Katrin Berndt is a coach and host of the Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast and had Ron and Daniel as guests.

Katrin always thought that she would be an independent, confident, secure girlfriend, and that she wanted an independent, confident, secure boyfriend. But within relationship, Katrin experienced jealousy, anxiousness, neediness and that to some extent, she wasn't ready for an independent partner. The advice she received was, “work on self-love,” so she asked herself what that meant.

She was relentless in her pursuit of answers to this question and remedies to the emotional issues she was suffering. She believed in logical, not vague, or “woo,” in change herself, not her partner and in her own ability to execute lasting change.

She realized that she used to think that a person was either born relaxed, happy, and easy-going, or that, if they weren't, then their parents didn't raise them right. But she discovered that being that kind of person is a skill, not a talent. It's something anyone can learn at any stage of life.

On the Grumpy Girlfriend Podcast and in her coaching, Katrin makes sense of why people think, feel, and act the way they do even in good relationships. She believes most people are intelligent, successful, and hard-working, but that sometimes these attributes work against us and delay our progress. She values personal accountability, getting specific around goals and requests, and in reprograming how we relate to the uncomfortable thoughts and feelings we experience on a daily basis.