Navigating the Emotional Turbulence of Parental Alienation: Episode 155In this episode, host Shelby Milford dives deep into understanding the emotional and physical symptoms children may exhibit as a result of parental alienation. Shelby, drawing from her expertise as a twice-certified life coach specializing in post-traumatic growth, shares personal anecdotes and discusses attachment theory, emotional regulation, and practical tools for alienated parents. Listeners will learn how to create a supportive environment for their children, manage their own mental health, and effectively navigate the complexities of alienated parent-child relationships.00:00 Introduction and Announcements01:21 Today's Topic: Attachment Theory and Child's Health02:13 Personal Health Update and Reflections05:35 Listener Reviews and Feedback08:41 Understanding Children's Symptoms and Guilt10:38 Personal Stories of Seizures and Parenting Challenges23:08 Attachment Theory and Emotional Responses27:58 Understanding Attachment Theory28:54 Child's Response to Alienating Parent30:12 False Self and Emotional Suppression32:27 Transition Periods and Emotional Release34:20 Balancing Blame and Self-Care44:18 Helping Your Child Regulate Emotions48:09 Documenting and Self-Care Strategies55:33 Concluding Thoughts and Encouragement

Understanding and Healing Attachment Styles

In this episode of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford discusses the importance of understanding and healing attachment styles for alienated parents. She explains the different attachment styles - secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized - and how these influence emotional reactions, coping mechanisms, and parent-child relationships, especially in the context of alienation. Shelby emphasizes the significance of developing self-awareness, practicing self-compassion, and seeking supportive relationships. The episode provides actionable steps toward fostering secure attachment and enhancing emotional regulation to improve parent-child interactions and overall well-being for alienated parents.

How Unhealed Trauma Can Lead to Self Sabotage: https://www.beyondthehighroad.com/blog/how-unhealed-trauma-can-lead-to-self-sabotage-in-alienation

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:34 Listener Engagement and Reviews

02:29 Introduction to Attachment Styles

03:08 Understanding Attachment Theory

07:30 Exploring Different Attachment Styles

11:43 Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships

19:59 Personal Experiences with Attachment Styles

34:30 Attachment Styles and Parenting

38:32 Understanding Emotional Regulation

39:05 Collecting Data from Your Past

39:58 Shifting Towards Secure Attachment

40:24 Developing Self-Awareness

41:33 Practicing Self-Compassion

43:42 Engaging in Therapy or Coaching

48:38 Repairing Self-Beliefs

51:42 Building Emotional Regulation Skills

54:14 Seeking Corrective Relationships

01:03:35 Three Behaviors for Secure Attachment

01:12:45 Recap and Final Thoughts

Episode 153: Embracing Impermanence & Change
In this heartfelt episode, Shelby explores the concept of impermanence and the challenges of embracing change, particularly for parents experiencing alienation and ongoing trauma. Drawing from her own journey and client stories, Shelby discusses why we resist change, how that resistance can deepen our pain, and the transformative power of leaning into new realities.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why we resist change, especially after trauma and loss
• The emotional impact of clinging to the past and the illusion of control
• Shelby’s personal story of selling her home and the lessons learned from resisting change
• The cost—emotional, financial, and relational—of staying stuck in resistance
• How embracing change can open doors to growth, healing, and new possibilities
• The importance of developing a growth mindset versus a fixed mindset
• Practical strategies for navigating change: breaking big transitions into small steps, focusing on what you can control, and celebrating small wins
• Practicing self-compassion and challenging fixed beliefs

Notable Quotes:

• “Safety and healing come from acceptance, adaptation, and learning—not from clinging to your past.”
• “Your pain is not going to last forever. Change is inevitable, but so is growth.”
• “The best revenge is success—make the change yours and flourish.”

Actionable Takeaways:

• Break overwhelming changes into manageable steps.
• Focus on areas you can control in your daily life.
• Balance time spent grieving with time spent exploring new possibilities.
• Practice self-compassion and celebrate small victories.
• Challenge yourself to see how change might benefit you, even if it wasn’t your choice.

Connect with Shelby:
If you’re struggling with the effects of alienation and want support in your healing journey, visit: https://www.beyondthehighroad.com/HealAfterParentalAlienation

Navigating Misunderstandings & Being Denied a Voice

Episode 152 discussed the challenges of feeling misunderstood after parental alienation & offers strategies for coping. Shelby shares a personal story about her daughter turning 18 and the subsequent communication struggles they faced. She emphasizes the importance of understanding one's emotions, practicing self-awareness, and not being reactive in emotionally charged situations. Shelby also touches upon the importance of self-compassion and respecting the emotional journey of your loved ones. With practical advice drawn from personal experience, this episode aims to provide encouragement and healing for parents dealing with alienation and the emotional challenges that accompany.

