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Overcoming Betrayal & Addiction

De: Robert Weiss PhD MSW and Tami VerHelst
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  • The Overcoming Betrayal and Addiction podcast, featuring Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami VerHelst, presents a conversational Q&A style discussion drawn from listener questions about sex and porn addictions, infidelity, cheating, and hard work required to heal relationship betrayal. Dr. Rob and Tami are very good at engaging people struggling with painful life issues in a useful, respectful way. They also invite you to join them on their live weekly webinar (Mondays, 5 p.m. Pacific at https://bit.ly/DrRobandTami), where they answer questions live Dr. Rob is Chief Clinical Officer for Seeking integrity Treatment Centers. He is a 30-year licensed therapist, a PhD sexologist, and author Sex Addiction 101, Prodependence, and Out of the Doghouse, among other books. Tami is Chief Relationships Officer for Seeking Integrity LLC. Tami brings over 40 years of personal addiction knowledge, helping supply struggling individuals and couples with the resources and direction they need to heal.
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Episodios
  • When Do I Need Help for My Addiction?
    Jun 27 2024

    Dr. Rob and Tami share what a couple can expect when they sit down and talk with Dr. Rob in person or over Zoom when they are ready to address their infidelity and addiction issues. How do you know if a residential treatment is right for you? What do you do when your spouse still continues to lie to you after formal disclosure? All these questions answered, and more!

    TAKEAWAYS:

    [0:45] How long does it take to rewire a porn-addicted mind?

    [4:50] Addicts think, ‘they can’t live without this’ but when they take a pause they realize that they didn’t die. That they can push through.

    [6:45] My husband said he’d be honest about the affairs going forward. This has been a complete lie. Where do I go from here?

    [8:45] Whatever you do, don’t give up on you.

    [14:15] Unfortunately, you may never get what you want from that person.

    [20:25] I fluctuate between me being a horrible person vs. me being a good person that just did a horrible thing. How can I differentiate?

    [25:55] I struggle to take ownership. Not sure what I should do?

    [34:25] If you have a question about your spouse’s addiction, write it down. Collect them, and then sit down at a scheduled time and talk about them.

    [37:45] How do you know if residential treatment makes sense for you?

    [45:00] What does it mean to do a consultation with Dr. Rob?

    RESOURCES:

    Seekingintegrity.com

    Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

    Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

    Intherooms.com

    Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss

    Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

    Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

    Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

    QUOTES

    • “The brain doesn’t get rewired, it’s not a motherboard, but it does adapt.”

    • “You’re getting the kind of message that you have to work on your own life and what you want from the other person, you may never get; as much as you deserve it.”

    • “Guilt is a good thing. Healthy guilt I made a mistake, I need to go back and fix it. Guilt is good information.”

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  • I Just Love My Addict Spouse, But Yet They Always Hurt Me
    May 30 2024

    Erin Snow, Clinical Director for Seeking Integrity, joins Tami on this episode to help talk about the importance of internal and regulation work, while also healing your hurt inner child. She speaks to betrayed spouses who are in love or have grief from loving their addict spouse, and more in today’s episode.

    TAKEAWAYS:

    [1:45] He claims to be sober, but he’s doing nothing to be sober?

    [4:00] Men struggle to create intimate bonds with other men.

    [15:50] It takes work to counteract what the brain wants to do.

    [18:15] Most people who struggle with addiction don’t even know what they want at the moment.

    [20:55] Losing a friend is painful. Losing a partner? Even more so. It takes a lot of work to be comfortable in your own skin.

    [22:45] Erin talks about a woman’s retreat and how empowering it can be for women who have addicts in their lives.

    [24:50] These women all share the same pain; loving their addict.

    [28:55] Life isn’t fair, but you can always choose to focus on yourself!

    [29:20] We are separated and in couple’s therapy. I’m in grief. How do I practice self-care on a daily basis?

    [38:20] Sometimes addicts just don’t want to make the decision to leave, so the partner has to do it for them.

    [45:20] A porn addiction has damaged our relationship. How can we reconnect sexually again?

    [53:10] He is addicted to prostitutes. I depend on him and he resents me. How do I heal?

    RESOURCES:

    Seekingintegrity.com

    Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

    Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

    Intherooms.com

    Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss

    Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

    Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

    Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

    QUOTES

    • “The most beautiful thing about treatment is men are forced to develop intimate bonds with other men.”

    • “So for 20 years you’ve used problematic behaviors and then you magically stop it, and you’re all good? Denial is the biggest component of addiction.”

    • “Doing the work is unfair (as a betrayed spouse), nobody should have to do it, but it is a gift to get to the other side of regulation.”

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  • FAQ for 12-Step Programs for Sex Addicts Answered in this Podcast!
    May 6 2024

    Tami and Scott, the Director of Content Development at Seeking Integrity, answer some common questions people new to recovery might have. They cover everything from the difference in SA 12-step programs, what to look for, and what types of resources are available for SA-specific individuals and their betrayed spouses.

    TAKEAWAYS:

    [1:45] Today’s episode covers common questions around the 12-step program.

    [3:25] A 12-step program teaches us how to be honest with ourselves and others.

    [3:45] Why are 12-step programs different for sex addicts?

    [5:00] SA and eating disorder programs are different because we have to define our own sobriety.

    [5:55] Scott breaks down the different SA groups you can join.

    [11:40] How do I find the right resources for my specific needs?

    [17:35] What should a betrayed spouse look for/do?

    [18:15] What about programs that aren’t 12-step focused?

    [20:20] Remember, 90 meetings in 90 days doesn’t mean you’re magically cured by day 91.

    [29:15] What does it mean to have a ‘higher power’ in a s12-step program? I’m not religious.

    [34:15] I’m a betrayed partner but my husband won’t admit any wrongdoing. What should I do?

    [40:35] Who should my accountability partner be?

    [47:50] When does it make sense to ask my partner about his recovery? I don’t want to know the details, but I do want to know the progress.

    [52:55] His friends are backing him up and I feel manipulated by him. What should I do?

    [56:55] What should you look for in a sponsor?

    [1:00:30] Can betrayed partners also attend a SA meeting?



    RESOURCES:

    Seekingintegrity.com

    Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

    Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

    Intherooms.com

    Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss

    Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

    Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

    Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

    QUOTES

    • “Eating disorders are about learning how to eat in healthier ways. Sexual sobriety is about what is problematic for me and what is not?”

    • “It doesn’t matter which SA group you go to, just be comfortable and be able to be honest. If you can share honestly and openly and get support, great, you’re in the right spot.”

    • “Tami and I are fans of 12-step recovery because that’s what’s worked for us, but there are other options. Explore them!”

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