Episodios

  • "Shame Dissolves In Safe Spaces" with Dabaco Sunset
    Oct 12 2025

    Dabaco Sunset is a queer-affirming psychotherapist and embodiment facilitator in Sydney, specializing in Gestalt Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Embodied Counselling to help LGBTQ+ individuals and clients with alternative relating styles like ethical non-monogamy.

    Dabaco practices In the inner-west in Sydney at Sunset Psychotherapy.

    In this episode Dabaco opens up about growing up bisexual and pansexual, his time in Berlin’s queer scene, and the journey from infidelity and secrecy to radical self-acceptance.

    Dabaco Sunset Links

    Website | Instagram | Naked Man

    Evolving Love Links:

    Website | Instagram | Substack



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    54 m
  • Are Female Friendships A Threat To Marriage?
    Sep 24 2025

    “Why do you need a female friend if you’re married?” In this episode, Abbey and Liam unpack the space where friendship, attraction, romantic relationships and trust collide.

    From jealousy to risk-taking they explore whether cross-gender friendships are threats to marriage, what happens when you forbid them, and how non-monogamous couples navigate these dynamics differently.

    Do female friendships always pose a risk? Or are they an essential part of a balanced life?

    Evolving Love Links:

    Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat



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    56 m
  • Husband vs. Wife - Open Marriage Debate
    Sep 17 2025

    In todays episode we play Devil’s Advocate. Can you argue a position you don’t truly believe in? Does switching sides test our own beliefs and sharpen our perspectives?

    We go head-to-head on:

    * Should happy couples risk opening their relationship?

    * Is non-monogamy a solution for struggling couples?

    * The infamous One Penis Policy — protection or possession?

    * Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell vs Kitchen Table Polyamory

    * Growing older: does monogamy or non-monogamy serve us better?

    Evolving Love Links:

    Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat



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    56 m
  • Will AI Kill Intimacy? w. Evolutionary Biologist Dr. Rob Brooks
    Sep 6 2025

    Abbey and Liam are joined by evolutionary biologist Dr. Rob Brooks to explore the rise of AI companions, sex robots, and whether love with machines can ever be “real.” They discuss jealousy over chatbots, the naturalist fallacy, and the deep question of whether humans are naturally monogamous or non-monogamous.

    Drawing from Rob’s book Artificial Intimacy, the conversation dives into the future of intimacy, the regulation of AI, and what it means for relationships when machines can replicate (and even challenge) human connection.

    Rob Brooks Links

    Website | Substack

    Watch this episode on Youtube

    Evolving Love Links:

    Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat

    Live Podcast Tickets Link

    Friday 10th October, NFSA, Canberra



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    1 h y 24 m
  • Fantasy vs. Reality - Secrets & Exhibitionism
    Aug 25 2025

    In this episode of Evolving Love 2.0, Abbey and Liam explore where they sit on the spectrum between swinging and polyamory. From loud neighbours and exhibitionist fantasies to navigating crushes, labels, and compersion, they dive into the playful, messy, and honest realities of non-monogamy after more than a decade together.

    They also share why “relationship by design” is central to their lives, and how fantasy and reality often intersect in surprising ways.

    Watch on Youtube

    Evolving Love Links:

    Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat

    Live Podcast Tickets Link

    Friday 10th October, NFSA, Canberra



    This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe
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    57 m
  • Pickleball, Therapy & Sex Swings
    Aug 4 2025

    In today’s episode we bounce from pickleball courts to cold plunges, breathwork breakthroughs, and even DIY sex swings. We discuss our experiences with therapy, and Liam’s recent experience in a men’s breathwork circle.

    🧵 Topics Covered

    🎾 Pickleball Obsession: Why Liam has pivoted from bouldering to pickleball, and how it's becoming the new social sport for connection (and maybe even pickup).

    🧊 Cold Plunge Confessions: Their first experience with a 3°C plunge at a retreat.

    🌬️ Breathwork Journeys: Liam’s powerful experience in a men’s breathwork circle and how it compares to traditional talk therapy.

    🧠 Therapy, Flow & Healing: From EFT tapping to crafting gnomes, the many ways we process emotion and find peace.

    🧵 Crafting as Inner Child Work: Abbey’s deep dive into fairy swings, and the joy of imperfection.

    🛠️ DIY Erotica: Reddit’s BDSM DIY, ceramic dildos, and the dream of a podcast room sex swing.

    🔥 Saunas, Sex & Sensory Play: Why temperature matters in intimacy and the allure of hardpoints in the home.

    Upcoming Events

    Conversation Night:

    Sydney | Monday, 18th August 2025

    Social Event:

    Canberra | Sunday, 31st August 2025

    Women’s Retreat:

    Yass, NSW | October 17–19, 2025



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    59 m
  • When Affairs Go Public - Clinton to Coldplaygate
    Jul 22 2025

    In today’s episode we dive into the spectacle of public affairs—from the viral Coldplay KissCam scandal to the infamous Clinton-Lewinsky saga. We explore the cultural obsession with infidelity, the ethics of public shaming, and the complex dynamics of relationships under scrutiny.

    Topics Covered

    * Coldplaygate: The viral moment that exposed Astronomer CEO Andy Byron and HR head Kristin Cabot on KissCam.

    * Public vs. Private Affairs: Why some affairs explode into the public eye and what that means for those involved.

    * Workplace Infidelity: Why so many affairs begin at work and the psychology behind it.

    * The Clinton-Lewinsky Affair: A deep dive into the scandal, power dynamics, betrayal, and media frenzy.

    * Esther Perel’s “State of Affairs”: How this book reframes infidelity and offers a path to healing.

    * The Ethics of Enjoying Scandal: Grappling with the guilty pleasure of watching public drama unfold.

    * Security Clearances & Infidelity: Can cheating disqualify you from high-level government roles?

    Evolving Love Links:

    Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat

    🌿 Upcoming Event

    Women's Retreat – October 17–19, 2025



    This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe
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    56 m
  • Is Liam Controlling? You Decide.
    Jul 15 2025

    In today’s Evolving Love Podcast we discuss boundaries, limits, and unpack my recent Substack article.

    Evolving Love Links:

    Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat

    🌿 Upcoming Event

    Women's Retreat – October 17–19, 2025



    This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe
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    57 m