Tune in this week as Jill explores the ups and downs of relationships, breaking down how comparisons and hidden resentments can quietly erode them. She looks at how our childhood, unconscious thoughts, and past experiences can distort our view of our partners, and she stresses the value of self-awareness and personal growth.

Jill explains how true transformation in relationships begins within, and by addressing deep-seated insecurities and traumas, individuals can alter their dynamics and foster genuine intimacy.

This conversation encourages listeners to reflect on their own growth, urging them to embark on a journey of self-love and healing to enhance their connections!

Don't forget, Jill is gearing up for an in-person retreat in September which is not just a gathering but a transformative experience where women are already starting to see shifts just by committing! Go to jillherman.com for more info!

[1:16] - Comparisons and hidden resentments quietly erode relationships, affecting how we feel about our partners.

[4:02] - Our past shapes how we see partners and affects intimacy; real change starts with self-awareness.

[7:06] - Overcoming partner issues involves personal growth, confronting deep truths, and releasing emotional baggage.

[9:57] - Hear how trauma resurfaces as reactions, influencing our relationships; healing prevents repeating harmful patterns.

[11:41] - Start healing by examining and loving yourself, addressing deep-seated wounds, and seeking guided help.

[13:24] - Change is challenging yet rewarding, and true transformation requires deep self-examination and committed effort.

[16:04] - While doing self-work, list what you love about your partner to combat resentment and appreciate them.

[18:52] - The approach that Jill proposes doesn’t apply to abusive relationships but is useful for personal growth after initiating self-work.

[19:59] - You empower your feminine energy and transform relationship dynamics positively by focusing on self-healing.

[21:55] - It’s important to focus on self-reflection before prematurely setting boundaries in relationships; healing begins with self-acceptance.

[24:44] - Hear how Jill had to confront deep wounds and do her own healing work regarding her husband's refusal to have a child with her.

[26:32] - Jill also reveals having faced challenging situations with her husband's parents, learning to set boundaries and heal her own wounds.

[29:05] - Through self-work, Jill has transformed her perspective and strengthened her relationship with her husband significantly.

[31:51] - By doing this inner work, you transform the dynamic with your partner, often even inspiring them to join you.

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