Josh failed at dating, part 1! In this raw and emotional episode of The Derelict Podcast, host Josh Abbandonato opens up about his recent breakup, sharing the profound lessons he’s learned along the way. Joined by his friend Veronica, they dive into the power of vulnerability, the importance of setting boundaries, and how embracing failures can lead to incredible personal growth. Josh reflects on past relationships and offers actionable advice on healing after a breakup, overcoming shame, and learning to seek feedback from trusted sources.

This episode uncovers key insights into the journey of emotional recovery for men, highlighting the difference between avoidant and addictive behaviors and why being present with your emotions is crucial for healing. Whether you're recovering from heartbreak or simply looking to grow emotionally, Josh’s reflections and tips offer powerful tools for navigating life’s toughest moments.

🔑 Don’t miss this candid conversation full of practical wisdom for any man looking to heal, grow, and embrace their vulnerabilities.

Resources

Red/Yellow/Green Light Behaviors (3 Circle Worksheet): https://drive.google.com/file/d/1QMsT2e0KOhBokB6r_mr9XO6JihSso6EC/view?usp=sharing

Resentment, Fear, & Sex Inventory: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1eDPqVnNDWWjmhYKj0Azj4dyLDp_z1Nr2/view?usp=sharing

How to make an amends: https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/articles/making-amends-addiction-recovery

Love Style Quiz: https://howwelove.com/love-style-quiz/

Chapters

00:00 - Introduction: Embracing Failures and Authenticity 05:06 - Navigating Breakups & Emotional Growth 18:32 - The Importance of Setting Healthy Boundaries 29:59 - Learning from Mistakes: Healing & Growth 35:43 - Emotional Well-being: Green Light Behaviors 41:03 - Seeking Feedback & Overcoming Ego 42:33 - Understanding & Managing Avoidant Behavior 44:00 - Addictive vs. Avoidant Behaviors: What You Need to Know 46:29 - Sobriety vs. Recovery: Understanding the Difference 51:51 - Honest Communication for Emotional Healing 56:37 - Vulnerability & Authenticity in Relationships 01:00:28 - Navigating Emotions & Reactions Post-Breakup 01:03:22 - The Healing Power of Crying & Feeling 01:06:15 - Recognizing Defensive & Reactive Behaviors 01:09:31 - Self-Reflection & Seeking Support Systems 01:19:36 - The Healing Process: Moving Forward