Episodios

  • Trailer: S2 Shemiras Einayim
    Feb 18 2025

    COMING SOON: The battle for your eyes is real. The power to choose is yours.

    https://realjudaism.org/ShemirasEinayim

    Shemiras Einayim with Rabbi Ari Klapper returns for Series 2 – diving deeper than ever into the raw challenges of guarding your eyes in today's digital age. No apologetics. No judgment. Just honest, practical wisdom for real-life struggles.


    From smartphones to street encounters. From internal battles to external pressures. We're tackling the questions you're afraid to ask and the daily tests you face. Rabbi Klapper brings clarity, understanding, and practical tools to help you navigate these challenges while maintaining your dignity and spiritual growth.


    This isn't just another mussar series. This is your guide to building real strength and finding true fulfillment in a world of constant visual temptation.


    New episodes drop every two weeks starting 19th Feb 2025.


    Real struggles. Real solutions. Real growth. Real Judaism.


    Shemiras Einayim Series 2 – Because your battle matters.

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  • Ep. 8 - Series Finale - Introduction to Shalom Bayis
    Sep 29 2024

    Marriage isn’t a continuation of dating — it’s a different world. Rabbi Klapper explains the essential “switch” every engaged person must make: moving from a life of mostly-me to one that is fundamentally “us.” The engagement sparkle can mask the hard reality that daily married life requires deep, sustained effort: shifting priorities, learning to care about things that don’t naturally move you, and accepting that many small slights (dirty socks, missed calls, a forgotten expectation) are really tests of consideration. He unpacks the ancient pairing of matzah (found, settled) vs motzah (still searching) to show why wholehearted commitment — not hedging or “let’s try it” ambivalence — is the strongest protection against future heartbreak.

    This episode is a practical primer for engaged couples and their mentors. Rabbi Klapper gives concrete guidance: cultivate a rabbinic mentor, set realistic expectations for the engagement period, practice explicit communication instead of mind-reading, and deliberately reprioritize goals so the marriage’s needs come first. He stresses that many “common sense” shalom bayis techniques are deceptively hard in practice and require rehearsal — humility, vulnerability, and steady daily acts of care. If you want a marriage that lasts and grows, treat the engagement and first year as training for lifelong partnership, not as an extended honeymoon.

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  • Ep. 7 - Engagement
    Sep 13 2024

    Can three months make — or unmake — a life together? Rabbi Klapper warns that the engagement period is a precarious, electric time: joyful and necessary, yet full of potholes. In this episode he explains why engagement is not marriage (kiddushin happens only with the ring), why too long a liminal stretch invites bad habits and illicit shortcuts, and why the right balance of preparation, boundaries, and rabbinic guidance protects both the couple and their future home. He unpacks practical needs (apartment, basics, halachic learning) alongside spiritual essentials, and reminds us of Rav Shach’s wry point about keeping the period short so the nisayon is minimized.

    This is a roadmap for engaged couples: choose a sensible timeline, set real tasks (spiritual study, household basics, mentors), and make a plan to protect kedushah — emotionally, physically, and legally. Rabbi Klapper stresses one universal rule: talk to someone who knows you; personalized hadrachah prevents generic mistakes. If you’re engaged or advising one, use this episode as a checklist: shorten what can be shortened, prepare what must be prepared, and make the engagement a focused bridge — not a dangerous substitute — on the way to building a Torah home.

    Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!


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  • Ep. 6 - The Second Date and Beyond
    Aug 24 2024

    When does “I like them” become “I can marry them”? Rabbi Klapper opens this episode by asking a simple but urgent question: how many dates — and what kind of knowing — does it really take before you should consider engagement? He walks listeners through a clear, practical rhythm: use the first date to see if you can get along; use the second date to relax the conversation and begin surfacing hashkafic and practical priorities; treat the third date as the structural checkpoint where attraction, personality, and worldview should mostly line up. Rabbi Klapper stresses that dating without focus easily becomes endless socializing — and that emotional bonds formed too early can blind us to deal-breaking differences. He urges every dater to get honest guidance from a mentor or rebbe: a careful conversation with someone who knows you will help you see whether your hesitation is real concern or just understandable fear.

    The takeaway is both firm and compassionate. Don’t date forever — set benchmarks: a moderate level of attraction, a real ease in personality, and roughly 90–95% clarity on hashkafah by the third date (if not, push for focused follow-ups). Build trust deliberately — small acts of vulnerability, checked by consistency — and always run big concerns past a wise, experienced adviser. If you leave each date with clearer answers instead of more confusion, you’re moving correctly; if not, slow down, ask for counsel, or kindly step away. This episode teaches how to date with intention so attraction leads to a grounded, lasting home — not just another good time.

    Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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  • Ep. 5 - The First Date
    Aug 7 2024

    What is the point of a first date — to interrogate, to impress, or simply to see if you can be together? Rabbi Klapper opens this episode by reminding listeners that the first date has a clear, humble purpose: discover whether two people can get along. It’s not a job interview, nor a performance; it’s an opportunity to show your best self and to listen. Dress respectfully, choose a quiet place that invites conversation, and bring a short, interesting topic you can talk about — then let the other person respond. Avoid rapid-fire questioning or distractions (movies, sports events) that defeat the point: the goal is a light, honest exchange that reveals personality and basic compatibility.

