Feeling Good Together

The Secret to Making Troubled Relationships Work

By: David D. Burns MD

Narrated by: Alan Sklar

Length: 8 hrs and 38 mins

Publisher's summary

We all know people who are hard to get along with. It might be your spouse, mother, neighbor, friend, or colleague. In his new book Feeling Good Together, Dr. David D. Burns describes Cognitive Interpersonal Therapy (CIT), a radically different method for developing more loving and satisfying relationships with the people you care about.

Based on 25 years of clinical experience and new, groundbreaking research involving more than 1,000 individuals, Feeling Good Together is filled with helpful examples and tools, such as the Relationship Satisfaction Test, the Blame Cost-Benefit Analysis, the Relationship Journal, Five Secrets of Effective Communication, the Intimacy Exercise, and more. Using these techniques, Dr. Burns shows you how to resolve virtually any kind of relationship conflict almost instantly.

©2008 David D. Burns, M.D. (P)2008 Tantor

adds a lot to Marshall Rosenfeld's Nonviolent Comm

will be much more useful if I do written exercises

Burns' Feeling Great is much more appealing, but this has more detail on Communication

skip to chapter 13 (audible chapter 13)

the beginning goes over a lot of foundation and the author has good stories to cover everything. however, if you are looking for actual substance and techniques, I would suggest skipping to chapter 13. that's where this book really starts to become very useful.

Helpful insight

Helpful reflective tools. If your heart is in the right place, this will work well for anyone. If it is used to manipulate instead of mature, it will just delay the inevitable. The tools are useful at improving communication instead is staying stuck in cycles of dysfunction or natural instincts that are not always helpful.

Practical and potentially useful - worth trying.

Practical and potentially useful - worth trying. I wish that I could remember the strategies ‘in the moment’, when I need them.

Best yet for communications Skills

I like this book/audio the best so far. Very good advice through out, now if I can just put it into action. The supplemental material can be found here.
http://www.tantor.com/Illust_extra.asp?Product=0820_FeelingGood&num=1

WE NEED MORE!

This book has a lot of real life exemplas that we all go true on regular basis.
I wish Dr. Burns would have all his other best selling books available in audio as well.
Can't wait!
Thanks

Great advice

There was quite bit of profanity, but the advice was helpful. The skills are very practical and effective.

Instructive Book

The book dives into communication dynamics and how they affect our relationships with others. It has many practices and instructive segments, where the readers asked to complete this or that task and to reflect in what is being taught. Following through on these takes a level of dedication and commitment to the subject which I frankly lack. Non-the-less, I did find it beneficial. It brings back to mind a statement I learned many years back: "seek first to understand, then to be understood".

Thank you

Time to go through it again and complete the activities.

Thank you for your time in creating this book.

For the clueless not the introspective

This book seems to be aimed for those who are just beginning to look into how their own behavior affects their relationships. I have read many books, taken classes and seminars about relationships and emotional intelligence and have been in marriage counseling with my husband for 8 years and in personal therapy for even longer. The concepts presented here are for some one who believes that all of their issues are due to the other person's failings and does not recognize their own contribution to a troubled relationship. The tone of the book is not for the well informed or educated, thoughtful person, but for the "brute or bitch" who would not even be introspective enough to buy a book on improving relationships.