We like to think we're making choices about how we live. But most of the time, we're just repeating patterns we've been running for years.

In this episode, I'm joined by Marcy Axelrod, who shares why those patterns are so hard to break and what it actually takes to start showing up differently in this next chapter.

Marcy's work explores how we show up in the world. Today, she introduces a 3-part framework for understanding how we operate—and why most of us are only partially present in our lives.

In this episode, we covered:

• Why most people are operating on patterns they don't even realize

• How decades of routine shape the way we see ourselves

• The difference between "just showing up" and being fully present

• Why stress and fear keep us stuck in old ways of thinking

• The idea that we're always playing multiple roles (not just one identity)

• A simple exercise to rethink who you are beyond your career

Resources

Website: www.ChooseToShowUp.com

Instagram: @MarcyAxelrodArt

Instagram: @MarcyAxelrod

For a lot of men, their social life is their job. So what happens when that job goes away?

In this conversation, Anthony Silard shares what he's learned studying loneliness and relationships—and why so many reach this stage of life without the connections they actually need.

He introduces the "four PRs" framework and how those roles shape identity for decades. The problem is, they leave very little room for friendships outside of work and family.

Once that structure disappears, many men find themselves starting from scratch.

You'll hear about:

• The moment a retired executive tried to go back to the office… and couldn't get in

• Why work relationships often don't carry over after retirement

• The "four PRs" that shape identity (and what they leave out)

• Why men often rely on their partner as their entire social network

• A striking stat on what happens to men vs. women after losing a spouse

• Why some of the loneliest people are surrounded by others

• What leaders do that builds real connection (and why it has nothing to do with confidence)

Resources

Download Tony's free books: theartoflivingfree.org/freehappinessandfriendshipbooks

Available on Amazon: Love and Suffering: Break the Emotional Chains that Prevent You from Experiencing Love

Most people go looking for purpose when they feel lost. J.D. Pincus believes that's not where we should start.

JD is a social psychologist, researcher, and author of The Emotionally Agile Brain. He's spent decades studying what humans actually need and mapped it into a framework that helps explain why people can feel adrift, even after achieving everything they set out to do.

Today, he joins us to talk about those needs and why getting unstuck might start with feeling a little worse before you feel better.

You'll hear about:

• Why people can feel stuck even when life looks fine

• How loss of social connection impacts stability and direction

• Why this transition can be especially challenging for men

• JD's framework of 12 core emotional needs

• Why feeling stuck often comes from unmet needs

• Why purpose doesn't always come first

Resources:

Book: The Emotionally Agile Brain

LinkedIn: J. David Pincus

Website: AgileBrain

We're often told that declining health is just part of getting older. But what if that's not actually true?

In this episode, I'm speaking with Dr. Darren Clair, a physician with over 40 years of experience who has spent the last 25 years helping people take a more proactive approach to their health.

After seeing the limits of a system focused on diagnosing and prescribing, Darren chose a different path. His work centers on lifestyle, education, and helping people stay healthy in the first place.

We'll hear how his perspective evolved over time, what he's learned along the way, and why it's never too late to improve your health.

• Why Darren moved away from traditional medicine
  
  

• How the current system focuses on treating symptoms
  
  

• The role lifestyle plays in long-term health outcomes
  
  

• Why many people don't take action until later in life
  
  

• The difference between prevention and a proactive approach
  
  

• Why better health often feels like gaining something (not giving something up)

Resources:

Dr. Clair's Book: Creating a Life of Vibrance

Facebook: facebook.com/VibranceHealth

Instagram: instagram.com/vibrancehealth

Most of us spend the first half of life building. The second half, if we're paying attention, is when we start asking whether we built the right things.

Rand Selig is back on the show and a lot has changed since his first appearance two years ago. What started as a few early conversations has since grown into 100+ interviews and the continued success of his book Thriving, which he recently narrated as an audiobook.

Rand spent much of his career running his own investment banking firm. Now he's turned his attention to the questions that tend to matter most in life's later chapters: relationships, legacy, and what it looks like to truly live well.

You'll hear about:

How a simple habit made him a better listener (and changed everything)

The self-reflection practice he uses to actually measure his own growth

What finally pushed him to start writing Thriving

Why your purpose doesn't have to be big to be meaningful

The real difference between success and thriving

Why curiosity is one of the best predictors of a good later life

Resources

Website: www.randselig.com
LinkedIn: Connect with Rand

Larry Kesslin spent much of his life chasing success. After leaving corporate America at 29, he built a successful career as an entrepreneur advising business owners across the country.

By most standards, he had freedom, financial stability, and the life he once thought he wanted. Yet something was still missing. In this episode, Larry shares the moments that changed how he sees success.

A volunteer trip in Aspen and a later time in rural Uganda made him question the life he had built. Over time, he realized that chasing success was different from living with purpose.

In this episode:

• How financial insecurity in childhood shaped his drive to succeed
  
  
• The moment at GE that led him to leave corporate life
  
  
• What he learned about happiness while traveling in Africa
  
  
• The difference between success and significance
  
  
• How our belief systems are formed and why they can be unlearned
  
  
• Why aging gives us the chance to question identity

Resources:

Larry on LinkedIn
5-Dots
Joy Molecule

At 25, Guru Yogishivan was surrounded by luxury in the Middle East. He had trained as a martial artist and become a boxing champion. By most standards, he had success.

But as he spent time around people who had money and influence, he noticed that no one seemed free from fear. Whether it was fear of loss, fear of death, or fear of not having enough.

So he began asking the people around him if they were truly happy. That question sent him on a very different path. In this episode, we explore his journey from athlete to monk... and what his search for truth might mean for men entering their next chapter of life.

We discuss:

What happens when success no longer feels like enough

Why your identity is constantly changing

Whether losing your career is actually losing yourself

What 24 minutes a day of inward focus might change

A disciplined daily practice for reconnecting with yourself

Resources:

Book an Ask Yogi Session

YouTube: Indimasi Healing Village

Facebook: Indimas Healing Village

Instagram: Indimasi Healing Village

Whatsapp: +91 62386 00274

Howard Rosenberg had done what many of us were taught to do. He got an education, built a career, and provided for his family. From the outside, it checked every box.

But in his early fifties, a diagnosis of advanced heart disease and emergency quintuple bypass surgery forced him to slow down and take a hard look at the life he had built.

That wake-up call led Howard to begin asking deeper questions about identity, purpose, creativity… and what really sustains us in the second half of life.

We talked about:

How a health wake-up call led to a complete identity shift

Why the way we finish the sentence "I am…" matters

The difference between external success and internal fulfillment

How creativity extends far beyond art

What it really means to consciously create your next chapter

Resources
Howard Rosenberg's Life Coaching

Howard on LinkedIn