In this episode of Conversations with Thomas, Thomas dives into a surprisingly underrated life skill: being satisfyable—learning to feel genuinely content without endlessly chasing “more.” He blends heart, humor, science, and philosophy to explore how gratitude, presence, and boundaries on desire can transform your experience of life.

He unpacks the origins of this concept—from the Stoics, Buddha, and Aristotle’s eudaimonia, to modern psychology’s insights on the hedonic treadmill, dopamine vs. serotonin, neuroplasticity, and awe research—showing that satisfaction is a skill we can cultivate. Interwoven are inspiring quotes from Black transformational women writers like Toni Morrison, bell hooks, Maya Angelou, and Audre Lorde, highlighting the wisdom of finding contentment in simplicity and living fully in the present.

Thomas shares actionable practices for strengthening a satisfyable mindset, including daily gratitude, savoring rituals, “The Pause Practice,” making an “Enough List,” and a comparison detox. Plus, he invites listeners to explore coaching with him to move from constant striving to grounded satisfaction.

Packed with laughter, relatable reflections, and practical guidance, this episode is for anyone ready to embrace a life that’s rich, whole, and—yes—satisfyable AF.

The Transformative Power of Deep Listening

In this episode, Thomas (he/him) invites you into one of the most underrated life skills: listening, not just the polite nod or the distracted scroll, but listening as your accomplice, a transformative act that moves heart, mind and soul.

Drawing from a powerful moment on a Maui, Hawai’i beach with a dream-interpreting psychologist, Thomas shares how truly listening opened a doorway to profound self-understanding and healing. Through neuroscience insights, thoughtful reflections, and quotes from voices like Alok Vaid-Menon and Andrea Gibson, this episode explores how deep listening creates connection, lowers stress, and sparks transformation.

Plus, Thomas offers practical tips on cultivating “listening-only mode”, a mindful practice of focused listening through podcasts, audiobooks, or guided meditations that can give your nervous system a much-needed break.

And here’s a fun twist: did you know these solo podcasts are actually conversations? You’re invited to jump in by sharing your thoughts via the website, social media, or YouTube comments — turning this into a community of listening and growth.

If you’re ready to be truly heard and discover your own next steps, Thomas also introduces his coaching practice where deep listening meets real-life change.

Tune in for a rich, heart-centered conversation that might inspire you to rethink the power of listening — and why it deserves to be your lifelong accomplice.

You’ll hear about:

• 💡 Why “listening without a clipboard” is an act of love and bravery
• ✨ Practical tips to build your “listening muscle” every day
• 🧠 The science of how our brains sync when we truly listen

This isn’t just about hearing words — it’s about listening as an accomplice to healing, connection, and transformation.

Welcome to Season Two of Conversations with Thomas! This season is deeper, braver, and more brilliantly human—where we’ll laugh, reflect, and sit honestly with the lessons that life insists on repeating.

In this first episode, Pop Quizzes from the Universe, we explore the idea that repetition is not failure—it’s refinement. Drawing on wisdom from Mark Nepo, Dr. Esther Perel, and Dr. Thema Bryant, I share why the lessons that circle back aren’t proof you’re behind—they’re proof you’re alive.

We will weave together philosophy, science, spirituality, and a few of my own stories (yes, even the slightly embarrassing ones) to uncover why life keeps handing us the same tests—and how those “pop quizzes” are actually invitations to grow deeper in patience, self-worth, courage, and love.

By the end of this episode, you’ll see repetition differently: not as punishment, but as practice. Not as failure, but as rhythm.

Because growth doesn’t happen in straight or gay lines—it spirals. And each lap around brings us closer to who we really are.

Welcome to Season 2 of Conversations with Thomas—where healing gets louder, truth gets bolder, and your heart gets braver. 💫

This season kicks the door wide open on:
+ Emotional healing and generational transformation
+ Heart-centered coaching and soulful self-discovery
+ Breaking old stories and rewriting your truth
+ Queer wisdom, kindfulness, and radical self-acceptance

Whether you're here for the aha moments, the deep dives, or the laughter that heals, this is your space to grow, reflect, and reconnect with the life you actually deserve.

✨ If you loved Season 1, buckle up. ✨ If you're new, you're fashionably late—and we’re so glad you’re here.

🔔 Subscribe now for bi-weekly episodes on emotional growth, healing conversations, and brave living. Your soul’s been waiting for this.

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In this episode, Thomas dives into the antidote to modern life’s relentless hustle: JOMO, the Joy of Missing Out. He unpacks how the fear of missing out (FOMO) hijacks our brains, triggering stress and anxiety as we compare our behind-the-scenes to everyone else’s highlight reels.

Thomas explores how choosing JOMO is an intentional act of self-care and resistance to the culture of busyness—embracing rest, solitude, and presence without guilt. Drawing on neuroscience, he explains why downtime is essential for emotional health, creativity, and resilience, activating the brain’s “default mode network” to help us reset.

You’ll also discover practical ways to cultivate JOMO in your own life, including mindful boundaries, digital detoxes, and creating rituals that honor your need for quiet and restoration. With wit, wisdom, and a healthy dose of humor, Thomas makes the case that sometimes the best night out is simply staying in.

Ever find yourself five decisions deep into a life that doesn’t feel like yours?

In this episode we dive into the deceptively subtle—but wildly transformative—difference between making decisions and living by choice. (Spoiler: only one of them usually involves panic-sweating while pretending to be fine.)

From neuroscience to spiritual wisdom, childhood stories to adult crossroads, this episode is a love letter to your agency. You’ll learn how to shift from people-pleasing and autopilot into embodied, aligned living—one brave choice at a time.

If you’re tired of performing perfection and ready to start choosing on purpose, this episode will help you reset your internal compass—and remind you that your life is yours to live, not just manage.

As I like to remind my clients, “A decision is what you do. A choice is who you are.”

Let’s start there.

In this episode of Conversations with Thomas, we get intimate with the emotional bruises that won’t stop showing up—the patterns, inner critics, and silent spirals that keep tugging at our peace. Thomas explores the concept of pain points—not just passing discomforts, but persistent sore spots that often hold the key to our healing and personal power.

With warmth, humor, lived truth, and a dose of science (no eye glaze, promise), Thomas walks us through five essential ways to identify your core pain point—by tracing patterns, decoding the inner critic, exploring old narratives, and reclaiming the parts of yourself you’ve been trying to outrun.

You’ll hear:

• A personal story about what a missed text really meant

• A journaling exercise to help you gently meet your pain

• Research from the APA and Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett that reminds us why unhealed pain repeats

• A powerful quote from James Baldwin to anchor you in resilience

Oh—and if you’ve been trying to prove your worth, this episode might just convince you that your power has nothing to do with performance.

Bring your journal. Bring your truth. Nervous giggles welcome.

In this bold, heartfelt, and hilariously honest episode, Thomas dives deep into the powerful realization that your truth doesn’t need to be applauded to be valid.

With wisdom, wit, and a touch of science, he unpacks how approval-seeking can quietly hijack your identity—and what it really costs when you silence your truth to fit in.

Drawing from his memoir Little Fag, Thomas shares a raw story of growing up gay in a world that demanded perfection, and the freedom he found when he finally chose authenticity over approval.

You’ll also get a 5-question “Approval Inventory,” a truth-telling daily practice, and a gentle but fierce reminder that living your truth is one of the most radical acts of self-love.

This is your permission slip to stop performing and start breathing.