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In this episode of The Day After, hosts Ashley and CJ welcome Jody to share her personal journey through grief, the challenges of solo parenting, and the healing process following the tragic loss of her husband. This episode dives into the raw and emotional experiences Jody faced after her husband was killed in a workplace violence incident, contrasting with CJ's own journey after losing his wife to breast cancer.

Jody and CJ discuss the heartbreaking decisions involved in end-of-life care and the emotional turmoil that follows. They highlight the practical difficulties encountered immediately after such a loss, from invasive questions regarding organ donation to needing strong support from family and friends. Jody opens up about the surreal and overwhelming transition to solo parenting and striving to find a balance between grieving and caring for her children. The distinction between solo and single parenting is explored, emphasizing the unique challenges and emotional toll faced by those who have lost a spouse.

The episode offers insight into the importance of setting boundaries, asking for help, and prioritizing self-care while dealing with profound loss. Both Jody and CJ reflect on their experiences with guilt and the struggle to reconcile moments of happiness amidst their grief, sharing how personal retreats and unconventional spaces helped them express and release their emotions.

Listeners will hear about the significance of maintaining connections with lost loved ones through rituals, memories, and shared stories. Jody shares heartwarming encounters and CJ speaks to the solace found in the enduring love of his late wife.

The profound impact of selling Jody's business, the psychological and physical toll of grief, and the ultimate importance of focusing on health and meaningful connections are themes richly woven throughout the conversation. This episode also delves into experiences with mediums, the support from their community, and the realization that listening is more vital than trying to “fix” grief.

Join us in this heartfelt episode as Jody's story conveys resilience, the importance of support systems, and the journey towards healing.

*Content Warning: This episode discusses themes of grief, loss, and trauma which may be triggering for some listeners.*

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Join hosts CJ and Ashley in this heartfelt episode of The Day After as they sit down with special guest, Paula. Paula opens up about her deeply personal journey through grief after the loss of her beloved husband, sharing the touching stories featured in her popular blog segment, "Martin Mondays," which evolved into a cherished book released on what would have been his 61st birthday.

Candidly, Paula discusses the challenge of accurately sharing her late husband's legacy and the therapeutic nature of writing for her and future generations. She provides insights into how her family navigated their grief, following the mantra of "grace and space," creating private time to process their emotions before accepting visitors. Paula's nurturing response to her children's grief reveals the profound impact her husband's injury and passing had on their family dynamic.

Throughout the episode, Paula unveils the gift of gratitude and growth she discovered through her grief, emphasizing the importance of allowing sorrow to transform and shape her relationships and legacy. She reflects on the tragic and ongoing losses, including her youngest brother before his graduation and the subsequent deaths of her nephew, sister, and husband, revealing how each loss compounded her grief yet allowed her to find purpose and intentionality in her life.

Paula’s resilience is showcased as she recounts the criticism she faced for not appearing as a "broken down widow" and how her faith helped her persevere, even as she participated in church activities shortly after her husband's passing. Open-hearted, Paula shares advice for others experiencing grief, highlighting the importance of honoring each person's unique process and language of grief.

The discussion shifts to Paula’s personal project management approach, the significance of her "five pillars of life," and how setting pillar goals kept her family integrated and focused through their grief journey. Paula wraps up with gratitude for the support systems outside her immediate family, emphasizing the difference between being a single parent and a solo parent, and the fortitude she gained from her mother's example of strength and resilience.

Tune in for an episode filled with love, loss, transformation, and the continuous journey of healing and honoring a loved one's legacy.

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Today's episode concludes our pet grief series! Did you enjoy the series? We'd love to hear from you. Let us know by sending us a message (link above)!

Ashley is away this week so CJ is joined by special co-host Elizabeth from episode 8. In this episode of The Day After, CJ & Elizabeth delve deep with Nicole as she shares the complex and heartbreaking experience of losing her cherished companion, Roger.

Through raw and vulnerable storytelling, Nicole shares the heart-wrenching moments leading up to Roger's passing due to heart disease, highlighting her feelings of guilt, shame, and overwhelming sadness. The episode captures Nicole's deep bond with Roger, portraying the unconditional love and unique connection they shared, reminiscent of the love she received from her grandmother.

As Nicole bravely explores her grief and coping mechanisms, listeners are invited to witness her transformative healing process. From initially feeling unprepared for new pets to eventually welcoming Arthur and Archibald into her life, Nicole's journey serves as a testament to the power of self-compassion and the profound impact of therapy, particularly EMDR and somatic therapy, in processing emotions and trauma.

The episode also touches upon themes of spirituality and connection, as Nicole recounts moments that make her believe in Roger's continued presence in her life. With discussions on the significance of mourning and embracing the grieving process, Nicole's story resonates with anyone who has experienced the profound loss of a beloved pet.

Through shared memories, reflections, and insights on self-love and healing, the episode offers a touching exploration of love, loss, and the resilience of the human spirit in the face of profound grief.

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