morningstar, THANK YOU 💛💜💚💙

I have been subscribed to Dana Morningstar's Thrive After Abuse Channel on YouTube for a while now. I'm so glad I got this opportunity to download the Audible version of this. The information is priceless on my plan on listening it to it again. Also I'm very glad that Dana Morningstar took the time to do the speaker's many other authors have another voice narrating their book... And I find Dana's voice super soothing and, I'm trying to figure out how to move on after so much and it's so validating to know that it is possible to heal and that I am not the only one

Great but a bit offended

I think this book is great. I’ve been in and out of a relationship with a narcissist. Both emotional and physical abuse. This book helped validate me in all my feelings and emotions. The reason I gave it a lower star is because I was offended by how addiction was portrayed in the book. Yes, I’m an addict (in recovery) but it seems like she thinks addiction is more of a moral issue and not a disease. And that if you are an addict, you can’t or won’t change. I don’t agree with that at all and I was slightly offended. That being said, I’d still recommend this book. It answers a lot of questions.

Helped me find emotional clarity. Life saver!

This book put words to the emotional confusion I was feeling. It gave me the clarity, strength and the knowledge I needed to move towards a healthier life for me.

Good read!

Recommend for anyone to read. wether you thi k you have been in an abudive relationship or not. It may give you the tools to recognize certain signs and maybe help someone in the future.

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Real life experiences of how crazy making being targeted by the narc can cause one to feel and why we will give them so many chances. The author is spot on with each chapter. I'm starting over as there is so much to learn and digest in this audio book. Worth listing to many times.

LIFE CHANGING! Must read!

"Jaw dropping" information, laid out in practical way. If you come from a dysfunctional home, married, dated, or remained in painful situations too long, there are solutions here for you. you are not alone. A big thank you to the author. -Alissa, RN & person who is healing ❤

Very calming and enlightening.

This a must read for anyone who's going through or have already gone through this experience. I'm 4 years post and I still have issues. It took this last experience for me to start going deep into myself to figure out why I was so attracted to him. It came down to him treating me like my narcissistic mother treated me, especially as a child. Funny how that works. Thanks for the awesome read and therapy session.

Very helpful!

This book really gave me a lot of deep insight into narcissistic abuse and how to recover from it. I appreciate the authors ability to put things into perspective. I highly recommend this book for anyone who needs a better understanding of NPD.

Excellent read.

The author knows and understands the topic well. It is a wonderful warning and guide toward and through the road of recovery. It is also a source of consolation and hope.

Left me feeling so clear!

This audiobook left me feeling clearer than I have ever been about myself and human relationships. I highly recommend it!