Hey Doc,

Let’s talk about something that sounds simple… but clearly is not.

You are allowed to change your mind.

I say that, and I already know some of you are side-eyeing me like, “Okay… but it’s not that easy.”

I know. I know it’s not.

Because in medicine, we don’t pivot. We commit. We decide and then we stick with it.

Even when life changes.

Even when we change.

Especially after motherhood.

I see this all the time.

Dr. So-and-so used to want the big cases, the leadership roles, the titles, the prestige.

Now? She wants to go to work, do her job well, and be home by 3 to sit on the floor with her babies.

And instead of feeling clear about that… she feels guilty.

Like she’s betraying the version of herself who worked so hard to get here.

Like she’s letting someone down: her mentors, her colleagues… or honestly, just herself.

So in this episode, we’re getting into that tension.

Not in a fluffy “just follow your heart” kind of way.

But in a real, grounded way that actually applies to your life right now.

We talk about:

• Why it feels so hard to change your mind as a physician mom
• The guilt that shows up when your priorities shift
• The difference between “becoming a different person” vs actually evolving
• Why your old goals don’t have to define your current decisions
• And how to give yourself permission to want something different without spiraling about it

Because let me be very clear about something:

Wanting a different life now does not erase who you were.

It means you’ve lived enough to know what actually matters to you.

That’s not failure.

That’s growth.

And if you’re sitting there trying to force yourself to want the same things you wanted at 28…

Yeah. We’re not doing that anymore.

If this hits a little too close to home (which it probably does),

go ahead and press play.

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Hey Doc

I had a moment recently that stopped me in my tracks.

My kids were heading out for a full day—something fun, something special—and I wasn’t there. And instead of guilt?

I felt peace. Gratitude. Relief.

Not because I don’t want to be with them. But because I know they are well cared for, loved, and having a full, joyful experience, even when I’m not the one making it happen.

In this episode, I’m talking about what it looks like to build a life that actually works with support.

We get into:

• Why the right childcare supports you, instead of replacing you
• What it can look like when your kids are cared for and you can focus on your work
• The shift from “this won’t work for me” to “how could this work?”
• Why so many physician moms hesitate to invest in help, and what that hesitation is costing

If you’ve been telling yourself that getting help isn’t an option, I want you to at least pause and question that.

There may be more possibilities than you’ve allowed yourself to consider.

🎧 Press play on Stethoscopes and Strollers.

And if you know a doc who is stretched way too thin right now, send this to her.

What did you think of the episode, doc? Let me know!

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Hey Doc —

Doctor’s Day can feel… underwhelming.

A small gesture. A generic message. Maybe a reminder that you’re appreciated, without anything actually changing.

And for a lot of physicians, that disconnect doesn’t go unnoticed.

In this episode, I’m sharing a different kind of Doctor’s Day message. Not about what you received, but about how you see yourself inside the system you work in.

We get into:

• Why external appreciation often falls short (and what actually matters more)
• How physicians underestimate their own leverage
• What it looks like to advocate for yourself at a higher level
• The shift from waiting to be valued → to operating like you already are

This is a short episode, but it’s an important one.

Because how you think about your value shows up in your decisions, your negotiations, and what you tolerate.

🎧 Press play on Stethoscopes and Strollers.

And take this as your reminder to move differently this week.

What did you think of the episode, doc? Let me know!

Subscribe to ✨Stethoscopes and Strollers✨ on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode.

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Connect with me: Website | Instagram | Facebook

Join my Email list to get tips on navigating motherhood in the medical field.

If you are going through a transition -- becoming a parent, leaving a job, figuring out how manage it all, schedule a strategy coaching session and get clarity and strategic next steps for the life and career you want.

Strategy Coaching Session with Dr. Toya