Do you WANT to grow old with your husband?

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Lost Sight of Intentions: Beth's Marriage Advice

Beth had a heart-to-heart talk, where she shared her belief that many marriages end due to losing sight of the original intentions. Beth emphasized that couples often forget their initial dream of growing old together, sharing life experiences, and the promise to stay together till death. She noted that when conflicts arise, instead of focusing on the positive aspects of the partnership, people tend to subconsciously look for reasons to leave, which can lead to ruining the marriage. Beth encouraged her audience to be mindful of their initial intentions and to look for reasons to stay together rather than reasons to leave.

Focusing on Partner's Positives

Beth emphasized the importance of focusing on the positive aspects of our partner and not just highlighting their flaws. She encouraged to acknowledge the reasons why we chose them in the first place and to remember that they are different from us, which is often one of the reasons we are attracted to them. Beth also reminded that this applies to our children as well, who are a mix of both parents, and this diversity is what makes them whole and beautiful.

Dangers of Relationship Exit Focus

Beth warned against focusing on reasons to end a relationship, emphasizing that doing so can manifest conflict and unhappiness. She noted that even if one isn't explicitly expressing negative feelings, the other party will still pick up on them, potentially leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy of conflict and disconnection. Beth emphasized the importance of striving for peacefulness, safety, and happiness, and the potential dangers of seeking reasons to leave.

Relationship Ending Discussion

Beth had a discussion about ending a relationship and its implications. She warned about the dangers of looking for negative aspects of a person, which could lead to seeing those traits more clearly. Beth also mentioned the need for a person to be present with their children. She ended the discussion by noting that she was done and wanted the other parties to settle down.

Intentions: Shaping Our Experiences

Beth explained how powerful intentions can be in shaping our experiences. She used examples from hiking, vacations, and dining out to illustrate how setting an intention to enjoy or find the good in a situation can change our perspective and experience. Beth emphasized that when we set intentions, we can direct our experiences and find growth opportunities, rather than focusing on what's wrong.

Intentional Marriage: Staying Power

Beth emphasized the power of intention in marriages. She highlighted that without a conscious intention to stay together, a marriage will inevitably fail. Beth cited the example of a person named Jason Duncan who gained fame after saying in a podcast interview that he and his wife refuse to consider divorce as it is not in their vocabulary, due to their commitment to stay together forever. Beth challenged those present to consider whether they want to stay on the "struggle bus" or the "drama triangle" or choose to adopt the intention of staying married.

Positive Growth and Proactive Mindset

Beth emphasized the importance of focusing on the positive, personal growth, and being proactive in creating good outcomes. She encouraged others to adopt a teacher's mindset, grounded in what they want and how they can make it happen.