Summary

In this episode, Meli and Liv discuss the concept of attachments and why we have them. They define attachment as an energetic tie or cord to some element of our existence, such as a characteristic, an outcome, or a belief. They explore the evolutionary purpose of attachments and how they help us survive and interact with our environment. They also discuss the benefits of having attachments, such as providing focus and motivation. However, they caution against becoming too attached to outcomes and emphasize the importance of surrender and flexibility. They also highlight the need to be conscious of our attachments and the emotions they trigger, as well as the potential for attachments to become unhealthy and restrictive. In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss attachments and their role in our lives. Liv shares a childhood experience of receiving a B grade and feeling devastated because she was attached to being perfect. They discuss the importance of allowing disappointment and failure to move through us and the need to shift our perspective on attachments. They explore the idea of preferences and how they can both limit and clarify our experiences. They suggest that attachments can serve as a funnel or bumper lane to guide us in a certain direction, but it's important to choose attachments consciously and allow them to be of service to us.

Keywords

attachment, energetic tie, characteristic, outcome, belief, evolutionary purpose, survival, environment, focus, motivation, surrender, flexibility, conscious, emotions, unhealthy, restrictive, attachments, preferences, disappointment, failure, perspective shift, perfection, childhood trauma, self-inquiry, self-acceptance, manifestation, energy, vibration, self-worth, self-love

Takeaways

• Attachments are energetic ties or cords to elements of our existence, such as characteristics, outcomes, or beliefs.
• Attachments have an evolutionary purpose and help us survive and interact with our environment.
• Attachments can provide focus and motivation, but it's important to avoid becoming too attached to specific outcomes.
• Surrender and flexibility are key in navigating attachments and allowing for growth and change.
• Being conscious of our attachments and the emotions they trigger is important for personal growth and well-being. Attachments can be intense and have a significant impact on our lives, especially when we are attached to perfection or specific outcomes.
• Allowing disappointment and failure to move through us and shifting our perspective on attachments can help us navigate challenges and setbacks.
• Preferences can both limit and clarify our experiences, and it's important to find a balance between being open to different possibilities and having some preferences to reduce decision fatigue.
• Attachments can serve as a funnel or bumper lane to guide us in a certain direction, but it's crucial to choose attachments consciously and allow them to be of service to us.
• Choosing love for our attachments and ego can help us navigate them in a healthier and more empowering way.

Sound Bites

• "An attachment is an energetic tie or cord to some element of my existence."
• "Attachments are something we perceive we need to survive."
• "Attachments help us move in directions and interact with our environment."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: What is Attachment?

06:11 The Evolutionary Perspective on Attachments

08:49 The Benefits of Attachments

12:12 Differentiating Beneficial Attachments from Detrimental Ones

15:45 Recognizing and Detaching from Attachments

23:42 Recognizing the Effects of Attachments

25:50 The Power of Attachments

28:48 The Influence of Attachments

32:05 Detaching from Attachments

35:05 The Role of Preferences

39:09 Embodying the Energy of Manifestation

44:53 Choosing Love and Positive Attachment

51:54 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of love and how it is not blind. They explore the idea that love is synonymous with truth and that the societal depiction of love in movies is a distortion of what love truly is. They emphasize that love is unconditional and accepting things as they are. They also discuss the importance of knowing oneself and finding one's authentic expression of love. They share personal experiences of trying to fit into fairy tale versions of themselves and how it led to confusion and pain in their relationships. They highlight the need to sit with oneself and embrace the void in order to discover one's true desires and move towards authentic love. In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the concepts of the damsel and the maiden. They explore how the damsel is a shadow expression of the maiden, characterized by neediness, desperation, and victimhood. They question whether the damsel is an innate expression of femininity or a learned maladaptation. Meli shares her belief that the damsel is a distortion of the maiden, which is the true expression of the divine feminine. They discuss how society and personal experiences can lead to the development of the damsel complex. They also explore how the maiden embodies qualities such as self-sufficiency, authenticity, and a deep connection to oneself and the world around them. Liv and Meli emphasize the importance of loving oneself first and taking responsibility for one's own experiences in order to transition from the damsel to the maiden.

