What is YOUR long term vision for yourself? And are you living a life that is aiming in that direction?

Today’s episode is inspired by the book, The Infinite Game, by Simon Sinek, and I challenge you to ask yourself what is your big picture? After getting through medical school, residency (“finite games” with a beginning, middle and end), we find ourselves launched into the world, and we may lack clear direction for what we want for our lives. Sure, maybe a family, a job, etc, but let’s get more granular.

When we are clear on who we are, what we want, how we want to use our gifts and talents, it’s easier to make decisions that move us in the direction we want to travel. Contrast this with “going through the motions,” day-in and day-out, feeling like you are stuck in Groundhog’s Day (remember that gem from the early 90s?).

Bring your journal and your pen for this one, listen a few times, and find out what YOUR infinite game looks like.

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Do you struggle when you feel bored? Does it drive you crazy, because you want to rest, but your brain tells you to DO stuff? Creates chores out of nowhere?

Boredom/restlessness is what I am calling an "In-Between" emotion. It sits between the usual feeling of busy-ness/hustle/overwhelm and calm. When our bodies and minds are used to being busy and overwhelmed all the time, we think that if we don't have any tasks, if we get everything "done," then we will feel calm. But it's not true, is it? Usually we feel a restlessness, because we are used to DOING, and when there is no stuff of DO, we don't know how to respond.

This week I tackle boredom, along with 2 other "In-Between" emotions, resentment and anger. Listen in, and see if you agree.

Alright, full disclosure, didn't plug in my mic (though audio recorded on my other device) AND had to edit out a bunch of awkward pauses. It seems fine....

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The pandemic changed the lives of all physicians; generally not for the better.

For my friend, Dr Sarah Stombaugh, a fellow Family and Obesity Medicine Physician, the pandemic catalyzed a dramatic pivot in her career that she never imagined. Join us to hear more about her journey from employed physician who had to advocate to protect her pregnancy to the owner of her own Obesity Medicine Direct Care Practice.

We talk about how our own desires for healing burnout lead us to coaching, and how that journey empowered us to create healthier, more boundaried lives as practicing physicians. We share how the practice of medicine leads to bad health habits, and how to start to make changes.

Dr. Sarah Stombaugh is a family medicine physician and diplomate of the American
Board of Obesity Medicine. Graduating from Creighton University Medical School and
completing her family medicine residency at University of Chicago, Dr. Stombaugh
practiced outpatient primary care in Evanston, Illinois before moving to Charlottesville,
Virginia with her family.

Upon moving to Charlottesville, Dr. Stombaugh opened a private practice weight loss
clinic, in which she sees patients in-person at her downtown Charlottesville office and
by telemedicine throughout the states of Virginia and Illinois.

In addition to her clinical work, Dr. Stombaugh is the host of the "Conquer Your Weight"
podcast. Through this platform, she shares valuable insights, expert opinions, and
practical advice on weight management, contributing to the well-being of a broader
audience.

Dr. Stombaugh believes in empowering both individuals and the medical community in
order to promote an evidence-based approach to the treatment of obesity.

To learn more about Dr Stombaugh, find her in the following places:
www.SarahStombaughMD.com
Instagram.com/Sarah Stombaugh, MD

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

Ok friends, here's the list:

10 Shifts That Make My Life Easier:

1. Take 2 minutes now to make it easier later
2. Simplify by deciding once
3. Decide on your own internal policies
4. Don’t overload other people (don’t give others constipation)
5. Allow travel (transition) time
6. Known when good enough is good enough
7. Speak up if you care/have an opinion
8. Trust yourself
9. Write it down
10. You are the asset (protect the asset)

Bonus: “I’m not their mom”

That is all.

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

I really had a hard time naming this episode...a more appropriate title might have been "Those Patients Who Annoy You Just By Showing Up on Your Schedule or By Their Chief Complaint"

And yet, that wouldn't have captured it quite either.

Today we are talking about the experience of have anticipatory emotions (annoyance, anger, dread, worry) over particular patients, particular chief complaints or just more generic anticipatory anxiety/dread about your upcoming shift. We've all been there.

Join me as I use some coaching tools on myself in order to get unstuck. Let's do this together!

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

I'm weirdly excited to share this episode with you because today I am joined by Dr Christy Gibson, a fellow Family Medicine Physician, Speaker and Change Agent who is on the forefront of advocating for better trauma education for clinicians, and working as a trauma clinician herself.

Join us as we dive into how we as physicians experience trauma throughout our work in healthcare, and how we can start to develop tools that not only help our patients, but more critically help ourselves. You don't want to miss this episode!

Dr. Christine Gibson is a family physician, trauma therapist, and author of The Modern Trauma Toolkit. You can find her on TiKTok with the handle TikTokTraumaDoc with >130k followers. Dr. Gibson has a passion for Health Equity and systems change, having created a residency and run programs for and with equity-deserving communities. She runs an international non-profit called the Global Familymed Foundation and a company where she trains professionals on how to manage workplace trauma - Safer Spaces Training (and The Belong Foundation).

Book: The Modern Trauma Toolkit

Company: Safer Spaces Training

Website: ModernTrauma.com | ChristineGibson.net | SaferSpacesTraining.com

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tiktoktraumadoc?lang=en

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gibtrotterMD

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christine-gibson-md/

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

What gets you activated (not in a good way?)

Today, we're diving into reconnecting with our human emotions and mammalian nervous systems to recognized when we feel triggered, activated, dysregulated. Please note this is not a dive into deep trauma responses; we are focusing on times when we have a bigger response to something (words someone has said, a text we received, etc) than we would like. Our default is usually to shove down the feelings, thinking it will go away, but of course we know it doesn't.

Join me (from my car!) as I share some recent experiences I have, and some ways that you can learn to help yourself in similar situations.

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.

Alright, let's settle this right now. We could jump right to feeling like terrible people for feeling overwhelmed and resentful by the work that we do providing care to other humans. We're going to skip that.

It's really NOT about the patients.

All humans need medical care at some point, and we have chosen to provide said care.

And yet, few of us realize the COST of doing this until we are in the thick of it. And for most of us, it isn't that we don't like or value the work that we do.

But, every time we see a patient we:
1.) Need to be "on," thoughtful and focused, even if we were up all night
2.) Have to write an essay describing the encounter
3.) Are greeted by at least one other human who has some feelings and some expectations and usually some distress about being there needing care
4.) Might get bombarded with messages, chats, knocks on the door and "urgent paperwork" so Tommy can go to camp

In this episode, I show you the reasons why you feel the way that you do if you both love taking care of patients AND dread going to work as a physician. And, let's talk about how to make this better.

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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.