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Welcome to "Leaders of Today: Teens to Titans," the podcast dedicated to empowering our youth to become the leaders of tomorrow. Let's dive into the complexities of teen dating. This episode is the first in our new series on understanding and supporting our teens as they navigate romantic relationships. Stick around until the end to find out how you can join our email series and gain access to all the resources we’ll discuss today.

Teen dating today is vastly different from when we were teenagers, even down to the terminology. Remember the bases? That concept is completely outdated now. If that realization alone surprises you, it's a wake-up call to the need for defining experiences and expectations for our teens. I’ve created resources to help teens define roles and experiences in their romantic connections. While we may not fully catch up, it's critical to help them understand what terms mean individually and within their relationships. Misunderstandings can lead to uncomfortable experiences, such as differing interpretations of "hook-up."

As a teacher and a parent, I realized I wasn't great at asking for consent. How could I expect my children or students to understand and practice consent in critical situations if they weren't exposed to it from me? I've since changed my behavior and shared how parents can better ask for and respect consent, giving children the opportunity to express it. This is one of the key areas we cover in our resources.

So, what are some of the key points covered in our resource on understanding teen dating? Let’s break it down:

• Activity: Teens are asked to define several relationship terms.

• Example: They then compare their definitions with their friends or romantic partners to identify any misalignments. For instance, one teen might think "dating" means exclusivity, while another might see it as casual.

• Activity: Teens consider statements like, "I have no regrets about my relationships or my behavior in a relationship."

• Example: Encouraging self-awareness and thoughtful reflection on past and current relationships helps teens understand their actions and their impact.

• Activity: Teaching the importance of understanding and expressing consent.

• Example: Discussing how to ask for and give consent in various situations. One parent shared how their daughter effectively handled a challenging situation because of a conversation we had about integrity. It was comforting to know she had that resource.

• Activity: Acknowledging that teens may be in sexual relationships rather than just romantic ones with a sexual component.

• Example: Engaging in these conversations proactively, before situations arise, to prepare teens. This includes talking about the emotional and physical aspects of relationships.

• Activity: Using scenarios to help teens think through potential situations and their responses.

• Example: Building their ability to handle real-life situations based on prior discussions. For example, what to do if a partner pressures them into something they're not comfortable with.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Leaders of Today: Teens to Titans." If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with other parents who might benefit from this conversation. Together, we can support our teens in navigating their relationships and becoming the leaders of tomorrow.

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Teen Leadership Cohort Click Here

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Welcome to "Leaders of Today: Teens to Titans," the podcast where we explore how to empower our youth to become the leaders of tomorrow. Let's dive into a topic that every parent of a teenager will find incredibly relevant—teen friendships. This episode kicks off a new series dedicated to understanding and supporting the ever-changing social lives of our teens.

When our kids become teenagers, their friendships change dramatically. Kids who were once close friends may drift apart, while new connections form. The onset of "mean girl" behavior and other social dynamics can be overwhelming for both teens and parents alike. As parents, it can be frustrating to feel off base when we try to share our observations about their friendships. It’s tough to resist the urge to say, “It’s your life, deal with the consequences,” especially when we end up comforting them after a friend betrays their trust. It’s a challenging time for them and for us as parents.

So, what can we do? My best advice is to be a listener and show genuine curiosity about what’s happening in their social lives. One activity I find particularly helpful in my program is creating personal webs with the teens.

Every time we do this activity, teens often come back and say, “Wow, I had no idea I had such a [positive/negative] relationship with this person. When I did my web, it was so clear to me.” Teens generally know who is good for them and who is toxic, but it’s hard to admit mistakes in relationships at this age. Seeing these dynamics laid out on paper can be incredibly eye-opening. It’s either a reality check or a confirmation of how lucky they are.

The activity involves creating a web that links everyone in their lives. I encourage teens to take a day or two to complete this, as they may not remember everyone at once. As they go through their daily routine, they recall people on the periphery of their lives. Once the web is complete, we evaluate each relationship for positive or negative qualities.

We pick two different colors to represent positive and negative qualities. For example, let’s use red and green. We assess each relationship based on several qualities:

• Power:
  • Red for relationships where there’s a power imbalance (either they have power over someone or someone has power over them).
  • Green for equal power dynamics.

There are other qualities we evaluate in the activity, but this is a great starting point for your teen to see what types of relationships they have.

I also encourage you, as a parent, to create your own web and share your findings with your teen. This can open the door to meaningful conversations about relationships. By being a listener, showing curiosity, and using tools like the personal web activity, we can help our teens navigate their friendships more effectively. This approach not only helps them identify positive and toxic relationships but also fosters open communication between you and your teen.

And here's something exciting—this episode is just the beginning of a new series on navigating teen relationships! To stay updated and receive all the resources we’ll be sharing, including detailed guides and activities, make sure to join our email series. You can find the link to join in the show notes.

Thank you for tuning in to this episode of "Leaders of Today: Teens to Titans." If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with other parents who might benefit from this conversation. Together, we can support our teens in building healthy, positive relationships and becoming the leaders of tomorrow.

Teen Relationship Email Series Click Here

Teen Leadership Cohort Click Here

The podcast link to This is So Awkward

Welcome to "Leaders of Today: Teens to Titans," the podcast dedicated to empowering our youth to become the leaders of tomorrow. We’re kicking off a new series focused on helping parents and teens navigate the complex world of teenage relationships. This series will cover relationships with peers, dating partners, parents, and friends. Each episode will provide valuable insights and strategies to support your teen through these formative years. Stay tuned until the end to find out how you can join our email series and gain access to all the resources we discuss today.

The teenage years are crucial for developing relationships that shape one’s identity and future interactions. This series aims to provide parents with insights and strategies to help teens navigate relationships with peers, dating partners, parents, and classmates. It is not an easy task, as relationships become more complex during these years, and our kids often share less information with us. As a teen leadership coach, I understand firsthand how challenging these years can be. I needed these resources for myself as a teen and now as a parent of teenagers.

Today, we’re diving into peer relationships. When working with teens in the leadership cohort, one of the most impactful activities is a discussion about integrity. We explore what integrity means and the challenges associated with it. Peer relationships in middle and high school are highly influential. Every teen wants to belong, and sometimes they will go to great lengths to feel accepted. The group they belong to might not be the one they or we, as parents, desire. This dynamic is challenging for both teens and parents.

Every parent and teen faces situations where teens might act out, try new things, or shut down entirely. These behaviors are often responses to the pressure to belong and be accepted. Discussing integrity helps teens reflect on their behavior by sharing experiences they've witnessed. It provides a safe space to evaluate what they would want done for them in similar situations, fostering empathy, awareness, and kindness. This activity is most effective in a group setting, where teens can hear and learn from each other.

We start with a question like: "You walk into the cafeteria and see another student sitting alone. None of your friends think twice about it, but you do. What do you do?" They don’t have to act on what they say they would do, but thinking about it initiates the integrity conversation. This discussion is invaluable, and I love facilitating it. I know they will think about their peers differently the next time they enter the cafeteria. What they do is up to them, but they will have considered their actions, which is more than most students do.

Join our next info session to see if your teen is ready to join the Young Teen Leadership Cohort. By participating, your teen will engage in meaningful discussions and activities that help them navigate their relationships with integrity and empathy.

Want to stay updated and receive all the resources we’ll be discussing in this series? Sign up for our email series by following the link in the show notes. You'll gain access to valuable tools and information to support your teen through their journey.

If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with other parents who might benefit from this conversation. Together, we can support our teens in navigating their relationships and becoming the leaders of tomorrow.