Keywords

love, truth, fairy tale, self-discovery, relationships, damsel, maiden, femininity, shadow expression, victimhood, self-sufficiency, authenticity, self-love

Takeaways

• Love is not blind, but rather synonymous with truth.
• The societal depiction of love in movies is a distortion of what love truly is.
• Love is unconditional and accepting things as they are.
• Knowing oneself and finding one's authentic expression of love is crucial.
• Trying to fit into fairy tale versions of oneself can lead to confusion and pain in relationships.
• Sitting with oneself and embracing the void is necessary for self-discovery and authentic love. The damsel is a shadow expression of the maiden, characterized by neediness, desperation, and victimhood.
• The damsel may be a learned maladaptation of the maiden, rather than an innate expression of femininity.
• Society and personal experiences can lead to the development of the damsel complex.
• The maiden embodies qualities such as self-sufficiency, authenticity, and a deep connection to oneself and the world.
• Loving oneself first and taking responsibility for one's own experiences are key to transitioning from the damsel to the maiden.

Sound Bites

"Know thyself, finding your energetic path of least resistance"

"The damsel is like this shadow expression of the maiden who is also very connected to her emotions and also very connected to her feminine, but in a leaky way where it's like needy or desperate."

"The damsel is not an innate expression of femininity that we need to alchemize as women. I truly believe that what happens is, like you were saying, we actually start as expressions of the divine."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Reflection on Growth

02:28 Is Love Actually Blind?

03:11 Love as Truth and Acceptance

09:19 Knowing Oneself and Finding the Path of Least Resistance

13:57 The Breaking Point as an Opportunity

29:53 Embracing the Damsel Archetype

34:41 The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships

36:32 The Dangers of Societal Ideals

36:59 The Importance of Expressing Emotions in Relationships

38:49 The Distortion of the Damsel

45:24 Taking Responsibility for Your Experience

50:52 Embodying the Maiden

57:52 Self-Love and Fulfilling Relationships

01:05:14 Transitioning from Damsel to Maiden

01:09:55 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of archetypes and why they are important. They explain that archetypes are recurring symbols or motifs that appear in art, literature, and myths. They also discuss the psychoanalytic perspective of archetypes, which suggests that they are primitive mental images stored in our collective unconscious. Liv and Meli share their personal experiences with archetypes and how they use Oracle card decks to tap into energetic fields and gain insights about themselves. They emphasize that archetypes provide a container for meaning and understanding, and can be applied in various aspects of life. In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the power of archetypes and their relevance in understanding ourselves and the world around us. They emphasize the importance of embracing all aspects of the feminine experience, including the lost and darker ones. They share personal stories of how they have tapped into different archetypes and repaired their relationship with certain expressions of femininity. The conversation highlights the fluidity of archetypes and the tools they provide for self-discovery and growth.

Keywords

archetypes, recurring symbols, motifs, art, literature, myths, psychoanalytic perspective, collective unconscious, Oracle card decks, energetic fields, insights, meaning, understanding, archetypes, feminine, expression, shadow, distortion, divine, tools, self-discovery, growth

Takeaways

• Archetypes are recurring symbols or motifs that appear in art, literature, and myths.
• They can be understood from a psychoanalytic perspective as primitive mental images stored in our collective unconscious.
• Oracle card decks can be used to tap into energetic fields and gain insights about oneself.
• Archetypes provide a container for meaning and understanding in various aspects of life. Archetypes are fluid and multi-dimensional, representing different aspects of the feminine experience.
• Embracing all expressions of femininity, including the lost and darker ones, is essential for self-discovery and growth.
• Repairing our relationship with different archetypes allows us to access their strengths and integrate them into our lives.
• Archetypes provide tools for understanding ourselves and the world around us, helping us navigate through different phases and challenges.
• Archetypes are not fixed roles or stereotypes, but rather a framework for exploring and embracing our authentic selves.

Sound Bites

"Archetypes are recurring symbols or motifs"

"Archetypes provide a bridge between spirituality and the real lived human experience"

"Archetypes create a container for meaning and understanding"

"Harry Potter is littered with archetypes, littered with mythos"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

02:12 What is an Archetype and Why Do We Care?

