Episodios

  • S23E3: Commonly Misused Psychology Words and What to Use Instead

    S23E3: Commonly Misused Psychology Words and What to Use Instead
    Jul 19 2024
    Hey lady! Have you ever been gaslit and traumatized by a toxic, narcissistic so-and-so who abused your trust, violated your boundaries, and caused you to doubt yourself? Does that sentence trigger you? Well, if it does then tune in to this week’s episode so Dr. Dom and Terri can help take the sting out of those words and give you the context around what certain terms mean so you can accurately assess and process events in your life.The Internet is a wonderful tool, but certain words and phrases can catch on and become buzzy and slowly their meaning can become distorted. This week, Terri and Dr. Dom identify terms that are trendy and provide accurate definitions and examples so that you don’t confuse lovebombing with something more benign. And, if you want to dive deeper into some of these concepts check out these previous episodes: ✓ S10E2: Is Your Partner a Narcissist? Diving into Dr. Ramani Durvasula's Narcissism Quiz✓ S10E3: How to Finally Leave Your Narcissistic Partner with Dr. Ramani Durvasula✓ S11E1: Getting Back to Dating After a Toxic Relationship✓ S17E3: What Gaslighting, Red Flags, and, Manipulation Sound Like✓ S17E4: How to Stand Your Ground and Hold Gaslighters Accountable✓ S23E1: Trauma Bonding: Protecting Yourself From Unhealthy RelationshipsWords to Use Instead:1. Gaslighting→ Manipulating, lying2. Toxic→ Unhealthy, difficult3. Traumatized→ Upset, embarrassed4. Triggered→ Activated, reminded5. Narcissist→ Selfish, self-centered6. Boundaries → Limit, rule, guidelineQuote of the Day:“Language is the road map of a culture. It tells you where its people come from and where they are going.” – Rita Mae Brown Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com
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    1 h y 17 m
  • S23E2: Reclaiming Our Time with Ashley Menzies Babatunde

    S23E2: Reclaiming Our Time with Ashley Menzies Babatunde
    Jul 12 2024
    Hey lady! Doesn’t it seem like 2024 took off in a full sprint? This year has moved rather quickly, which is why this week Terri and Dr. Dom invite Ashley Menzies Babatunde, host of the No Straight Path podcast, to discuss the power of the pause, and why honoring the moments when life slows you down can be your biggest asset and opportunity to find and strengthen your authentic self. Ashley shares her inspirational story of advocating for herself after a major life event showed her the beauty in her present, albeit difficult, circumstance so that she could create a life rich with meaning. Her decision to embrace where her life took her next with curiosity and wonder opened possibilities that were better than she could have imagined. Join Dr. Dom and Terri for a motivating conversation about finding the blessings and beauty in your life stage.

    Quote of the Day:
    "The pauses in life taught me how to live." – Ashley Menzies Babatunde

    Where to find Ashley Menzies Babatunde:
    Website: ashleymenzies.com
    Podcast: No Straight Path
    Instagram: @ms_menzies
    Instagram: @no_straight_path
    LinkedIn: Ashley Menzies

    Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
    Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

    Resources:
    Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
    Branding with Terri Melanin and Mental Health
    Therapy for Black Girls
    Psychology Today
    Therapy for QPOC

    Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
    Instagram: @herspacepodcast
    Facebook: @herspacepodcast
    Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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    52 m
  • S23E1: Trauma Bonding: Protecting Yourself From Unhealthy Relationships

    S23E1: Trauma Bonding: Protecting Yourself From Unhealthy Relationships
    Jul 5 2024
    Hey lady! This week, Dr. Dom and Terri step in their bag and talk about the tender topic of trauma bonding and why it can cause serious harm to you if you let it go unchecked. What is trauma bonding? Social media has a way of amplifying new trends and concepts, but sometimes those new concepts are buzzy but inaccurate. Dr. Dom and Terri delve into what trauma bonding actually is so that you have a framework of how to navigate situations where the potential for harm is high. Break out your Cultivating H.E.R. Space journal, located in the Cultivating H.E.R. Space shop, and create a safe space for you to identify the areas where you can heal so that those who aim to trauma bond with you have nowhere to hook into you. And, remember take care and go at a pace that feels supportive while you listen – we love you, lady!

