In this episode (1 of 2), co-host LAH sits down with her co-host, Behk, to share a deeply personal story. LAH opens up about her childhood trauma and how it shaped her adult relationships. She briefly delves into her childhood, recounting experiences that led her into an 8-year codependent and toxic relationship with an addict.

Topics Discussed:

• Disclaimer of all disclaimers
• Who is LAH?
• LAH’s childhood
• LAH’s first long-term relationship
• Cocaine blues

Join LAH and Behk as they explore the complexities of codependency and the impact of childhood trauma. This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with similar issues or looking to understand the dynamics of toxic relationships better.

We believe in the importance of sharing stories and talking about trauma. All stories are shared anonymously for privacy and respect, and no names or descriptive details are included.

Content Warning: This episode discusses various forms of toxic abuse, alcoholism, drug addiction, child neglect, child molestation, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

We are not doctors or therapists; you should not take our opinions as medical advice.

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Hosts: Behk & LAH

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In this episode, hosts Behk and LAH welcome the incomparable Dyson, also known by her stage name, Trinity Monroe. A two-time title-holding drag queen, Dyson joins us in the studio to share his remarkable journey through the world of drag performance.

Topics Discussed:

• How Behk celebrates Pride Month with LGBTQ+ friends
• Where do we find Soul Minor’s Daughter music?
• Renaissance Fair and spittin’ fairies
• The younger DRAG generation
• Keeping old-school DRAG alive
• History of DRAG and William Shakespeare
• The bad rap DRAG gets from some “straight” folk
• The effects of having to grow up masking who you are
• Losing family and friends to AIDS
• Why do some parents not accept their gay kids?
• About Trinity Monroe
• Remembering Bianca Paige
• Message from Dyson

From starting out in the vibrant yet challenging drag scene of 1980s Nashville to rising as a celebrated performer, Dyson’s story is one of resilience and passion. He opens up about his experiences with the elder gays who paved the way, the profound loss of friends and lovers to AIDS, and the transformative power of performing drag.

Join us for an intimate conversation that dives deep into the highs and lows of a drag performer's life, the evolving landscape of the LGBTQ+ community, and the enduring spirit of those who perform in the face of adversity.

Tune in for a tribute to the art of drag, the memories of those we've lost, and the enduring fight for acceptance and equality.

Don’t miss this episode of Narcissists, Gaslighters, and Cheaters, Oh My! – it’s one you’ll carry with you long after the final curtain call.

Content Warning: This episode discusses various forms of toxic abuse, AIDS, child molestation, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

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In this episode, Behk and LAH welcome a dear friend from their early twenties, John, to share his compelling and raw story from an LGBTQ+ perspective. Join us as John opens up about his tumultuous journey through a toxic relationship with a successful and influential partner who helped open doors for him in the theater world.

Topics Discussed:

• Behk runs into a fan adjacent in the wild
• Meet Behk’s bestie, John
• A lesbian, a gay guy, and a witch walk into a bar
• John talks about his toxic relationship with “the greatest showman”
• Understanding the narc is a conundrum
• Starting over
• The Stephen Baldwin Story

While navigating the complexities of a power dynamic that often left him feeling overshadowed, John balanced his own ambitious endeavors—running for office and launching a non-profit in Africa. At the peak of his game, instead of receiving support, John faced manipulation and betrayal. His narcissistic partner employed various tactics to steal the spotlight and even cheated on him, adding layers of emotional turmoil to an already challenging situation.

Naturally woven into the conversation, the trio’s ADHD veers them off into a series of fun topics and wild stories from their youth, reminiscing about the carefree days and the adventures they shared.

Tune in for a heartfelt and candid discussion blends introspection with nostalgia, and eye-opening insights, shedding light on the complexities of love and friendship.

Content Warning: This episode discusses various forms of toxic abuse, narcissistic abuse, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

We are not doctors or therapists; you should not take our opinions as medical advice.