11:56 Creating an Archetype Deck

25:06 Addressing Resistance to Oracle Decks

34:35 The Power of Archetypes

52:46 The Fluidity of Archetypes

55:52 Repairing the Relationship with Self

01:08:07 Archetypes as Tools

01:09:51 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of the fairy tale and how it can kill magic. They explore their own personal fairy tales and the expectations and fantasies they had about relationships and life. They realize that these fantasies were not aligned with their true desires and were actually blinding them from seeing the truth. They also discuss how love is not blind, but rather a source of clarity. They emphasize the importance of addressing internal voids and not relying on external acquisitions to fill them. In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the concept of the fairy tale and how it can kill magic in our lives. They explore the liminal space, which is the realization that living in a fantasy is not serving us, and the magic that comes from letting go of that fantasy. They emphasize the importance of surrendering to different possibilities and being open to experiencing happiness in various ways. They also discuss the process of grieving the loss of the fairy tale and the need to feel the pain and let go. Overall, they encourage listeners to slow down, enjoy the present moment, and embrace the fullness of life.

Keywords

fairy tale, magic, expectations, fantasies, love, blind, voids, truth, clarity, fairy tale, liminal space, magic, surrender, letting go, grief, happiness, present moment

Takeaways

• The fairy tale is the fantasy or dream that we have about what our life should be like, often influenced by societal expectations and media.
• The magic is the feeling we anticipate getting from achieving the fairy tale, such as happiness, fulfillment, or validation.
• Love is not blind; it is a source of clarity and truth. It helps us see ourselves and our relationships more clearly.
• Fantasies and expectations can blind us from the truth and prevent us from addressing internal voids.
• It is important to recognize and address our own desires and needs instead of trying to fit into societal or external expectations. Living in a fantasy can prevent us from experiencing true happiness and fulfillment.
• The liminal space is the realization that our current worldview or fantasy is not serving us.
• Letting go of the fantasy and surrendering to different possibilities can lead to magic and new experiences.
• Grieving the loss of the fairy tale is necessary to fully let go and embrace the present moment.
• Slowing down and enjoying the journey is more important than rushing to achieve a specific outcome.

Sound Bites

• "Love is clarity, as far as I'm concerned."
• "This worldview doesn't serve me. So there must be, and now at this point when you're at rock bottom and I feel like this is why so many people have."
• "That's why so much alchemy happens in these dark places."
• "Maybe this isn't the thing that is true to me."

Chapters

00:00 The Impact of Fairy Tales on Love and Fulfillment

16:14 Navigating the Fantasy of a Perfect Life

32:42 The Journey of Rock Bottom and Surrender

43:13 Navigating the Liminal Space

01:01:55 The Transformative Power of Surrender and Openness

01:02:53 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the concept of unity and whether we are all one. They explore the idea of a liminal space, where we are both individuals and part of a larger whole. They discuss the positive effects of embracing unity, such as a sense of belonging and interconnectedness. However, they also highlight the potential negative effects of bypassing individual experiences and boundaries in the name of unity. They emphasize the importance of finding a balance and recognizing the power of choice in navigating the concept of unity. In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the difference between healthy boundaries and distorted boundaries. They emphasize the importance of understanding and setting boundaries that are authentic and not fear-based. They also explore the concept of separation and unity, highlighting that both are necessary and can coexist. They encourage individuals to embrace their individuality while also recognizing their interconnectedness with the collective. They stress the importance of integrity and being true to oneself, rather than blindly adopting ideas or concepts. Overall, the conversation promotes a balanced approach to personal growth and collective harmony.

