If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?

Ten Strategies That Will Change Your Love Life Forever

De: Susan Page

Narrado por: Joyce Bean

Relationship expert Susan Page asks one of life’s most puzzling questions: If I’m so wonderful, why am I still single? And she answers it in a fully revised and updated edition of her classic book first published 12 years ago. Full of Susan’s own brand of relationship advice, and with a new foreword that specifically addresses love and dating in the new millennium, If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? helps singles sweep aside popular excuses for not finding a mate and identify the real reasons love may seem so hard to find.

Using revealing anecdotes, case studies, and quizzes, Susan reveals 10 essential steps to help you define your own plan of action and change your approach to dating and love forever:

• Are you stuck with a dead-end lover? Learn how to say no to B.T.N. (Better Than Nothing) relationships.
• Are you convinced that there are no good ways to meet people? Find out why this is one of the biggest myths around and what you can do to prove it wrong.
• Do you want love but wonder if you might be better off alone? Learn how to identify your “hidden ambivalence” and how it sabotages your search for love.

Written with humor and true been-there-done-that experience, this thinking-person’s guide to love will show that actively searching for a mate can be done without sabotaging the better aspects of love and romance. If you’re genuinely interested in finding the perfect love, If I’m So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single? is your map to happiness.

©2002 Susan Page (P)2012 Brilliance Audio, Inc.

Thorough and Thoughtful

What I like about this book is that it doesn't take the negative "He's Just Not That Into You" approach and delves in deep to the real reasons why people have difficulty finding love. I also appreciate that it is for men and women, gay and straight. And it's not just a talking down to straight women about how they are too unrealistic about their expectations of men. It's a realistic approach to modern dating that goes into personal development as much as it covers dating others. I have honestly learned things about myself.
I am on my second listen and I hope to get some of the exercises down on paper soon (I listen in the car during a long commute). I have recommended this book to several people. I haven't given it 5 starts only because I have not had the chance to apply any of this knowledge, but I will update my review after some practice in the field.

The audio is decent and well paced. Sometimes Joyce's "man voice" makes me lol.

Enjoyable

This was my first book on relationships and I found it to be surprisingly funny, easy to follow, easy to listen to and in some instances even easy to relate to. She establishes some "rules of the game" that range from common sense to absurdity (If you are unlucky enough to have been born with curly hair and are not willing to straighten it regularly... sorry! You might as well have signed a contract for maidenhood with the universe!).

My opinion: it is a good audiobook for all of us who find themselves without a loving partner (my husband died and now that I am ready to face the dating world again I find myself without any idea of what do to or how to go about doing it) but wanting to find one. Just be prepared to laugh at a few of just plain outrageous statements and just pick the advice that suits your personality. She does give good advice and good ideas! Overall I recommend this audiobook.

Must Buy!

This book is amazing and will highlight many realities in your life. I highly recommend it.

A must read!

Definitely a must read for men and women. Takes a deep dive on how important self awareness is for successful relationships. It could be heavy at times because it makes you really think and analyze yourself and your life but it’s information we all need to hear.

More than the title!

This is such an awesome book. I really think there's so much more to it than what the title explains. I think it should be called 'How to live a better Life' or 'How be a better person' It's definitely something I will re-read and possibly use as a handbook because there is an unlimited amount of valuable information here. After a while, I forgot I was listening to a book about being single!

Too much of this book is outdated

I started listening to this book because the “Do you want love but wonder if you might be better off alone?” related to me. However, the outdated-ness of this book took too much of a center stage. It discusses a lot about AIDS, personal ads, etc. that does not apply to life today. Basically, there was about one chapter’s worth of relevant info. Maybe it will be or was more helpful for others, but didn’t help me much.

Strategies Work

I appreciated the detailed strategies laid out in the book for finding prospects , gathering information and making decisions about whether to consider them further. It was refreshing to learn how to do this without letting myself get in the way. And it worked for me! I am in the beginning of a healthy dating relationship with a friend who has similar goals.

Helpful book

This book was one of those books that are mostly common sense but it just helps so much to see/hear it spelled out and in front of you. I liked the narrator so that helped me keep listening. I think my only complaint is that it seemed like it took FOREVER for the introduction to finally get to the "advice" part. I hate that about self-help books. I wish they'd just cut to it.

outdated

I couldn't get past chapter 5, this book is for the baby boomers and older, definitely not gen x or younger. Sure, the lessons from our parents are always useful, but with the rise in online dating, social media, text, etc etc.... this book just feels like getting love advice from my grams.

Needs nowadays updates

I really wanted to like this book, but it felt like it was written for a completely different time. For example, one of the main strategies is about creating a ‘dating plan’ and sticking to it, which might have worked back in the day. But now, with dating apps and how fast-paced everything is, it feels way too rigid. There’s also a section about avoiding ‘unavailable people’, which is fair advice, but the examples felt so generic and didn’t really dig into what ‘unavailability’ looks like in today’s world - like ghosting or breadcrumbing.

The book has some good ideas about self-reflection and taking control of your love life, but it doesn’t really speak to the realities of modern dating. I found myself wishing the author had updated it with insights about online dating or how social media impacts relationships. It’s not a bad book, just not one I could relate to or use in my own life.