CW: This episode contains talk of sex and genital touching.

In this episode, Dr. T and Truth Fairy welcome guest Caffyn Jesse to the show. Caffyn is an author, queer elder, and teacher of somatic sexual wellness. In their latest book, Caffyn describes an ongoing inquiry into somatics, the erotic, and psychedelic medicine. Caffyn refers to themselves as an outlaw who cherishes other outlaws. They are a queer person who was born in the days when “it was illegal to be one,” who is involved in the outlaw realms of sex work and psychedelic medicine. They find belonging in intimacies outside the rules and expectations of the ordinary world.

The conversation around sex and sex education explores the sacred contract between a client’s voice and the practitioner. Understanding the neuroendocrine system helps the world of somatic sex education and opens the door to empowering the client to request wanted touch rather than submitting to touch they think the practitioner requires. Caffyn feels called to bring a more sophisticated understanding of ethical practices involving the erotic and sexual body touch to practitioners.

Dr. T and Truth Fairy both discuss the concept of slowing down and welcoming asking for something over demanding it while exploring the openness of Caffyn’s work. Caffyn encourages bodies to manifest superpowers and for a deeper connection to the soma, the body, by way of sensation, breath, and massage. The themes of somatic sexual understanding that Caffyn studies and teaches lean towards the natural and ecstatic, they can encompass psychedelic work and trauma healing, and focus on alignment of being. There is so much queer exploration, sexual navigation, and ecstatic understanding touched on and talked about with openness and care in this episode. Caffyn provides a caring and studied perspective on topics not often discussed openly enough.

“... this rhythm of going, like going for ecstasy, going for the ecstatic, finding that place that's as far as possible from equilibrium and then experiencing the orgasmic return to equilibrium, that is actually a practice that we're constantly doing. We can tune in to doing it with every breath where we go into this arousal, this aliveness.” - Caffyn Jesse

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About Caffyn Jesse:

Caffyn Jesse is a queer elder, sacred intimate, teacher and writer who revels in the power and pleasures of the erotic. They are a renowned teacher of sex, intimacy and healing trauma with pleasure. Encouraging neuroplastic change to support sexual healing and expanded pleasure, unwinding sexual trauma, exploring the intersection of sex and spirit, creating erotic community are all core to their work and play. Caffyn is a tireless advocate of embodied love.

Caffyn offers an online program on The Art and Science of Sacred Intimacy. They host regular “office hours” where you can meet, connect and ask questions. They also offer a program on psychedelic medicine integration.

Caffyn explores a weave of Psychedelic Medicine, Somatic Sexual Wellness, Queer Ecology and Transformative Justice. Their many books include Ecstatic Belonging, Love and Death in a Queer Universe, Elements of Intimacy, Sensual Man, Science for Sexual Happiness, Intimacy Educator: Teaching with Touch, Orientation: Mapping Queer Meanings and Pelvic Pain Clinic.

Caffyn taught for many years at the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education, as well as offering workshops on topics ranging from pelvic pain to sex in long-term relationships, and a trauma training for professionals who touch.

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• Website: PunkTherapy.com
• Email: info@punktherapy.com

Contact Caffyn Jesse:

• Website: EcstaticBelonging.com
• “Ecstatic Belonging: A Year on the Medicine Path” by Caffyn Jesse

Content Warning: Graphic discussions of pornography, sexual situations, male genitalia, and masturbation.

In this episode, Dr. T and Truth Fairy delve into the world of using psychedelics in a deliberate process for healing pornography-related trauma. Their guest, Tyson, a trauma-informed men's coach, somatic bodyworker, and psychedelic facilitator, shares his personal journey from a 20-year addiction to pornography to his current passion for helping men master their life force energy. The conversation takes listeners through Tyson's personal story and explores shame, sexuality, and the impact of traumatic experiences.

Tyson reveals his commitment to assisting others in overcoming challenges related to intimacy. His determination emerged from his story of the influence of early exposure to pornography and the subsequent struggles he faced. The dark aspects of Tyson's journey, including his experience with violent and non-consensual content, shaped his perception of sexuality. Dr. T and Truth Fairy talk through Tyson's insights, shedding light on the broader themes of psychedelic healing and overcoming addiction.

The conversation explores Tyson's journey in adulthood after he uncovered the trauma embedded in his early experiences and his ultimate transformation away from addiction. Tyson's expertise and openness create a platform for listeners to gain valuable insights into psychedelic healing on a sexual level, trauma and addiction recovery, and mastering life force energy. This is a very frank discussion of deeply personal experiences and subjects usually pushed away from public discourse. Tyson provides Dr. T and Truth Fairy with his unique perspective on using psychedelics for intimate healing and healthy sexual growth.

