In this episode, I am joined by Dr Sophie Brock, a Motherhood Studies Sociologist and Mother who offers education on the sociology of motherhood and how our broader society shapes our experience as mothers.

Here's a summary of the main points discussed in this episode:

• Sense of Self and Identity: Mothers of multiples, particularly those with children who may have additional needs, grapple with the challenge of maintaining their sense of identity outside of their role as mothers.
• Grief and Othering: There's a grieving process experienced by mothers of multiples, especially when their experiences don't align with the idealised version of motherhood. This can be compounded if one or more of their children have disabilities. Mothers may feel othered within the community of mothers of multiples, particularly if their children have additional needs.
• Individualization Theory: The individualization theory, which prioritizes individualism and independence, doesn't fit well for mothers, especially those caring for children with disabilities. It invisibilises socioeconomics, trauma, and the realities of marginalisation and privilege. Instead, interdependence and vulnerability are important aspects of human relationships and should be acknowledged.
• The Good Enough Mother: The concept of the good enough mother, coined by Donald Winnicott, emphasizes that there's no perfect mother. It's about embracing the reality of our humanity and acknowledging that tolerable failures are beneficial for both mothers and children. We discuss how mothers can examine their internalised ideals of motherhood and define motherhood on their own terms.
• Dealing with Judgments: Mothers, including those of multiples, often face judgment from others and themselves. Building tolerance for discomfort, connecting with personal values, and disentangling social scripts can help mothers navigate these judgments and find acceptance in their own mothering journey.

How to connect with Dr Sophie Brock:
Website:
https://drsophiebrock.com/
Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/drsophiebrock/
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/drsophiebrock/

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