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In this episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, Traci Arieli, end-of-life doula and founder of Comforting Closure, explores the reality of caring for a loved one with dementia. Joined by author and end-of-life doula trainer Patty Brennan, the conversation looks closely at the emotional, practical, and relational challenges families face when dementia enters their lives.

Patty Brennan is the Owner and Director of Lifespan Doulas, a training and certification organization for aspiring birth, postpartum, and end-of-life doulas. She is also the author of Into the Fog, a personal account of caring for her mother through dementia.

Together, Traci and Patty discuss what dementia caregiving really looks like inside a family. They talk about fear and uncertainty, navigating residential care, communicating with a loved one whose world is changing, and the many losses that happen long before death. They also address difficult topics such as appetite changes, end-of-life decisions, and how caregivers learn to trust themselves during a time when there are few clear answers.

Key takeaways from this episode include:

• What families often misunderstand about dementia and how it progresses
• How communication shifts when logic no longer works
• The emotional reality of caregiving and the grief that unfolds over time
• Navigating residential care and advocating for a loved one
• Why many caregivers feel unsure about decisions around food, care, and comfort
• What caregivers often wish someone had told them earlier

Whether you are caring for a parent with dementia, supporting a family member, working in healthcare, or simply trying to understand this growing reality, this conversation offers thoughtful insight and reassurance. The goal is not to provide perfect answers, but to help normalize the experience and remind caregivers that they are not alone.

Links/Resources

• Guest: Patty Brennan, Owner and Director of Lifespan Doulas, https://www.lifespan-doulas.com
• Book: Into the Fog by Patty Brennan, https://www.amazon.com/Into-the-Fog-Patty-Brennan
• Host: Traci Arieli’s Website , https://www.comfortingclosure.com
• Additional information about Alzheimer’s disease and dementia statistics referenced in this episode: https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/facts-figures

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In this episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, host Traci Arieli speaks with Molly Pearson, founder of Birthdays From Beyond, about legacy, anticipatory grief, and how relationships can continue after death.

Molly shares how her father’s cancer diagnosis led her to ask him to write birthday cards meant to be opened after he died. That personal experience became Birthdays From Beyond, a project that helps people write letters and cards to pass along love, stories, humor, and guidance to the people they care about.

The conversation covers anticipatory grief, why people struggle to know what to say, and how prompts can make legacy writing feel more manageable. Traci and Molly also discuss continuing bonds after death and why legacy work is less about being remembered and more about staying connected.

Links/Resources

• Guest: Birthdays From Beyond - https://www.birthdaysfrombeyond.com
• Instagram: Birthdays From Beyond - https://www.instagram.com/birthdaysfrombeyond
• Host: Traci Arieli, Comforting Closure - https://www.comfortingclosure.com

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In this episode of Comforting Closure – Conversations with a Death Doula, Traci Arieli talks with Martha Shedden, Co-Founder and President of the National Association of Registered Social Security Analysts (NARSSA).

Together, they discuss how Social Security changes when a spouse becomes ill or passes away, and what families can do to plan ahead. This conversation helps listeners understand how illness, caregiving, and loss affect survivor benefits and what practical steps can make a difference during some of life’s hardest moments.

Key takeaways include:

• What happens to Social Security benefits when a spouse becomes ill or dies.
• How timing affects survivor benefits and long-term financial stability.
• What documents to gather before a crisis.
• How to avoid common mistakes when claiming benefits.
• The emotional and practical value of understanding your options early.

This episode helps normalize conversations around money, planning, and caregiving, especially for families navigating illness, loss, and the realities of aging.

Links/Resources

• Guest: Martha Shedden – www.narssa.org | www.rssa.com
• Host: Traci Arieli’s Website – https://www.comfortingclosure.com
• Social Security Administration – https://www.ssa.gov

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In this episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, Traci Arieli talks with Martha Shedden, Co-Founder and President of the National Association of Registered Social Security Analysts (NARSSA).

Together, they discuss what Social Security really is, how it works, and why it matters to every family. They talk about what Social Security covers beyond retirement, why it’s more stable than people think, and how understanding it can help you plan with less fear and more confidence.

Martha shares information that helps make sense of a system that often feels overwhelming. This conversation is for anyone who wants to plan ahead, support aging parents, or understand how Social Security fits into long-term financial security.

Key takeaways:

• What Social Security actually includes and why it’s more than a retirement check.
• How and when to claim benefits.
• The truth about funding and the “running out” myth.
• Why early planning helps ease stress later.

It’s a clear, grounded look at a system that touches nearly 69 million Americans and one that every family needs to understand.

