Join us today as we sit down with Darlene Lancer, walking through the concepts of her significant work Codependency For Dummies. Drawing lines between past and present, Darlene uncovers how childhood behaviors can seep into adult life and generate feelings of shame and codependency. As the discussion deepens, she identifies harmful coping mechanisms we unknowingly incorporate in our relationships. Delving into 'The Tyranny of The Shoulds', Darlene examines what it means to disconnect from your true self, focusing on external validations. And if you ever wondered what happens once a narcissist feels secure, then this video is for you! Walk through the challenging path of recovering from codependency and get a new perspective on loneliness with Darlene. Find out where you can connect with her in her last words in the video. *Disclaimer→ Thanks for listening to The D Spot. We want to remind you that the content of this podcast is not a substitute for professional therapy. While we strive to provide valuable insights and information, this podcast does not constitute or replace therapy sessions with a qualified mental health professional. If you are in need of mental health support, please seek the advice of a licensed therapist or healthcare provider.* → Want to be a sponsor, affiliate, or guest on the podcast? Email dspotpodcast@gmail.com for more information! ↓ C O N N E C T ↓ Connect with The D Spot → https://linktr.ee/dspotpodcast Connect with Host Dr. Dana McNeil PsyD, LMFT → https://linktr.ee/danamcneil Connect with this week's guest | Darlene Lancer Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/darlenelancerlmft/ Facebook → https://www.facebook.com/codependencyrecovery/ Website → https://whatiscodependency.com/ ↓ K E Y M O M E N T S ↓ 00:13 Meet Darlene Lancer 01:03 Codependency For Dummies 04:11 Where Does Shame & Codependency Begin? 10:10 The Transference of Childhood Behaviors to Adult Life 12:43 Coping To Survive 13:53 Discovering Potentially Bad Coping Mechanisms Within New Relationships 15:53 The Tyranny of The Shoulds 17:04 When You're Disconnected From Your True Self, You Are Going To Look Outside Yourself 19:22 It Starts Out With Both Wanting To Be Loved By Each Other 20:58 Once A Narcissist Feels Secure 23:21 Recovering From Codependency 28:11 Darlene, You're Lonely, And That's Ok. 31:03 Final Thoughts & Where You Can Find Darlene ↓ M U S I C ↓ Track: "anjoo", dubu Music provided by https://Slip.stream Free Download/Stream: https://get.slip.stream/IC21YT