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In this special collaboration episode, Behk & LAH of "Narcissists, Gaslighters, and Cheaters, Oh My!" sit down with Amanda Arnier, the insightful host of "The Dichotomy Diaries Podcast." Together, they explore emotional intricacies in relationships, focusing on the challenges of dealing with narcissists and toxic people.

Topics Discussed:

• Meet Amanda Arnier of the podcast, The Dichotomy Diaries
• Trust – is it earned or a gift?
• Why Amanda started “The Dichotomy Diaries” podcast
• The importance of sharing our stories
• The case of Dick
• The dual mothership theory by Dr. Vaknin
• We’re Carl Jungians
• Attachments
• Amanda’s healing journey
• What's next for “The Dichotomy Diaries?”

Amanda brings her unique perspective from "The Dichotomy Diaries," where she recounts her relationship with Dick and shares the experiences of other women who were also involved with him. This episode discusses the complexities of narcissists, strategies for navigating toxic dynamics, and the importance of sharing these stories for healing.

Please tune in for an intimate and revealing dialogue that offers a deeper understanding of Amanda’s mission and the powerful stories she shares with her audience.

Subscribe and listen to "Narcissists, Gaslighters, and Cheaters, Oh My!" and "The Dichotomy Diaries" on your favorite podcast platforms. Don't forget to rate, review, and share!

Book mentioned in this episode:

The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Values, and Spiritual Growth by M. Scott Peck M.D.

Content Warning: This episode discusses various forms of toxic abuse, narcissistic abuse, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

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UPDATE: We are excited to announce that the episode has been updated to include the end of Shirley's story. We appreciate your patience and understanding as we worked through some technical difficulties to bring you the full, unfiltered account of Shirley's journey. Thank you for your continued support and for bearing with us. We hope you find the updated episode both compelling and insightful.

Tip: If you're not seeing the 1:09 long version yet, you'll need to clear the cache in the app. ;)

In this episode, we dive into the story of Shirley, a woman who believed she had found her soulmate in an 8-year relationship, only to uncover a shocking web of deceit.

Discussions in this episode:

• Meet a listener, Shirley
• Seemingly perfect eight years
• Shocking discovery of her partner's affairs
• Unraveling his pattern of serial cheating
• Emotional and psychological impact
• Journey to healing and reclaiming her life
• Complexities of betrayal and infidelity
• Resilience and finding strength after heartbreak

Shirley's world is turned upside down when she discovers that her seemingly perfect partner not only cheated on her but did so with his first cousin. As the layers of his infidelity unravel, Shirley learns he is a serial cheater, hiding numerous affairs behind a facade of loyalty.

Join us as we explore Shirley's journey through love, betrayal, and the path to reclaiming her life after such a devastating revelation. This episode is a raw and honest look at the impact of infidelity and the strength it takes to overcome it.

About Shirley's Upcoming Podcast

Shirley is starting her own podcast called "Audacity." In her new podcast, Shirley will dive deep into her detailed account of betrayal and healing, joined by her ex-husband's sister and special guests, including her betrayal coach. We will keep you updated on the launch of "Audacity," and once available, we will leave a link here for you to follow and support Shirley's journey. Stay tuned for more updates, and thank you for your continued support!

Content Warning: This episode discusses various forms of toxic abuse, narcissistic abuse, drug use, incest, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

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In this episode, hosts Behk and LAH take a break from the heavy and dive into a whirlwind of ADHD-fueled topics, from holler goblins, men who just don’t get it, to our favorite songs from Taylor’s The Tortured Poets Department album.

Discussions in this episode:

• What is sassy water?
• The 5th-grade dance drama
• Upcoming guests
• Corporate event butt sketch artists
• The Kinky Renaissance Fair
• Have you ever heard of the Holler Goblins?
• Harry the Bigfoot
• Fuck venomous snakes!
• Bear vs Man in the Woods
• The clueless guy
• Taylor Swift and TTPD

You can tune in to this episode for a rollercoaster ride of topics, sprinkled with lots of laughter.

