Summary
In this episode, Jax and Janelle discuss the impact of shame-based thinking and its effects on personal finances and decision-making. They explore how guilt differs from shame and how these emotions can shape one’s self-worth and financial habits. Janelle shares her personal experience, including her book journey, and delves into how early messages from family can lead to self-sabotage or risky financial behaviors. They also discuss the importance of empathy, resilience, and intentional thinking when it comes to overcoming shame and developing healthier relationships with money. Jax highlights the holistic approach to finances, where emotional and psychological well-being play crucial roles in financial success. The conversation concludes with actionable insights, emphasizing self-awareness and intentional decision-making.

Keywords
shame-based thinking, guilt, self-worth, personal finances, resilience, empathy, self-sabotage, risky behavior, financial success, self-awareness, intentional thinking, holistic financial approach

Takeaways

• Understanding the difference between guilt and shame is crucial for addressing negative thought patterns.
• Shame-based thinking often leads to behaviors like self-sabotage, isolation, or risky decision-making, impacting financial health.
• Early childhood messages influence adult financial behaviors and perceptions of self-worth.
• Resilience and empathy are key to overcoming shame and fostering positive financial habits.
• Self-awareness and intentionality in financial planning lead to long-term success and personal growth.

Sound Bites

• "Guilt is: I made a mistake. Shame is: I am a mistake."
• "Shame can sabotage relationships—including your relationship with money."
• "Empathy is the kryptonite to shame."
• "Financial mastery is not just about numbers; it's about mastering your mindset."
• "You are powerful beyond measure and capable of achieving anything you want."

Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Overview
03:00 Difference Between Guilt and Shame
07:15 Shame-Based Thinking and Financial Decision-Making
12:05 Resilience and Empathy as Tools for Overcoming Shame
19:30 Self-Sabotage and Risky Behaviors in Finances
24:00 Janelle’s Book Journey and Personal Experiences
31:10 Self-Awareness in Financial Success
38:45 Conclusion and Takeaways