Living Like You Mean It

Use the Wisdom and Power of Your Emotions to Get the Life You Really Want

By: Ronald J. Frederick PhD

Narrated by: Brian Holden

Length: 6 hrs and 35 mins

Publisher's summary

In Living Like You Mean It, author Ronald J. Frederick does a brilliant job of describing why people are so afraid of their emotions and how this fear creates a variety of problems in their lives. While the problems are different, the underlying issue is often the same. At the core of their distress is what Dr. Frederick refers to as feelings phobia. Whether it's the experience of love, joy, anger, sadness, or surprise, our inborn ability to be a fully feeling person has been hijacked by fear - and it's fear that's keeping us from a better life.

The book will help listeners take an honest look at themselves and recognize whether and how they are afraid of their feelings. It then moves on to explore the origins of fear of feeling and introduces a four-part program for overcoming the fear: (1) become aware of and learn to recognize feelings - anger, sadness, joy, love, fear, guilt/shame, surprise, disgust, (2) master techniques for taming the fear, (3) let the feeling work its way all the way through to its resolution, and (4) open up and put those feelings into words and communicate them confidently. With wisdom, humor, and compassion, the book uses stories and examples to help listeners see that overcoming feelings phobia is the key to a better life and more fulfilling relationships.

©2009 Ronald J. Frederick (P)2019 Tantor

Ignore the misguided negative reviews and comments

I was raised in a poverty stricken and emotionally, psychologically and physically abuse home. And I spent the better part of 20 plus years learning how to rewire myself to feel a sense of internal wholeness and trust in myself and the world around me. I can tell you with absolute certainty that if you want to undo the emotionally disturbing and traumatic events you've been carrying with you that block you from feeling a sense of complete internal wholeness through a method that gives you control over your experience of getting there, you MUST include practices that involve the release of the emotional charges in your body that remain unprocessed within you.

There are many ways we can overcome the traumas and internal emotional disturbances we feel and carry with us when we are seeking to. But, alone, it will require understanding and awareness of how emotions are stored in the body as well as how they get processed out. And it will require tools and techniques that facilitate the movement of those unprocessed emotions you carry with you from the past. If you don't want to learn how to do it alone there are fantastic therapies available, including hypnotherapy and several mentioned at the end of the last chapter of this book. But all those therapies aside, this book shares insight and practical and easy practices that can change your life and have you more easily processing through your own emotions easily and quickly.

I would still, however, seek out a professional in the event that you are stuck with an inability to handle your experience alone.

Read only if you've never studied emotions

This was written at a basic high school teaching level with poor writing quality. just ugh unless this is your first learning experience