Links/Resources

• Guest: Martha Shedden – www.narssa.org | www.rssa.com
• Host: Traci Arieli – https://www.comfortingclosure.com
• Social Security Administration – https://www.ssa.gov

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In this episode of Comforting Closure – Conversations with a Death Doula, Traci Arieli sits down with Isabelle Dekkers, a grief counselor, social worker, and artist based in Belgium. Together, they discuss how art can support people through grief when words feel unavailable.

Isabelle shares her personal journey, including how her daughter’s illness shaped her understanding of loss, caregiving, and creative expression. The conversation looks closely at how drawing, painting, repetitive movement, and working with the hands can support the body and mind during grief. Traci and Isabelle also discuss why many people feel pressured to “be okay,” how society limits space for mourning, and how art creates room for honesty, release, and connection.

Key takeaways include how creative expression can help regulate the nervous system, why you do not need to be an artist to benefit from art, and simple ways grieving people can begin creating without fear or judgment. This episode is relevant for caregivers, clinicians, end-of-life professionals, and anyone navigating loss.

Links and Resources:
Guest Website: https://www.isabelledekkers.be
Guest Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whenwordsfailartspeaks
Host Website: https://www.comfortingclosure.com

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In this episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, Traci Arieli explores how adult children can talk with aging parents about senior living, safety, and future care. Joined by senior living consultant and author Shari Ross, they walk through the emotional and practical challenges families face when aging parents want to stay home, fear losing independence, or feel overwhelmed by planning.

Shari introduces her S.I.M.P.L.E. Method, including how to gather information, match the right community, prepare financially and legally, navigate memory care, and support parents with dignity. You will also hear what red flags to watch for, how to reduce guilt, and how to help parents stay engaged after the move.

If you are starting conversations with your own parents, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and tools that make the process easier for everyone.

Links / Resources

Guest:
Website – https://www.seniorlivingmadesimple.com
Book + Workbook – Available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Walmart, and linked from her website
Instagram – @seniorlivingwithshari
Facebook – @SeniorLivingSIMPLE

Host:
Traci Arieli – https://www.comfortingclosure.com

Resources Mentioned:
Red Flags Checklist – available on Shari’s website
S.I.M.P.L.E. Method Workbook – available on Shari’s website and on Amazon

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In this episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, Traci Arieli speaks with fraud prevention expert Doug Shadel, Managing Director of Fraud Prevention Strategies, LLC. Together, they discuss how scammers use emotion, stress, and grief to manipulate even the most careful people, and what practical steps can help protect you and your loved ones.

Doug shares tips based on decades of experience studying fraud and interviewing individuals convicted of fraud. He explains what happens in the brain during moments of stress, why “urgency” is a scammer’s best weapon, and how to slow down and think clearly before responding.

Key takeaways include:
• How stress and grief can lower your defenses.
• The emotional tactics scammers use to build trust.
• How AI, phone, and online scams are evolving.
• Simple steps you can take right now to reduce your risk.
• What families and caregivers can do to help protect older adults.

This episode helps listeners understand how emotion impacts decision-making and offers grounded, practical advice for staying safe.

Links/Resources

• Guest: Doug Shadel – Email: doug@fraudpreventionstrategies.com | LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/doug-shadel-58260810
• Host: Traci Arieli’s Website – https://www.comfortingclosure.com
• Book Mentioned: Dangerous Dialers by Doug Shadel
• AARP Fraud Watch Network – https://www.aarp.org/money/scams-fraud

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In this episode of Comforting Closure - Conversations with a Death Doula, host Traci Arieli is joined by Ashley Mollison from the Palliative Approaches to Care in Aging and Community Health Research Program at the Institute on Aging & Lifelong Health at the University of Victoria. Ashley is also a PhD candidate in the Social Dimensions of Health program at the University of Victoria, and her work centers on equity, exclusion, and structural vulnerability at the end of life.

Ashley has spent years walking alongside people who are dying without housing, without family, and often without a place to go. Together, Traci and Ashley discuss what it really means to die with dignity in systems that weren’t built to serve everyone.

Key takeaways include:

• Why “You can’t die here” is more than a logistical problem
• What happens when palliative care ignores people pushed to the margins
• How harm reduction and outreach workers become informal end-of-life caregivers
• The emotional toll and grief carried by peer support workers
• Why equitable care requires rethinking who caregiving is for and who provides it

This episode invites you to examine the hidden assumptions built into palliative care and offers a powerful reminder: dignity at the end of life is a reflection of how we show up for each other long before that moment comes.

Links/Resources

• Palliative Approaches: https://palliativeapproaches.uvic.ca
• Ashley Mollison’s Profile: https://www.uvic.ca/research/groups/palliative/our-team/uvic-team/profiles/mollison-ashley.php
• Institute on Aging & Lifelong Health: https://www.facebook.com/uvic.institute.on.aging
• Host Traci Arieli’s Website: https://www.comfortingclosure.com

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