Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv explore the nuanced definitions of selfishness and selflessness, challenging societal norms that label selfishness as negative. They discuss the importance of self-care and the need for individuals to prioritize their own needs to be able to contribute positively to the world. The conversation delves into childhood conditioning, the people-pleasing epidemic, and the journey from selflessness to a healthier form of selfishness, termed 'selffulness.' Liv shares her personal vows to herself as a powerful example of self-love and commitment to personal growth.

Keywords

selfishness, selflessness, selffulness, personal growth, self-care, childhood conditioning, people-pleasing, balance, relationships, empowerment

Takeaways

• Selfishness and selflessness are two ends of the same spectrum.
• Being selfish can be a form of self-care and empowerment.
• Childhood conditioning often leads to people-pleasing behaviors.
• Finding balance between selflessness and selfishness is crucial for personal growth.
• It's important to check in with oneself before giving to others.
• You can't pour from an empty cup; self-care is essential.
• The journey from selflessness to selfishness can involve a necessary swing.
• Selffulness is about being full enough to give to others authentically.
• Self-love is a vital part of being able to love others well.
• Creating a healed world requires individuals to be selfful.

Sound Bites

• "It's okay to be selfish."
• "We could save the world if each individual person just stopped looking for somebody to save them."
• "You can't give something you don't have."

Chapters

00:00 Defining Selfishness and Selflessness

05:51 The Importance of Self-Care

11:51 Cultural Conditioning and People-Pleasing

19:31 The Swing from Selflessness to Selfishness

27:17 Finding Balance in Relationships

33:45 The Role of Basic Needs

39:19 The Power of Selffullness

51:23 Liv's Vows to Herself

59:12 Outro

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