The Pixar movie Inside Out 2 is the inspiration for this episode. And being an Internal Family Systems therapist/coach, I had to use the movie to talk about parts! In the movie, anxiety takes a leading role in the life of the main character. This results in impulsive, reactive, and frenzied behaviors. Even though this is a kid's movie, oh can we relate! We all know anxiety can drive us to people-please, strive for perfection, and act out of fear.

To counteract anxiety, I'm going to introduce you to a part of yourself that you might not usually rely on: Self energy, or what I like to call Heart Wisdom. This concept, inspired by IFS (Internal Family Systems), encourages us to lead with qualities that foster a proactive approach to managing anxiety.

This is the first in a short Power Pod summer series on the qualities of Self Energy. Enjoy!

Nervous System Freebie mentioned in the episode: http://subscribepage.io/KNF3Nq

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What it’s about:

People react to each other—it's just how things go. Most of us are bumping up against others, unconsciously hoping those bumps won't hurt us or them because we don’t like conflict or tension. But here’s the deal: we are acting like feeling tension warrants going into survival mode. It doesn’t. And there is another way to work with the fear of upsetting someone.

It's parts work. In this episode, we'll dive into Internal Family Systems (IFS) to understand not only what is going on under the surface that makes us feel so triggered, but how to help ourselves relax back from relying a little too much on this protective stance in relationships.

Interesting parts of the episode:

Know Your Parts: Learn about the different parts of your personality and how they influence your reactions.

Reduce Fear: Exploring how fear-based reactions, like people-pleasing and perfectionism, stem from a desire to feel safe.

Empathy in Action: Apply your knowledge of parts work to create more genuine and less reactive connections with others.

Links and Resources:

Free Parts Mapping Session: Interested in learning more about IFS? Here’s the link to get on the calendar! https://calendly.com/vicki-46/free-internal-family-systems-mapping-session

Further IFS exploration: Here’s a BLOG on the 8 C’s of Self Energy – a big part of IFS work. https://powertothepleasers.com/2022/01/04/the-8-cs-qualities-of-strength-stability-and-resilience/

Also check out No Bad Parts - https://ifs-institute.com/store/419 for Richard Schwartz latest book on IFS.

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Friendship is strange isn’t it? You make this unspoken agreement with another person to do what together? You aren’t dating. You aren’t co-workers. You aren’t “committed” like a life partner. What exactly are we agreeing to when we become friends? And how do you know if you are getting out of the lines of the agreement? Someone tells you. And if you are lucky, they are respectful and responsible about sharing their experience of your waning commitment. Today I share with you a recent exchange between myself and a friend that modeled for me the RIGHT way to do friendship. Welcome to a vulnerable share about how I was a bad friend and got called out on it. What makes this episode worth listening to:

1. Simple questions to help you do a Relationship Audit.
2. 3 respectful ways to share hurt feelings with a friend
3. How doing consistent inner work busts up long standing shame.

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Taking it to the next level! Let's talk about working together!

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