    Quote of the Day:
    "Our virtues are wrapped inside of our limitations. It is only when we are in close proximity to others that we begin to intimately explore the boundaries of our virtues by slamming into our limitations."
    – Resmaa Menakem

    Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
    Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

    Resources:
    Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice Branding with Terri
    Melanin and Mental Health
    Therapy for Black Girls
    Psychology Today
    Therapy for QPOC

    Where to find us:
    Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
    Instagram: @herspacepodcast
    Facebook: @herspacepodcast
    Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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    1 h y 5 m
  • S22E13: You Are What You Attract: Aligning Your Beliefs with Your Desired Reality

    S22E13: You Are What You Attract: Aligning Your Beliefs with Your Desired Reality
    Jun 28 2024
    Hey lady! Have you ever heard the saying you are who you say you are? Well, this week Terri and Dr. Dom dive deep into the power of our thoughts and what we say and why having a healthy relationship with both is the key to living the life of your wildest dreams. Dr. Dom and Terri have tips on how to get to the root of what’s blocking you from living your most fulfilled life. Rewiring your brain through positive self-talk is a major undertaking, but the reward is a clear vision of who you are authentically and worth the work involved. Grab your Cultivating H.E.R. Space journal and join in this interactive episode. Tap in with us on Instagram and let us know how you're doing the work to manifest your best life!

    Techniques to Change Beliefs
    1. Cognitive restructuring: Identifying negative thoughts, challenging their validity, and replacing them with positive, realistic thoughts.
    2. Affirmations and positive self-talk: Affirmations are powerful in reprogramming the subconscious mind and provide examples of effective affirmations.
    3. Visualization and mental rehearsal: Visualizing desired outcomes can reinforce new beliefs and increase motivation.

    Practical Tips and Exercises: Daily practices to reinforce new, empowering beliefs
    1. Start each day with positive affirmations.
    2. Keep a gratitude journal to focus on positive aspects of life.
    3. Surround yourself with supportive and positive influences.
    4. Practice patience and be persistent as changing deeply held beliefs takes time and effort.

    Quote of the Day:
    “Life is about the management of energy, where you place your attention, is where you place your energy."
    – Dr. Joe Dispenza

    Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
    Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

    Resources:
    Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
    Branding with Terri
    Melanin and Mental Health
    Therapy for Black Girls
    Psychology Today
    Therapy for QPOC

    Where to find us:
    Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
    Instagram: @herspacepodcast
    Facebook: @herspacepodcast
    Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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    1 h y 5 m
  • S22E12: Never Have I Ever: 6 Powerful Insights for Decision-Making

    S22E12: Never Have I Ever: 6 Powerful Insights for Decision-Making
    Jun 21 2024
    Hey lady! This week it’s game time! That’s right, this week Dr. Dom and Terri play the classic game “Never Have I Ever” as a way to discuss their decision-making processes and how they keep a growth mindset in their self-development toolbelt. Life is full of lessons and can be a beautiful adventure if you allow yourself to apply them. So, how are you adding dimension and color to your story? And, how can you expand your point-of-view in a way that removes judgment and expands your capacity to have a psychologically rich experience?Terri and Dr. Dom offer powerful insights for increasing your ability to make solid decisions, but they spill hot tea in the Aftershow about where some of those decisions have taken them. Check them out on Patreon! 1. Embrace New Experiences "Never have I ever" moments often highlight things we've never tried. Step out of your comfort zones and try new activities. Lesson: Life is enriched by new experiences. Don’t be afraid to try something new, even if it seems daunting at first.2. Learn from Missed Opportunities Reflect on things you haven’t done and consider why. Was it fear, lack of opportunity, or something else? Lesson: Understanding the reasons behind your "never" moments can provide insight and help you overcome barriers in the future.3. Value of Shared Experiences Sharing “Never Have I Ever” stories can foster connections and understanding. It can be surprising to see how much you have in common with others. Lesson: Shared experiences, even those you haven't had yet, can bring people together and create a sense of community.4. Growth Through Challenges Identify times when trying something new led to personal growth or overcoming a challenge. Lesson: Challenging yourself to try new things, even if they’re outside your comfort zone, can lead to significant personal growth.5. Appreciate Individual Journeys Everyone's list of "Never Have I Ever" will be different. Appreciate and respect each person's unique journey. Lesson: Everyone’s life path is unique, and that's what makes our stories rich and diverse.6. Reflect on the Past, Plan for the Future Reflect on things you’ve never done and consider making a list of things you’d like to try in the future. Lesson: Reflecting on the past can help set meaningful goals for the future.Quote of the Day:"I don't have to be perfect. All I have to do is show up and enjoy the messy, imperfect, and beautiful journey of my life." — Kerry Washington Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com
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    51 m
  • S22E11: A Fresh Perspective on the 5 Love Languages

    S22E11: A Fresh Perspective on the 5 Love Languages
    Jun 14 2024
    Hey lady! Do you know what your love language is? You know, the behaviors and actions that make you feel heard, seen, and understood? This week, Terri and Dr. Dom delve into the popular book by Gary Chapman to discuss how they express love and receive love; and what these concepts mean in modern-day relationships.

