• 219: Thriving After Infidelity: Michael’s Story
    Oct 23 2025

    Maybe you're in the midst of an affair, paralyzed by guilt and uncertainty. Maybe you're losing sleep, watching your health decline, and feeling like there's no good way out.

    Today, I want to share a remarkable story that might change how you see what's possible.

    The guilt was unbearable. Michael couldn't sleep, his health was declining, and he felt trapped between two worlds - a marriage that had become a roommate situation and memories of an affair that had awakened something he'd been missing for years.

    This week, I’m joined by my client Michael, who courageously shares his journey of wrestling with his infidelity situation. What emerged from our work together transformed not just Michael's romantic life, but his entire approach to decision-making and relationships.

    Join us today to discover why being "stuck" is often more damaging than taking action, how to make difficult decisions without having all the answers, the importance of being faithful to yourself, and how Michael created a positive post-divorce relationships.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.mariemurphyphd.com/219

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    1 hr and 3 mins
  • 218: Creating the Future vs. Predicting the Future
    Oct 9 2025

    You're already making plans for tomorrow without knowing if the internet will crash, your dog will have an emergency, or an earthquake will hit.

    You're creating your future every single day, despite life's fundamental uncertainty. Yet when it comes to your infidelity situation, you might be waiting for a crystal ball to show you exactly how things will turn out before making any moves.

    So many people tell me they need to know what divorce feels like before deciding to get divorced, or they need 90% certainty their decision will work out well. They're looking for guarantees that life simply doesn't offer. Meanwhile, these same people confidently plan vacations, have children, and make career moves without any promise of how things will unfold.

    Join me this week to learn the difference between actively creating your future versus trying to predict it. You’ll hear how you’re creating your future every single day through your choices, both big and small, and how you already possess the power to deliberately shape your future.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.mariemurphyphd.com/218

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    32 mins
  • 217: The Perils of Telling the Truth
    Sep 25 2025

    Have you ever felt proud of yourself for telling the truth… only to later wonder if you should have approached it differently?

    We often think of truth-telling as an absolute good - something that's always right and beneficial. But what if I told you that, sometimes, the truth we choose to tell isn't necessarily the most important or useful truth in a situation?

    This week, I share a story about how a dead rat smell in a yoga studio became the catalyst for a profound lesson about truth-telling, and how my well-intentioned truth-telling may have inadvertently created more problems than it solved.

    Through this cautionary tale, you'll discover why truth isn't always the straightforward virtue we think it is. I'll show you how even those of us who consider ourselves nuanced about honesty can get caught up in truth-telling fervor, and why the most important question isn't whether to tell the truth, but which truth is most useful to tell.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.mariemurphyphd.com/217

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    32 mins
  • 216: When Your Affair Partner Breaks Your Heart
    Sep 11 2025

    Have you ever had someone walk out of your life without warning, only to reappear months later as if nothing happened?

    It's complicated enough when it happens in regular relationships. But when it involves an affair partner, the complexity multiplies tenfold.

    This kind of heartbreak hits differently when the relationship itself existed in secrecy, making the grief even more isolating.

    Join me this week as I tackle the heart-wrenching reality of what happens when an affair partner breaks your heart - and the even more complicated question of what to do if they come back. You'll learn how to stop waiting for someone else to change and start taking control of your own emotional well-being and future relationships.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.mariemurphyphd.com/216

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    34 mins
  • 215: Secretly Dating While You’re Married
    Aug 28 2025

    Have you ever thought about "checking out your options" before making a big relationship decision?

    It seems logical, right? Why make a life-changing choice without knowing what else is out there?

    When you're married but questioning whether you want to stay that way, the unknown can feel paralyzing.

    Join me this week as I dive into why people choose to secretly date while married and what actually happens when they do.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.mariemurphyphd.com/215

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    30 mins
  • 214: What If You Make the “Wrong Decision” About Your Relationship(s)?
    Aug 14 2025

    Have you ever been paralyzed by the fear of making the "wrong" decision about your relationship(s)?

    Maybe you're considering leaving your marriage, ending an affair, or making another significant change in your relationship status. And maybe the fear of regret is keeping you stuck.

    Making major relationship decisions can feel like standing at the edge of a cliff, knowing that once you jump, there's no going back.

    In this episode, I break down exactly what to do when you find yourself living with relationship decisions you don't like, and share practical steps for addressing your dissatisfaction without spiraling into panic.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.mariemurphyphd.com/214

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    32 mins
  • 213: Beginnings and Endings
    Apr 10 2025

    Is it really okay to end something that's working well?

    After much consideration, I've decided to pause production of Your Secret is Safe With Me indefinitely while I pursue new creative endeavors.

    This decision wasn't made because anything is wrong—quite the opposite.

    My experience with this transition mirrors what many of my clients face in their relationships and life choices. There's often a belief that we shouldn't end something that's "good enough" or that we must finish everything we've started. But what if the most faithful act to ourselves is allowing evolution, even when it means leaving something valuable behind?

    This final episode explores the legitimacy of change and the permission we all deserve to give ourselves when moving in new directions.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.mariemurphyphd.com/213

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    23 mins
  • 212: Choosing Between Two Good Things
    Mar 27 2025

    Have you ever felt stuck between two good choices?

    Through my personal story of leaving a life I loved to join the Peace Corps, I illustrate how choosing between two good things - while challenging - can lead to profound growth and fulfillment.

    If you're struggling with a decision that feels impossible because both options have value, this episode is for you.

    Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.mariemurphyphd.com/212

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    46 mins