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In Part 2 of this two-part conversation on Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, Traci Arieli continues her discussion with Vince Crisostomo, longtime HIV/AIDS activist and Director of Aging Services at the San Francisco AIDS Foundation.

During the episode, Traci and Vince talk about the grief of surviving, the essential role of chosen family, and the emotional labor of holding space for a generation that is aging, and often dying, without the support they need. Vince speaks openly about what dignity looks like at the end of life, the quiet grief carried by long-term survivors, and the ongoing fight against stigma.

Together, they discuss:

• How grief changes when you’re the one left behind
• The erasure of HIV in mainstream end-of-life conversations
• What systems need to do better for those aging with HIV
• The healing power of community, memory, and being witnessed

This episode is not only about HIV, but also about how we show up for each other at the end. It’s a call to honor the full humanity of those who’ve lived through the epidemic, and to ensure they don’t die unseen.

Links/Resources

• Guest Website: San Francisco AIDS Foundation – https://www.sfaf.org
• Host Website – https://www.comfortingclosure.com

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In this first of a two-part episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, Traci Arieli speaks with longtime HIV/AIDS activist Vince Crisostomo about his decades-long journey living with HIV. Diagnosed in the 1980s, Vince shares what it was like to receive a death sentence and then outlive it.

Together, they discuss the early years of the AIDS crisis, the trauma of surviving when so many didn’t, and what end-of-life care looked like then versus now. Vince reflects on caregiving, community, and how the legacy of AIDS continues to shape how we approach death, dying, and grief today.

Part 2 continues the conversation, focusing more deeply on chosen family, grief, and the ongoing gaps in care for people aging with HIV.

Key takeaways from Part 1 include:

• The emotional weight of surviving the early AIDS epidemic
• How caregiving shaped Vince’s view of life and death
• What it meant to be young, gay, and diagnosed in the 1980s
• The evolving meaning of dignity and support at the end of life

This episode aims to honor those lost, uplift those who remain, and invite thoughtful, overdue conversations about HIV and end-of-life care.

Links/Resources

• Guest Website: San Francisco AIDS Foundation – https://www.sfaf.org
• Host: Traci Arieli’s Website – https://www.comfortingclosure.com

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In this episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, Traci Arieli sits down with veteran death doula Sarah Hill to answer the questions people are often too afraid, or too unsure, to ask. Together, they discuss what death doulas do, how they complement hospice care, and the deeply personal ways they support individuals and families through dying, grief, and legacy work.

Whether you're navigating end-of-life decisions, supporting someone you love, or just curious about the doula role, this honest conversation offers guidance and real-life stories.

Key takeaways include:

• What end-of-life doulas do and how they differ from hospice staff
• Why people hire doulas for advance planning, even when they’re not dying
• How doulas hold space during medical aid in dying (MAiD) and voluntary stopping of eating and drinking (VSED)
• The role doulas play in grief, life review, and legacy work
• What it's like to be present at the moment of death

Links/Resources

• Guest: Sarah Hill, East Bay Doula for the Dying – https://www.eastbaydoulaforthedying.com
• Host: Traci Arieli’s Website – https://www.comfortingclosure.com
• National End-of-Life Doula Alliance (NEDA) – https://www.nedalliance.org
• International End of Life Doula Association (INELDA) – https://www.inelda.org
• Academy of Medical Aid in Dying – https://www.acamaid.org
• David Kessler - https://grief.com

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What happens when you're a doctor and still, you can't fix what's happening to your own child?

In this second part of our conversation, Dr. Tasha Faruqui shares what it’s like to live in the in-between. She and her husband, both physicians, did everything they could to find answers for their daughter. Every test. Every specialist. Even a policy change in Congress to access care. And still - no clear diagnosis. No fix.

Together, we talk about how fear shows up in families, how grief starts long before death, and how sometimes, just saying the hard words out loud becomes its own form of courage.

Links/Resources

• Guest: Dr. Tasha Faruqui – https://www.tashafaruqui.com
• Guest Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefaruqui5
• Host: Traci Arieli’s Website – https://www.comfortingclosure.com
• Book: Keep Your Head Up – https://www.tashafaruqui.com/book

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In this episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, host Traci Arieli speaks with Dr. Tasha Faruqui, a pediatrician and mother navigating the complex path of parenting a child in hospice care.