    The dynamic duo explore their quiz results and compares those results to when they initially took the quiz to measure their growth as people. They also reflect on how knowing their love languages and any changes over time help them navigate their relationships. Understanding your love language can be useful in how you show up for others and most importantly how you show up for yourself. In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri share their insights on the nuances that can help you amplify how you love your partner, your friendships, and your most important relationship – the one with yourself! They also offer strategies to help you communicate how you feel loved to those most important to you. Tap in!

    Quote of the Day:
    "Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place"
    — Zora Neale Hurston

    Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
    Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

    Resources:
    Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
    Branding with Terri
    Melanin and Mental Health
    Therapy for Black Girls
    Psychology Today
    Therapy for QPOC

    Where to find us:
    Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
    Instagram: @herspacepodcast
    Facebook: @herspacepodcast
    Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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    58 m
  • S22E10: Literacy Matters with Byron Dean Tolson

    S22E10: Literacy Matters with Byron Dean Tolson
    Jun 7 2024
    Lady! This week Dr. Dom and Terri shine some light on an important topic that impacts our society. Byron Dean Tolson is a former NBA player with an inspiring story of overcoming odds and never giving up on your dreams. Dean shares his journey of leaving the only career he knew with a significant deficit. At the age of 32-years-old, he still could not read.

    Illiteracy is a nationwide problem that handicaps the quality of life for the nearly 1 in 4 Americans who live with the condition. This timely episode explores the importance of literacy, how you can increase your desire to become more literate, and how you can help the young people in your life develop a lifelong love of learning! Tune in for some impactful tips to help you become more informed and think critically about the world you live in. Knowledge is power so tune in today’s episode!

    Quote of the Day:
    "You only fail if you quit and give up."
    – Dean Tolson

    Where to find Dean Tolson:
    Website: Dean Tolson
    Book: Power Forward
    Instagram: @dean_tolson
    Twitter: @dean_tolson
    Facebook: Dean Tolson

    Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
    Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

    Resources:
    Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
    Branding with Terri
    Melanin and Mental Health
    Therapy for Black Girls
    Psychology Today
    Therapy for QPOC

    Where to find us:
    Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
    Instagram: @herspacepodcast
    Facebook: @herspacepodcast
    Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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    51 m
  • S22E9: Journeying ACross Generations with Tiffany Cross

    S22E9: Journeying ACross Generations with Tiffany Cross
    May 31 2024
    Hey lady! This week, Dr. Dom and Terri take you on a journey with their guest, lauded journalist Tiffany D. Cross, as she explores the richness of Black women's relationships with each other across generations. In her new podcast ACross Generations with Tiffany Cross, the host gathers women older and younger than her to discuss their life experiences and find the thread that ties us all together.

    Cross uses her storytelling skills and keen insight to offer gems for women to hold onto as they navigate their journeys. In this episode, though, Cross gives game on how women need to show up and move to make meaningful and impactful connections that can take them far in life. It doesn’t matter where you perceive yourself in your life, we could all use some straight talk from a straight shooter sometimes.

    So, girlfriend, tune in and find out some of the major keys Tiffany shares to tighten up your professional image and go out there and do the damn thing! You got this!

    Quote of the Day:
    "The journey to womanhood is precious and the beauty of the bruises shapes us and our choices make us."
    – Tiffany D. Cross

    Where to find Tiffany D. Cross:
    Website: Tiffany D. Cross
    Podcast: ACross Generations with Tiffany Cross
    Instagram: @tiffanydcross
    Twitter: @Tiffanydcross
    Facebook: Tiffany D. Cross
    LinkedIn: Tiffany D. Cross

    Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri
    Cultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary

    Resources:
    Dr. Dom’s Therapy Practice
    Branding with Terri
    Melanin and Mental Health
    Therapy for Black Girls
    Psychology Today
    Therapy for QPOC

    Where to find us:
    Twitter: @HERspacepodcast
    Instagram: @herspacepodcast
    Facebook: @herspacepodcast
    Website: cultivatingherspace.com
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    52 m