The Podcasts, Docu-Series, and Documentaries Behk mentioned:

• Hellier
• The Unbinding
• Greg & Dana Haunted Podcast
• Finding Bigfoot

Content Warning: This episode discusses snakes and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

We are not doctors or therapists; you should not take our opinions as medical advice.

Would you like to be a guest and share your story on the pod or do you have a question for us to share and answer on one of our banter episodes? Please fill out our form.

Hosts: Behk & LAH

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In this episode, we delve into the harrowing story of Jodi, whose life took a dark turn when she entered a relationship with a friend. Thinking she knew him well after five years of acquaintance, she never imagined the horror that awaited her.

Discussions in this Episode:

• Bloody Noses and Tornadoes
• Meet a listener, Jodi
• John moves in, turns out to be a nightmare
• Jodi gets hooked on meth
• Police frequently visit her home
• John ignores protective orders
• Drains Jodi's life in 10 months
• Sons sense trouble
• Jodi struggles to break free
• Therapy and support help her regain strength
• Jodi starts to reclaim her life and find happiness again

Initially charming, he quickly turned into her worst nightmare. An audacious narcissist, he manipulated her with ease, saying all the right things to gain her trust. After letting him move into her home upon his release from jail, things spiraled out of control. He got her hooked on methamphetamine, and soon police became frequent visitors to her once peaceful home.

Despite protective orders, he refused to leave, leaving Jodi trapped in a living nightmare. In just 10 months, he managed to drain her of life, both mentally and financially. Even her sons sensed something was deeply wrong, though shielded from the worst of his abuse.

Overcoming manipulation, addiction, and the constant threat of danger, she finally managed to escape. But the battle wasn't over; it was just beginning. The process of healing and rebuilding her life was slow and painful. Therapy and support became her lifeline as she worked to regain her strength and sense of self. It is a journey filled with setbacks and challenges, but gradually, Jodi starts to reclaim her life.

Join us as we explore Jodi's journey from trust to betrayal, shedding light on the insidious nature of methamphetamine addiction and the devastating impact it can have on lives, especially when coupled with the manipulation of an audacious narcissist.

Content Warning: This episode discusses various forms of toxic abuse, narcissistic abuse, drug use, domestic violence, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

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In the powerful continuation of Sarah's journey, we delve into a deeply personal and emotional chapter of her life as she confronts the toxic relationship with her mother. Despite enduring years of neglect and abuse at the hands of her father and ex-husband, Sarah's struggles with her mother's racism and lack of love proved to be another layer of trauma she had to navigate.

In this episode, Sarah bravely shares her experiences of growing up with a mother who showed zero love and constantly exhibited racist behavior towards Sarah’s partners and her children. From hurtful remarks to blatant acts of discrimination, Sarah's relationship with her mother was fraught with pain and disappointment.

Discussions in this episode:

• Behk & LAH banter about stress
• Sarah's hateful mother
• The racist stepdad
• Parenting with love
• Breaking free from her bullshit
• Finding a peaceful life

Join us as Sarah recounts her journey of confronting her mother's toxicity and the profound impact it had on her life and the lives of her children. Through her candid reflections, we gain insight into the complexities of familial relationships and the deep wounds caused by a lack of love and acceptance.

This episode is a poignant exploration of healing and forgiveness as Sarah grapples with the difficult decision to confront her mother about her behavior. With raw honesty and vulnerability, Sarah shares the emotional journey of setting boundaries, reclaiming her worth, and ultimately finding peace within herself.

Tune in as we witness Sarah's courageous journey of healing wounds, breaking free from toxic family patterns, and embracing a future filled with love, acceptance, and self-discovery.

Content Warning: This episode discusses various forms of toxic abuse, narcissistic abuse, racism, and any topics that may disturb some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

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Hosts: Behk & LAH

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