Together, they discuss what it means to live with intention when time is uncertain. Tasha shares her family’s rare medical journey, the emotional landscape of anticipatory grief, and how hospice care at home became an act of deep presence.

Key takeaways include:

• The lived experience of anticipatory grief as both a clinician and a parent
• Challenges navigating pediatric hospice within a system built for adults
• The balance of professional knowledge and personal vulnerability
• How joy and grief can coexist in the same breath

This conversation aims to normalize pediatric end-of-life care, honor the stories of medically complex families, and invite listeners into a deeper understanding of presence, love, and letting go.

Links/Resources

• Guest: Dr. Tasha Faruqui – https://www.tashafaruqui.com
• Guest Instagram Channel: TheFaruqui5
• Host: Traci Arieli’s Website – https://www.comfortingclosure.com

Resources mentioned:

• Book: Keep Your Head Up - https://www.tashafaruqui.com/book
  

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In this episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, Traci Arieli explores what happens after the unthinkable: the death of a child. Joined by Ashley Meyveci, founder of the nonprofit Luke’s Purpose, they discuss the emotional and financial shock grieving families face and the lack of systemic support in those first devastating days.

Ashley shares the heartbreaking story of her son Luke, the unexpected medical complications that led to his death, and how she turned her grief into action. Together, Traci and Ashley talk through the hidden costs of child loss, the overwhelming logistics families are expected to manage while in deep grief, and how Luke’s Purpose helps take that burden off their shoulders.

Key takeaways include:

• Why child loss creates both emotional and financial trauma
• What hospitals and medical staff often miss when a child dies
• The origin and mission of Luke’s Purpose
• How we can show up better for grieving parents and for each other

This episode aims to break the silence around child loss, validate the experiences of grieving families, and normalize open, compassionate conversations about death, trauma, and support.

Links/Resources:

• Guest: Luke’s Purpose – https://www.lukespurpose.org
• Host: Traci Arieli’s Website – https://www.comfortingclosure.com

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In this episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, Traci Arieli sits down with grief counselor and former funeral director Joe Stinson to explore the deeply personal and complex nature of grieving as a family. With over 50 years of experience in deathcare, Joe shares his knowledge and personal journey following the loss of his grandchild, offering a rare perspective on anticipatory grief, complex family dynamics, and how different grieving styles can either divide or unite us.

Together, Traci and Joe discuss the realities of what families go through, before, during, and after a death. They discuss how cultural and religious differences impact grief, why silence can be a powerful tool, and what it truly means to support one another when emotions run high.

Key takeaways include:

• The concept of complex grief and how unresolved losses resurface
• Practical tools families can use to open communication during difficult times
• Why grief isn’t linear, and how to sit with discomfort without judgment
• How family roles, guilt, and misunderstanding can complicate healing and what to do about it

Whether you're a caregiver, professional in the field, or someone navigating your own loss, this episode offers validation, clarity, and encouragement. It's a conversation about making room for every kind of grief and the healing that can begin when we truly listen.

Links/Resources

• Guest: Joe Stinson – Watch Joe's live show Grief Talk with Joe in the Bus on Facebook at www.facebook.com/JoeintheBus
• Host: Traci Arieli’s Website – https://www.comfortingclosure.com
• American Academy of Bereavement – https://www.americanacademyofbereavement.org

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In this episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, end-of-life doula Traci Arieli speaks with Tracey Scheffler, who cared for her mother through the final stages of dementia.

Tracey shares her experience with honesty, vulnerability, and deep love. From emotional exhaustion to boundary-setting, from grief to unexpected moments of connection, her story will resonate with anyone who has ever cared for a loved one. Together, Traci and Tracey explore what it means to show up fully in the face of decline, and how caregivers can tend to themselves along the way.

This conversation offers support, insight, and a reminder that no one has to walk this journey alone.

Links/Resources

• Guest: Tracey Scheffler – https://parentingourparents.info
• Guest on TikTok – https://www.tiktok.com/@parentingourparents
• Host: Traci Arieli’s Website – https://www.comfortingclosure.com

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