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00:00 Introduction and Welcome

01:00 Feeling Misunderstood: Personal Experience

01:53 Listener Reviews and Feedback

03:40 Upcoming Announcements

04:26 Navigating Communication with My Daughter

05:07 Reflecting on Past Interactions

07:53 The Emotional Impact of Reaching Out

22:16 Managing Emotional Responses

29:08 Facing Old Fears and Anxieties

30:38 Understanding the Source of Emotions

33:23 Navigating Parental Concerns

36:23 Crafting a Thoughtful Response

41:07 The Power of Perception

50:13 Choosing Your Emotional Response

54:51 Final Reflections and Moving Forward

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In episode 151 of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford announces the release of volume four of the podcast's highlights & best clips. In the episode, She shares personal experiences, including her journey of healing and self-discovery following the forced estrangement from her daughter. The podcast addresses the importance of defining problems within one's control, embracing hard truths, rejecting self-sabotaging thoughts, and focusing on creating a fulfilling life despite the challenges of parental alienation. While the episode provides effective strategies for overcoming negative emotions & seeking personal growth; maintaining hope and resilience are discussed in-depth, with Shelby encouraging alienated parents to find purpose & cultivate joy in their lives.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Review

01:21 Volume Four Release Announcement

02:46 Confronting Hard Truths

04:04 Defining the Real Problem

07:51 Personal Accountability and Healing

08:49 The Power of Thoughts and Beliefs

11:20 Navigating Alienation and Trauma

12:59 Taking Responsibility and Making a Plan

17:34 The Importance of Self-Validation

30:27 Understanding Approval: It's Not About You

31:26 Reframing Catastrophic Thinking

32:13 Identifying and Owning Your Emotions

34:03 The Illusion of Control and Vulnerability

37:22 Self-Betrayal and Parental Roles

37:57 The Tragic Reality of Parental Alienation

45:08 Breaking Free from Negative Narratives

57:20 Living Intentionally and Finding Purpose

58:46 No Guarantees and Moving Forward

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Turn Your Pain into Purpose: Healing after Parental Alienation

In the 150th episode of Beyond The High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford, a certified life coach specializing in post-traumatic growth, presents a 'best of' compilation featuring motivational segments for listeners dealing with parental alienation. Shelby shares listener reviews and emphasizes the importance of engaging with the podcast community. She reflects on her personal journey through alienation, discussing the emotional complexities, the necessity of managing one's mindset, and finding resilience amid adversity. Shelby encourages listeners to redefine their identities beyond being victimized parents, embrace the contradictions in their feelings, and strive for personal growth and meaningful living despite the challenges. She underscores the importance of taking action, setting goals, and nurturing unconditional love for their children, even from a distance. Shelby concludes with a philosophical perspective on life, pain, and personal evolution.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

01:18 Listener Reviews and Community Engagement

03:37 Personal Reflections and Challenges

06:22 Managing Emotions and Mindset

10:13 Resilience and Personal Growth

14:32 Taking Responsibility and Moving Forward

18:32 Defining Yourself Beyond Alienation

28:53 Setting Goals and Finding Purpose

31:39 Facing Uncomfortable Truths

32:58 The Unconditional Love of a Parent

34:22 Navigating Teenage Years and Parental Love

35:17 The Power of Giving Love

35:53 Conditional Love and Parenting

37:35 Overcoming Feelings of Being Wronged

38:08 Embracing Struggle and Growth

39:13 The Journey of Self-Acceptance

39:55 Redefining Motherhood and Identity

44:33 The Illusion of Separation

46:59 Living Beyond Pain and Alienation

59:25 The Power of Belief and Identity

Understanding Limerence in the Context of Parental Alienation

In episode 149 of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford delves into the concept of limerence within the context of parental alienation. Shelby explains limerence, describing it as an uncontrollable obsession often influenced by limited or non-reciprocal contact with an object of affection, in this case, one's child. Shelby outlines symptoms, causes, and the interplay of attachment styles, emphasizing the impact of ongoing trauma and loss experienced by alienated parents. She also discusses the parallels between limerence and addiction, noting that addressing underlying emotions and traumas is key to overcoming it. Listeners are encouraged to converse about their personal experiences and consider seeking coaching or counseling as needed.

00:00 Introduction and Announcements

02:47 Understanding Limerence in the Context of Alienation

05:29 Symptoms and Signs of Limerence

16:29 Attachment Styles and Limerence

21:20 The Impact of Limerence on Perception and Reality

24:56 Addressing Limerence and Moving Forward

26:13 Understanding Limerence and Its Effects on the Brain

27:11 Prerequisites and Susceptibility to Limerence

27:51 ADHD and Limerence: The Connection

28:36 Attachment Styles and Limerence

29:35 The Emotional Rollercoaster of Limerence

31:06 Recognizing and Addressing Limerence

33:04 The Impact of Limerence on Relationships

34:35 Breaking Free from Limerence

44:47 The Role of Grief in Overcoming Limerence

48:57 Final Thoughts and Seeking Help

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Brutal Truths About Parental Alienation

In episode number 148 of the Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford discusses six harsh truths about parental alienation that she wishes she had confronted earlier in her journey. Shelby shares her own experiences dealing with alienation and the insights she has gained over the years. She emphasizes the importance of redefining problems in ways that can be controlled, understanding that no one is coming to save you, avoiding the pitfalls of seeking external validation, and the importance of not letting alienation define your identity. Shelby also cautions against getting trapped in drama and highlights the necessity of accepting the uncertainty of future reconciliation with alienated children. This episode offers valuable advice for parents to find stability, meaning, and happiness despite the challenges of alienation.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Planning

01:10 Six Brutal Truths About Parental Alienation

04:31 Most Alienated Parents Are Stuck on the Wrong Problem

15:14 Nobody is Coming to Save You

19:29 Relentless Efforts on Seeking Justice

32:10 Drama is a Trap

38:02 No Guarantee for Future Reconciliation

40:44 Embracing Painful Truths for Growth45:13 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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