One thing most of the women I coach have in common is living under the tyranny of “shoulds” and “oughts.” A should can be innocuous, but it can also be horribly destructive.  Point is, living by the “shoulds” is choosing to live on someone else’s terms.

The thing about menopause is that through the major physiological and psychological change, things that have been suppressed must be addressed.  Deal with them, or they will deal with you, typically with a mental or physical health issue.

Choosing your “must” is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. If you want to know your “must,” get to know your “shoulds.”

When a “should” comes up for you that’s tied to some sort of resentment or frustration, ask yourself:

1. Where did it come from?
2. Is this really true for you?
3. Do you want to keep holding on to it? Be honest!

I have a couple announcements too!  I’m starting The Midlife Remix Book Club on October 7th, starting, appropriately, with “The Crossroads of Should and Must” by Elle Luna.  I revisit this one frequently and I’m sure you’ll love it.

Book: The Crossroads of Should and Must by Elle Luna, https://bookshop.org/books/the-crossroads-of-should-and-must-find-and-follow-your-passion/9780761184881

Domestic Awareness month resources:

The YWCA: https://www.ywca.org/?fbclid=IwAR0esfRia4uoOZYjqO6In4HJ9TKrIV7iqzaQAsuAvPr9Y8DsZq78MrcJLhE

Women For Women International: https://www.womenforwomen.org/

National Bailout, https://www.nationalbailout.org/

Canadian Domestic Violence Organizations, https://www.domesticshelters.org/resources/domestic-violence-provincial-groups-canada

UK Domestic Violence Support, https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/en/How-can-we-support-you

I’ll also be starting a “Fall In Love With Yourself” challenge soon - watch the Facebook page for that! You can also participate in the challenge without joining the facebook group through email. Join the newsletter, https://www.themidliferemix.life/

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