Key Takeaways

• Vanessa describes her initial reaction to her husband's infidelity and the impact on her family
• She reflects on how her past experiences of betrayal contributed to her reaction
• Vanessa and her husband ultimately decide to work on their marriage for the sake of their family

• discusses the impact of small "micro betrayals" and how they can resurface during a major betrayal
• They share personal experiences of feeling minimized by older generations when expressing their emotions
• After seeking help, the speaker became a betrayal recovery specialist and now helps others
• children reacted differently to the betrayal, with one becoming empowered and the other breaking the cycle of betrayal in relationships
• kept the betrayal private until encouraged to share their story and now advocates for others going through similar experiences
• Despite the devastating event, believes they are better for the experience and encourages others to seek help if needed.

• initially thought betrayal was their fault, but later realized it wasn't about them
• discuss the impact of social media on personal reactions and relationships
• reflects on their own reaction to betrayal and the impact on their children
• the importance of transparency and communication in navigating betrayal with teenagers

• Keep children informed about the situation and communicate with their school and teachers
• Pay attention to changes in behavior and language in teenagers that may indicate betrayal in a relationship
• Use indirect communication tactics to engage teenagers in conversation and show support
• Help teenagers overcome self-betrayal and silence their inner critic in the healing process

• the need to fight back against our inner critic
• writing down our accomplishments to counteract negative self-talk

Bio

Vanessa Cardenas, a Betrayal Recovery Specialist, transformational coach, and author, combines her personal journey of overcoming betrayal with over two decades of C-Suite leadership experience to empower others towards healing and self-discovery. Holding a degree in Industrial & Organizational Psychology and certifications from the Post-Betrayal Transformation Institute, among others, Vanessa has mentored hundreds and guided countless clients to reclaim their self-love, trust, and purpose. Her approach is rooted in both deep personal understanding and a multifaceted educational background, making her a beacon of hope and transformation for those navigating life's betrayals.

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