Keywords

unity, liminal space, individuality, interconnectedness, boundaries, bypassing, choice, boundaries, healthy boundaries, distorted boundaries, separation, unity, individuality, interconnectedness, integrity, personal growth, collective harmony

Takeaways

• The concept of unity suggests that we are all connected and come from the same source.
• A liminal space allows for the paradox of being both individuals and part of a larger whole.
• Embracing unity can bring a sense of belonging and interconnectedness.
• Bypassing individual experiences and boundaries in the name of unity can have negative consequences.
• Finding a balance and recognizing the power of choice is important in navigating the concept of unity. Understanding the difference between healthy boundaries and distorted boundaries is crucial for personal growth and healthy relationships.
• Separation and unity are both important and can coexist. Embracing individuality while recognizing interconnectedness with the collective is key.
• Integrity is essential in navigating personal growth and adopting ideas or concepts. Being true to oneself and avoiding blind conformity is important.
• Balancing personal growth and collective harmony requires embracing both individuality and interconnectedness.
• Setting boundaries that are authentic and not fear-based is essential for maintaining healthy relationships and personal well-being.

Sound Bites

"We all come from one and we are here with the purpose of having an individual experience."

"Unity brings a sense of belonging and interconnectedness."

"Unity allows for harmonization and finding a center point."

"Is separation a bad thing?"

"We can best be one by being more of ourselves as individual ones."

"You're not special. You are just as special as everyone else."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Excitement

01:05 Exploring the Concept of Unity

10:48 The Negative Effects of Bypassing Individual Experiences

13:55 Finding Balance: Recognizing Interconnectedness and Honoring Individuality

29:08 The Importance of Individualization and Contribution

32:16 Finding Balance Between Individuality and Interconnectedness

44:38 Being Idea Agnostic: Open-Mindedness and Personal Growth

46:07 Integrity: Staying True to Oneself While Exploring Concepts

50:55 Taking Responsibility for Personal Growth and Impact

51:00 Recap of Previous Episode's Question

52:05 Exploring Liminal Space and Paradox

54:36 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of edges and their significance in personal growth and self-expression. They define an edge as the perimeter of where one allows themselves to exist and the extent to which they allow themselves to emote, express, share, or experience. Edges can be different for each person and can vary in their expansiveness. They discuss how edges can either limit or enhance one's experience of joy and other emotions. They also explore the difference between edges and boundaries, with boundaries being more fixed and non-negotiable. The conversation concludes with a discussion on how to expand edges by questioning their serving nature and confronting fears associated with them. In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the concept of edges and how they impact our daily lives. They provide relatable examples of edges, such as small irritations or conflicts, and emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing them. They highlight the need to approach edges with presence and mindfulness, and to make conscious choices instead of reacting on autopilot. They also discuss the significance of self-talk and self-compassion in navigating edges, and the potential for growth and transformation that comes from expanding edges. Overall, they encourage listeners to approach edges with levity, humor, and excitement, and to embrace the magic that lies on the other side.

Keywords

edges, personal growth, self-expression, emotions, joy, boundaries, expansion, fears, edges, presence, mindfulness, conscious choices, self-talk, self-compassion, growth, transformation

Takeaways

• An edge is the perimeter of where one allows themselves to exist and the extent to which they allow themselves to emote, express, share, or experience.
• Edges can either limit or enhance one's experience of joy and other emotions.
• Boundaries are more fixed and non-negotiable, while edges can be expanded and explored.
• To expand edges, it is important to question their serving nature and confront fears associated with them. Edges are the points of discomfort or tension in our lives that offer opportunities for growth and transformation.
• Recognizing and addressing edges requires presence and mindfulness.
• Making conscious choices instead of reacting on autopilot is key to navigating edges effectively.
• Self-talk and self-compassion play a crucial role in expanding edges and creating a positive inner environment.
• Approaching edges with levity, humor, and excitement can make the process more enjoyable and rewarding.
• The magic lies on the other side of the edge, where growth, transformation, and a deeper understanding of oneself can be found.

Sound Bites

"Edges exist to make good better."

"Edges can be explored through sexual practices."

"Edges exist to make good better."

"I get to feel good after that. Like literally everything good comes after that."

"Yeah, out both ends."

"Start with the first step. What is the lowest hanging ripest fruit?"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Question of the Week

01:12 What is an Edge?

