Transcript: 

So today we're going to speak about love, loss and freedom. 

Love is about merging with another. Connecting with another. And that begins by being authentic, honest, radically honest, sharing all the positives. How somebody makes us feel, you know, the wanting ,the longing, the happiness, the joy, and also the fears, the sadness, the hopelessness, anything that we are feeling, we're honest and open. And then when we own that, our vulnerability ceases to be a weakness and starts to become a power. And when we do that, we unconsciously give our partner the permission to feel it to. And if we can be with whatever it is that we are with, and share it with another and they can be the same. That's what intimacy is. Intimacy is the ingredient to a successful relationship, to trust, to build a good foundation where you can rely and trust that the other person will be there, will be honest, will have the capacity to meet you physically, emotionally, mentally and beyond. So the first step is love. 

Then the next is loss. Now there are those who say, well, once you merge with consciousness loss doesn't exist, where we're never really separated, we're all one, we're all one, we're all one. This is a misconception, or it's a half truth. At our very essence, at the core of who we are, we are one. And if we've done the inner work, and we've uncovered and reveal the essence of who we are beyond everything that defines us as a person, we can rest in the abode of presence, and be and simply be, and that beingness is love. So in that dimension, there's no such thing as separation. But within the dimension of physicality, emotion, mental, and all the things that make us unique, and apart, that happens, there is such a thing as separation. And that's why we have grief. That's why we have the fear of loss. When partners die, or leave, the fear of separation is incredibly real. 

And the only thing, in my experience, that can help us manage this very difficult phase, the fear of abandonment, of being alone after having such a sweet connection [is being present]. You know, whether it's physical connection through sex and pleasure, emotional connection through love, mental [connection] through through joy and a freedom of connecting on a mental level, and then beyond, spiritually, energetically to have that communion, at the deepest level, where you're where you're feeling like you're met, at the deepest level in like a like a mirror, or a twin flame. So whatever that merger or connection is, the separation bit, the last bit, is inevitable. And only when we can really step in, to accepting that separation is a part of life and work through loss. Embrace loss, embrace grief, feel abandonment, feel inadequacy and then come through to the other side. Only then do we experience freedom. 

And this freedom is the capacity to feel all things.  To be in love. And then to feel the space, the separation and the loss and the pain. To be both with the joy and the sadness. It's like two wings on a bird. And you become, or in fact you already are, the singularity. The stillness, the silence that can hold both wings. Bittersweet thorns on roses. So freedom gives the ability, the capacity to be bold enough to experience more of reality, the highs and the lows and remain stable. So that we can weave in and out of each other's lives in a healthy way. And it's so worth it. And to me, it is the greatest joy of life, to connect to disconnect while being rooted in our being. 

I hope this serves you and if you have any questions, of course, do let me know.