You may have made the decision, or had it made for you, but however you arrived at the moment, facing a divorce can be daunting

So what should you do first? In this episode, family lawyers and hosts Matt & Liza share their tips on the most important things to do and consider before getting a divorce.

00:00 Introductions
01:00 The different scenarios
01:10 The first thing to do is take your time
03:00 Getting in the right headspace
03:29 Building your support team
05:10 Use of divorce coaches and counsellors
05:45 The role of online resources, including Stowe support
08:10 Understand you are at different stages
09:50 The next three things you need to do
11:40 Managing finances
15:10 How to support your children
17:10 Preparing for your first lawyer meeting
22:05 How to tell your partner your marriage is over
28:20 The most important thing to do from Matt & Liza

Additional resources

Where do I start? A beginner’s guide to divorce: https://youtu.be/EhFpi8K9VZQ
Taking control of your finances on separation: https://youtu.be/CIp6n4pgd9k
How to prepare for a financial settlement: https://youtu.be/ixzT30CyMo0
The dangers of a DIY divorce: https://bit.ly/3Tsvql7
How to get a financial consent order: https://youtu.be/-FlSjw4tTXM
How to get divorced online: https://youtu.be/-LWs1MrGnT4

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

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It is normal to face challenges in a relationship, but what happens when one, or both people, completely disconnects and thoughts turn to leaving? How do you know the right time to end a relationship?

In this episode, divorce coach Dr. Sue Palmer-Conn joined us to discuss the challenging question of whether to stay or go, including common stress points and challenges couples face, how discernment counselling can help them make a decision, and why divorce or separation can change your life for the better.

Chapters

00:00 Introductions
03:07 What is discernment counselling? And how can it help a relationship?
03:43 The impact of losing connection
05:00 The limitations of marriage guidance
05:19 How does discernment counselling work?
09:09 What are common trigger points in relationships?
09:21 The different ways to disconnect
10:25 Making the decision to stay or go
11:34 What are the three main outcomes of discernment counselling?
12:30 Does it help make divorce more dignified?
14:08 How long does the process take?
19:30 How do you keep communication in a relationship going?
22:15 How do you break a rut in a relationship?
25:00 The pressure of time on a relationship
27:00 The impact of children
29:10 Retirement and empty nesters
30:00 Is the concept of marriage now outdated?
32:55 Sometimes leaving the relationship is the best decision
34:10 Separation can be positive
34:28 Sue’s top tips for people thinking about ending the relationship

Catch-up on Sue’s first podcast, dealing with a relationship breakdown during menopause https://bit.ly/3RQ5e2G

• The dangers of a DIY divorce - https://bit.ly/3Tsvql7
• Finding the unexpected joy of heartbreak with Rosie Wilby https://youtu.be/nmXO_2Rgv70
• Where do I start? A beginner’s guide to divorce: https://youtu.be/EhFpi8K9VZQ
• Handling fear and uncertainty: https://youtu.be/hQqziVrHnRg

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

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Introducing a new partner to your kids can be complicated, and requires careful thought and planning to get it right.

So we asked parenting and relationship coach Nichole Farrow to join us to share her advice on how to introduce a new partner, including:

• Fostering good communication with the other parent
• The importance of a gradual introduction - baby steps all the way
• Ensuring thoughtful planning
• Setting and sticking to boundaries
• The challenges and joy of a blended family
• And the need for patience, allowing time for adjustment in the new family dynamics.

00:00 Introductions
02:00The generation of divorce
03:35 What to think about before introducing a new partner
04:50 Letting your co-parent know first
08:10 How to tell your co-parent, you have a new partner
12:50 How to introduce a new partner to your children
14:20 If you take anything away, it’s take baby steps
14:38 Tips on how to help children if it is not managed correctly
18:45 Do different aged children need a different approach?
21:10 How to best introduce the children to each other
23:00 Adapting to new roles and family dynamics
23:42 How to introduce yourself to your partner’s children
26:20 The role of stepparents
28:06 The importance of setting clear boundaries for all
29:05 The use of parenting plans
29:26 How to handle and nurture blended families
31:07 What can you do if your blended family is not working well?
34:14 Nichole’s top tips for introducing a new partner

Additional resources

Supporting children through divorce: https://youtu.be/tMbi1vqkg4E
How to co-parent calmly and the challenges of blended families - https://youtu.be/7OGpehg2cws
Parenting alongside a narcissist https://youtu.be/b10mkX4Y3og
How to get a child arrangements order? https://youtu.be/YRnaUVqn95c
How to vary a child arrangements order? https://youtu.be/ackFKq5ITJU
Do I need my ex’s permission to take the kids on holiday https://youtu.be/Qi-Wg4mqjno

If you need support with the issues raised in this podcast, or would like to speak to a family lawyer, contact Stowe at: https://bit.ly/35WPSj2

Join our list to get the latest from our lawyers, divorce coaches and relationship experts sent monthly to your inbox. Everything you need, in one

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This podcast is brought to you by the Stowe talks team at Stowe Family Law - https://www.stowefamilylaw.co.uk/