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After a divorce, many of us expect the worst of our emotional struggles to be over. But, as I've come to understand through my own journey and conversations with others, the first relationship after a divorce can bring a heartbreak that’s unexpected and uniquely f*cking painful.

In this episode, I dive into why this post-divorce heartbreak can feel even more intense than the divorce itself. I explore the emotional layers involved, from unresolved trauma to the pressures we put on ourselves to find happiness again. Most importantly, I discuss ways to navigate this pain and use it as a catalyst for healing and growth.

I hope you take something away from the episode, and please, if you do enjoy it, please please please help a gal out and rate and review the episode! Thank you 🥰

And if you’re ready for next level healing and truly turning the divorce plot twist into a magical happily ever after, why not come and join us in the Divorce Book Club….

We start September’s book on 1 September but all back episodes are there for all members to catch up if you need it.

So September’s book is….. (drum roll)

Getting Past your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You by Susan J Elliott.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0738213284/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

The blurb says:

It’s over—and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Forget it! Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out.

Getting Past Your Breakup is a proven roadmap for overcoming the painful end of any romantic relationship, even divorce. Through her workshops and popular blog, Susan Elliott has helped thousands of clients and readers transform their love lives. Now, she’ll help you put your energy back where it belongs—on you. Her plan includes:

• The rules of disengagement: how and why to go “no contact” with your ex
• How to work through grief, move past fear, and take back your life
• The secret to breaking the pattern of failed relationships
• What to do when you can’t stop thinking about your ex, texting, calling, checking social networking sites, or driving by the house

Now, THAT sounds like a super build to me! Do let me know if you want any more details about the book club - or indeed about anything divorce/break-up related.

The link to join etc. is also below ⬇️

Until next week then, sending you loads of love,

Sarah x

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In this episode of "The Divorce Chapter" podcast, I reflect on the challenges of coping with anniversaries after a divorce. As someone who's been through the utter shitshow of a marriage ending, I know first-hand how difficult these days can be, especially in that first year.

Anniversaries, such as your wedding date or other significant milestones shared with your ex, can bring a FLOOD of emotions—sadness, anger, or even a sense of loss for the future you once planned.

I delve into why these dates are so emotionally charged, and how they can trigger feelings of grief and nostalgia. I also share my own experiences with significant anniversaries, like how I dealt with my first wedding anniversary post-divorce by escaping to Cyprus and then making a decision to change my goddamn life.

Hopefully you’ll be able to get a few ideas too about how to plan ahead to reclaim the date and reclaim gorgeous YOU ❤️

In the episode, I also celebrate a new anniversary - the first one of this podcast. I never ever thought I’d be saying that but here we are and it’s all thanks to you as a wonderful listener.

Thank you thank you thank you 🥰

Here’s to another year of our next chapter 🌸

So much love,

Sarah x

P.S. We’ve also chosen September’s book over in the Divorce Book Club.

Getting Past your Breakup by Susan J Elliott has cropped up on my TBR list for the book club several times so it must be a sign 📚

The blurb says:

It’s over—and it really hurts. But as unbelievable as it may seem when you are in the throes of heartache, you can move past your breakup. Forget about trying to win your ex back. Forget about losing yourself and trying to make this person love you. Forget it! Starting today, this breakup is the best time to change your life for the better, inside and out.

You can check out the book here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0738213284/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I’d love to see you over there 📚

We start 1 September.

Link to join below ⬇️

THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/

INSTAGRAM

https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter

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In this episode, I look into the often-overlooked signs of abuse in relationships (after touching on Betrayal Blindness too). Abuse isn't always obvious; it can be subtle, manipulative, and deeply damaging. That’s why I’ve highlighted 15 key indicators that you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship.

1. Physical Violence

2. Verbal Abuse

3. Emotional Manipulation (plus DARVO explained)

4. Isolation

5. Control

6. Jealousy

7. Blame Shifting

8. Intimidation.

9. Financial Abuse

10. Sexual Abuse

11. Gaslighting

12. Threats

13. Punishing Behaviour

14. Digital/Technology Abuse

15. Unpredictable Behaviour

Each of these signs is a red flag in a relationship and can lead to a destructive cycle of abuse. My aim in this episode is to help recognise the signs and the patterns, whether that’s in your own relationships or in those around you. I really want to empower listeners to identify and break free from these harmful dynamics.

But I do know it’s not easy to get out and I also know that post separation abuse is another added worry…. So please please please do seek the proper support:

Women's Aid: Offers support services and a directory of local domestic abuse services.

https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Refuge: Provides emergency housing, support, and advocacy for women and children escaping domestic violence.

https://refuge.org.uk/

National Domestic Abuse Helpline: A 24-hour helpline offering confidential support and advice.

https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/contact-us/

These are all UK based ones but please do look out for support services in the country/State you are in.

And also, this month in the Divorce Book Club we are reading It’s Not You: How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People by Dr Ramani Durvasula. Dr Ramani is an expert in narcissistic abuse (including non-intimate relationships like a parent or your boss) and this book is also amazing for highlighting abuse in relationships. You can check out the book here:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1785045024/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21

I’d love to see you over there 📚

We started 1 August (but it’s never too late to join as access to all previous books and chapters available to all members)

Link to join below ⬇️

So until next week,

Sending you SO much love and please take care of you

Sarah x

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THE DIVORCE BOOK CLUB

https://patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub

FREE Guide to the 10 MUST read divorce books after divorce

https://thedivorcebookclub.com/free-resources/

INSTAGRAM

https://www.instagram.com/thedivorcechapter