23:29 Introduction to Edges

24:20 Everyday Edges and Energy Leaks

24:49 Starting Small and Being Present

25:43 Self-Talk and Self-Compassion

27:33 Presence and Conscious Control

31:52 Navigating Edges in Relationships

35:29 Approaching Edges on a Day-to-Day Basis

43:36 The Power of Edges and the Magic Beyond

44:41 Conclusion and Call to Action

47:01 Outro

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Summary

The conversation explores the meaning of suffering and why we all experience it. It delves into the idea that suffering is a path of transmutation and a catalyst for growth and evolution. The speakers discuss how suffering arises from rejecting paradoxes in life and the importance of accepting and embracing contrasting experiences. They also highlight the danger of avoiding suffering, as it can lead to a low-grade state of constant suffering. The conversation references the story of Prince Siddhartha, who deliberately chose to experience suffering to gain depth and context in his life. Suffering can be a powerful force that leads to personal growth and transformation. It can be an opportunity for self-discovery, emotional regulation, and developing agency over one's own life. Suffering in vain is when one suffers without purpose or meaning, while suffering with meaning is when one chooses to suffer for the sake of a desired outcome or personal growth. By embracing suffering and finding purpose in it, individuals can experience joy and fulfillment.

Keywords

suffering, meaning, transmutation, growth, evolution, paradoxes, contrast, avoidance, constant suffering, Prince Siddhartha, suffering, personal growth, transformation, self-discovery, emotional regulation, agency, purpose, meaning, joy, fulfillment

Takeaways

• Suffering is a path of transmutation and a catalyst for growth and evolution.
• Rejecting paradoxes in life can lead to suffering, as it creates a state of resistance and inability to accept contrasting experiences.
• Avoiding suffering can result in a low-grade state of constant suffering and a lack of fulfillment in life.
• Embracing suffering allows for depth, context, and a more holistic experience of life.
• Deliberately choosing to experience suffering can lead to personal growth and transformation. Suffering can lead to personal growth and transformation
• Suffering in vain is when one suffers without purpose or meaning
• Suffering with meaning is when one chooses to suffer for a desired outcome or personal growth
• Embracing suffering and finding purpose in it can lead to joy and fulfillment

Sound Bites

"Suffering is the path of transmutation, taking experiential lead, walking the path of suffering."

"Suffering gives us context through which to understand the world."

"Accepting paradox becomes frenetic in someone's experience. It feels impossible."

"You're just scared of your own feelings, which means you're scared of yourself."

"Suffering can lead to this beautiful, intimate experience with your internal ecosystem."

"Suffering for the sake of suffering is suffering in vain."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Existential Question

02:57 The Meaning of Suffering

08:07 Avoiding Suffering

12:55 Accepting Paradoxes

26:19 Introduction

29:04 Finding Meaning in Suffering for Personal Growth

36:03 Suffering as an Opportunity for Self-Discovery

44:44 Taking Responsibility for Our Own Happiness

50:27 Suffering as the Liquid State of Transformation

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Summary

Babe Philosophy is a podcast that explores real conversations based on real life experiences and real questions. The hosts, Meli and Liv, approach topics from a philosophical perspective, encouraging listeners to ask questions and think critically. They believe that questions matter more than answers and that the journey of inquiry is essential for personal growth. They revere liminal spaces, embracing the discomfort and uncertainty that comes with growth and change. The podcast aims to create a holistic understanding of life and the human experience, while also infusing a sense of magic and wonder into everyday moments. The hosts invite listeners to participate and share their own questions and experiences.

Takeaways

• Questions matter more than answers
• Embrace and revere liminal spaces
• Approach life with a sense of magic and wonder
• Engage in real conversations based on real experiences
• Encourage critical thinking and personal growth

Sound Bites

"Embracing the Power of Questions"

"Legally Blonde meets Marcus Aurelius"

"Real Conversations, Real Experiences"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Excitement

03:02 First Existential Thoughts as Children

15:32 The Importance of Questions over Answers

22:44 The Purpose of the Podcast

24:26 Embracing Liminal Spaces: Airports and Road Trips

26:07 The Magic of Taking Action and Surrendering

28:26 Practical Magic: Being a Powerful Creator

31:18 Philosophy as Expanding the Aperture on Humanity

43:38 Babe Philosophy: Relatability and Playful Discussions

Keywords

podcast, philosophy, real conversations, real life experiences, questions, critical thinking, personal growth, liminal spaces, discomfort, uncertainty, holistic understanding, magic, wonder

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