    By the end of that first meeting you should have three practical answers: a moderate level of attraction, a pleasant feeling about personality, and no immediate deal-breaker on worldview. If those boxes are checked, give it a second date where, now that you’re more relaxed, you can start edging toward the deeper questions of hashkafah and life-direction. Rabbi Klapper’s takeaway is both simple and rigorous: date with intention — don’t rush, don’t ghost, and don’t weaponize chemistry — and treat the first date as the first step in a disciplined, honest path toward marriage. If it’s promising, invest the time; if not, move on respectfully.

    Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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  • Ep. 4 - Representing Yourself and Checking Out the Other
    Jul 12 2024

    Who has the right to ask about your life — and what must you honestly be ready to answer?

    Rabbi Klapper begins by pulling back the curtain on the shidduch-checking process: resumes, shadchanim, references, and phone calls that feel like mini-interrogations. He warns against being boxed by a polarized system and shows why clarity about your hashkafah and life direction must come first. Parents, shadchanim, and references each bring their own viewpoint (and sometimes their own wish-list), so you need to know what matters to you and make sure others represent you accurately. Rabbi Klapper uses a short but sharp story about Rav Shach to remind us that some questions are about the parent’s priorities, not the child’s — and that honesty on basic points (smoking, davening, work/learning habits) saves time and heartbreak.

    Practically: treat the resume and references as tools, not final judgments. Before you say “yes” to a date, prepare a clear one-paragraph statement of your goals and hand your shadchan 2–3 trusted references (including one independent source if possible). Ask your shadchan to confirm one concrete fact (e.g., waking for Shacharis, smoking, or day-to-day reliability) and don’t hide issues that must be discussed later in private. The process may feel invasive, but used wisely it protects both hearts and time — and helps make sure the match is truly matim.

    Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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  • Ep. 3 - Priorities In Marriage
    Jun 29 2024

    Can a spouse ever be your cure — or will that expectation break the marriage?

    Rabbi Klapper opens this episode by insisting that dating must begin with clear hashkafah: know where you’re going before you invite someone to walk beside you. He explains the practical order that produces lasting homes — first, shared Torah goals and life direction; second, physical attraction; third, personality and the slow work of getting along — and why flipping that order leaves big rocks out of the jar. Rabbi Klapper also warns against expecting marriage to fix deep problems: “marriage is not a hospital,” and growth should begin before engagement. He names two concrete spiritual dangers of premature physical intimacy — the halachic prohibition of touching (Shomer Negiah) and the seductive sweetness of transgression captured in Chazal’s phrase “mayim genuvim yimtokum” — both of which can blind judgment and hollow out future joy.


    The takeaways are direct and doable. Before you date seriously, write down your hashkafic goals and share them with a shadchan or mentor; pick three concrete personal improvements and show steady progress (weeks, not days) so you aren’t promising change “after the wedding.” Keep the dating process in the right order: clarify hashkafah on the early dates, allow attraction to emerge naturally, and give personality the time it needs to reveal itself — and maintain Shomer Negiah throughout. Treat yeshiva or a growth community as the place to repair and grow, not your future spouse. Do this, Rabbi Klapper says, and attraction becomes fertile ground for a deep, lasting partnership instead of a cover for unresolved weakness.


    Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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  • Ep. 2 - Building Yourself Up
    Jun 21 2024

    Will marrying someone else heal the parts of you you’ve been avoiding? This episode pushes back on the romantic myth that a spouse will “complete” or cure us. Marriage is sacred, but it is not a clinic. If you carry habits, addictions, or basic responsibilities you haven’t learned to manage—waking for Shacharis, keeping Shabbos, or quitting a destructive habit—promising to change “after the wedding” usually fails. Instead the podcast argues that honest inner motivation must come first: real change comes from within, not from the temporary sparkle of engagement. We follow the practical logic Rabbi Klapper gives—set measurable goals, show sustained growth over time (not a week or two, but multiple weeks), and test your resolve before you commit—because a spouse deserves a leader who is already working and growing, not someone who expects marriage to do the labor.

    The takeaway is both compassionate and demanding. Make a short plan of the three personal changes you must prove to yourself, commit to concrete benchmarks (five–six weeks minimum), and review progress with a mentor or trusted friend. Treat yeshiva or a growth community like a “hospital” where you can be honest, fall, and recover; don’t use your future spouse as your rehab. When you date from a place of proven growth and clear goals, attraction becomes fertile ground for a deep, lasting partnership—not a cover for unresolved weakness.

    Hosted by Rabbi Ari Klapper and produced by Eli Podcast Productions, this episode is part of the Real Judaism series, available on RealJudaism.org. Don’t forget to subscribe and share to stay connected with our daily lessons and timeless Torah insights!

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