“I realized that I needed to go back in and I needed to start doing some psychedelic work around watching pornography. So what I've learned through this process is that we're not just watching something on the screen. We are absorbing the energies of whoever it is we're watching. So whatever their journey is, whoever it is we're watching, and the things that they carry, their beliefs, their traumas, their wounding, even though there's a buffer, which is technology, there still is a porousness of energy that gets transmitted through this technology that comes into us. And it's not just a program, psychological, but it's also an actual energenic that we take on.” - Tyson

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Truth Fairy and Dr. T welcome Brett to the podcast to talk about his journey in “coming out from under the rocks”, which is to say emerging from the underground. Brett has studied, refined, and used a broad range of substances and practices and he helps people find a framework for holding their experience in both the mind and body. Dr. T, Truth Fairy, and Brett have a very open discussion about the path of a psychedelic therapist.

Brett shares how he approaches working with a client and what medicines he recommends to open their journey with a calm headspace and a clear mind. He encourages time in nature during the treatment and describes walking close to a beautiful river. He has spent almost twenty years, ten of which have been with his wife and partner, developing a framework for working with various medicines that is uniquely suited to each client's needs. This methodical yet flexible approach allows for slowing thoughts down and opening consciousness to true understanding.

The conversation includes breaking down the different consciousness states, child consciousness, adult consciousness, and somatic consciousness, how to translate experiences had on medicine into daily non-medicated life, and how to stabilize clients. Brett approaches his psychedelic therapy practices from a Buddhist-influenced perspective with a focus on sourcing his own medicines. Truth Fairy, Dr. T and Brett connect in very real ways over shared theories and beliefs about healing.

“I have actually asked [my trusted peers] if this gets off the rails, if I look like I'm not being authentic and acting with integrity, I expect you to tell me. I think there's a chance if you don't have that structure, that safety net, then it can get weird. We can create ideas that are just not helpful for ourselves and our clients. I think that there's a real opportunity when we're self-taught and self-directed to cultivate our own personal strengths and really to find that approach, that unique gift that we bring to the table.” - Brett

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Truth Fairy and Dr. T welcome Cami Barton, author and practitioner dedicated to social change through embodied practices, to the show. Truth Fairy reads a poem on pain by Kahlil Gibran that emphasizes the intertwining of pain and joy, suggesting that embracing pain can lead to a deeper understanding of life, which highlights many of the themes of Cami’s work.

Cami discusses their work in psychedelic therapy, grief, pleasure, and drug policy, rooted in black feminism and harm reduction. They share personal experiences, including an abortion in 2017 that sparked the project for their upcoming book, "Tending Grief: Embodied Rituals for Holding Our Sorrow and Growing Cultures of Care in Community". The book explores grief and healing rituals, drawing from Cami's journey and broader societal patterns.

The conversation delves into Cami's work in designing a master's program, teaching psychedelic therapy, and collaborating with MAPS to ensure accessibility to MDMA psychotherapy for marginalized communities. Truth Fairy and Dr. T discuss various aspects of Cami's expertise and personal journey, including childhood trauma and the surfacing of dissociated memories during their healing process. It is a meditation on grief and healing that holds deep insight to benefit all listeners.

“And so the Dagara people are indigenous to what we now call Burkina Faso in West Africa. And they have a very specific relationship to communal grief tending, where everyone in the community is expected to tend their grief in the communal ritual once a month because there's an understanding in their cosmology that unattended grief will actually become harm in the society. So rather than being taboo as it is in the West to grieve publicly and be with that, it's actually taboo to avoid your grief in the Dagara context.” - Cami 

Resources discussed in this episode:

• On Pain by Kahlil Gibran
• “Tending Grief: Embodied Rituals for Holding Our Sorrow and Growing Cultures of Care in Community” by Camille Sapara Barton
• Website: CamilleSaparaBarton.com

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Dr. T and Truth Fairy welcome guest Sapha to the show to talk about healing through ayahuasca. When Sapha reached out via email, Truth Fairy realized she has friends in common with him, and, being touched by his email and story, invited him to be on the show. The details of his advocacy and journey are inspiring to hear.   

Sapha shares his father's story of emigrating to Canada from Tehran, Iran, during the Islamic Revolution. Pain, abandonment, and confusion that went with Sapha’s story led to a need for escapism through substance abuse. The addiction lasted through Sapha’s career in the oil and gas industry until age 29 when he realized he needed help. But after being denied assistance from the BC government, Sapha’s salvation came from an aunt who connected him with the Leipzig Serenity Retreat, a holistic recovery centre in Saskatchewan.

Dr. T and Truth Fairy talk with Sapha about how he found ayahuasca and his early psychedelic experiences, the need to really heal the underlying causes of addiction and not simply the addiction itself, and the benefits of small group work that Sapha embarked upon. Sapha also addresses how he now does a lot of work with men who have suffered at the hands of the patriarchal system and through the expectations placed on men. This episode reveals a lot about the benefits of working with ayahuasca and the healing possibilities of being on a psychedelic-assisted recovery journey.

“And that's a big part of the teaching here with what we do and the way that we work with men, it's like ayahuasca is a tool. You know, psychedelics are tools. They're not a cure for addiction. They're an opportunity to get a really close look from a different lens. How to uncover and unravel this bundle of emotions and these layers of pain that as men or as people we've been born with,” - Sapha

Resources discussed in this episode:

• Information on Ayahuasca
• Leipzig Serenity Retreat
• SacredRebelsRecovery on Instagram

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