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  • 91: Replay: Positive - A Wide Ranging Discussion with Professor Ben Hine

    91: Replay: Positive - A Wide Ranging Discussion with Professor Ben Hine
    Feb 15 2026
    This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

    Today we look back at my discussion with Professor Ben Hine.

    The episode originally aired as episode 59 on 24/11/2024 and here are the show notes from that episode:

    Today our guest is Professor Ben Hine PhD, CPsychol, FHEA

    Ben is a psychologist and Professor of Applied Psychology and Head of the School of Human and Social Sciences at the University of West London.

    He is a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society and has a BSc in Psychology and a PhD from Royal Holloway, University of London.

    He has published numerous articles in peer-reviewed journals on these topics and has presented his research at conferences around the world. He is a Fellow of the Higher Education Academy and has won several awards for his teaching and contributions to the field of psychology.

    His work has explored topics such as implicit bias, prejudice, and discrimination.

    He has published numerous articles in top-tier academic journals, including the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, and the European Journal of Social Psychology.

    In addition to his research, Professor Hine is also an accomplished teacher and mentor. He has won several awards for his teaching, including the Vice Chancellor's Teaching Excellence Award at the University of Winchester.

    His research is wide ranging, including a focus on gender within the criminal justice system and includes two large-scale projects assessing police officers' beliefs and judgements, and rape case reviews in collaboration with the Mayor's Office for Policing and Crime (MOPAC). He has also worked in collaboration with charities Safelives and The Mankind Initiative to conduct large scale case reviews to illuminate the needs of domestic violence victims.

    He now leads the Evidence-Based Domestic Abuse Research Network (EBDARN) bringing together researchers from several UK institutions to deliver this work.

    He has also researched the impact of family breakdown and experience with institutions such as the family court.

    He is a co-founder of the Men and Boys coalition, a network of organisations, academics, journalists, professionals, and leaders committed to highlighting and acting on the gender-specific issues that affect men and boys such as the high male suicide rate, the boy’s educational crisis, and fatherhood.

    He also acts as a trustee to The Mankind Initiative, and within the School of Human and Social Sciences, he acts as the Lead for Research and Enterprise.

    In this wide ranging discussion Ben discusses Shared Parenting, Family Court and change initiatives and much more.

    Sounding Like A 'Professional' Podcaster
    Most podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.

    In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link on my X page. There is also a crypto Link.

    You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional :-)

    Links

    Twitter/X - https://x.com/ProfHine
    Ben’s page at the University of West London website - https://www.uwl.ac.uk/staff/ben-hine
    Tedx Talk - How Can We Separate Better - https://drbenhine.co.uk/tedx-talk-how-can-we-separate-better/
    Book - Parental Alienation: A Contemporary Guide for Parents, Practitioners, and Policymakers -
    https://www.amazon.co.uk/Parental-Alienation-Contemporary-Practitioners-Policymakers/dp/B0C9KMYD27
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    1 h y 10 m
  • 90: Replay: Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro Discusses Alienation

    90: Replay: Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro Discusses Alienation
    Feb 1 2026

    Occasionally I want to look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today is one such episode. I wanted to revisit my discussion with Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro from episode 8. I hope you enjoy listening to it.

    It's one of my favourite episodes and even before today (April 14th 2024) is already the 8th most popular episode ever.

    It was a wide-ranging and interesting discussion with Dr. Marni who was a fantastic guest. I enjoyed talking with her a lot. Here are the show notes from the episode:

    In this episode we welcome Dr Marni Hill Foderaro and talk about her alienation story, path to growth and book series “True Deceit False Love” which addresses domestic violence, narcissistic abuse, parental alienation and intergenerational family trauma.

    Dr Marni earned her doctorate in education from Northern Illinois University and completed postdoctoral studies at Harvard during a very successful and rewarding 35-year career as a high school special education teacher, with 12 years as a university adjunct graduate school professor.

    Many alienation cases involve young children but Dr Marni’s children were in their 20s when alienation occurred and we discuss this.

    Her books provide a creative response and resources to help understand a variety of challenging family dynamics, including parental alienation.

    Dr Marni gives talks on these topics and in January 2022 Marni was inducted into the Bestselling Authors International Organization.

    I enjoyed greatly talking with Dr Marni. I found it illuminating to hear her inspirational story of self-care, her journey out of trauma and into book writing as well as her insights on healing, generational trauma and alienation.

    Sounding Like A 'Professional' Podcaster
    Most podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.

    In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk

    You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional :-)

    Links
    Dr Marni isn’t on social media but her web links are:
    Website: https://www.GodCameToMyGarageSale.com
    Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/drmarnihillfoderaro
    Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mnhsXs98ops

    The original episode aired as episode 8 on 11th December 2022:
    https://audioboom.com/posts/8175647-books-dr-marni-hill-foderaro-discusses-alienation
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    1 h y 39 m
  • 89: Replay: Incentives - How Incentives Work Against Good Outcomes

    89: Replay: Incentives - How Incentives Work Against Good Outcomes
    Jan 18 2026

    This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

    Today we look back at my episode on how incentives work against good outcomes.

    The episode originally aired as episode 37 on 21/1/2024 and here are the show notes from that episode:

    Many of us have seen incentives play out badly in family court, with solicitors milking Legal Aid, milking parents, parents making false allegations to get Legal Aid, prolonging cases and taking a case that could resolve amicably and blowing it out of the water to the detriment of parents and children.

    In this episode I discuss how incentives in other industries, and disruption to them, could improve things for parents and children if applied to family law. To illustrate this I make reference to episodes from Peter Diamandis' Moonshots podcast, which is fantastic and I highly recommend.

    Sounding Like A 'Professional' Podcaster
    Most podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.

    In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link on my X page. There is also a crypto Link.

    You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional :-)

    Links
    1. Moonshots Podcast - EP #1 How to Save the World with Elon Musk
    https://www.diamandis.com/podcast/elon

    2. Moonshots Podcast - EP #37 How The Founder of Oculus is Building High-Tech Weapons to Protect America w/ Palmer Luckey
    https://www.diamandis.com/podcast/palmer-luckey

    3. Moonshots Podcast - EP #38 Palmer Luckey's AMA: The Politics of Winning the A.I. Race
    https://www.diamandis.com/podcast/palmer-luckey-ama

    4. Moonshots Podcast - EP #50 Oculus Founder On Apple Vision Pro w/ Palmer Luckey
    https://www.diamandis.com/podcast/palmer-luckey-oculus

    5. Moonshots Podcast - EP #79 Elon Musk on Abundance, AGI, And The Media In 2024
    https://www.diamandis.com/podcast/elon-musk-on-abundance

    6. Rebooting the Arsenal of Democracy with Palmer Luckey
    https://podtail.com/podcast/a16z/rebooting-the-arsenal-of-democracy-with-palmer-luc/
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    11 m
  • 88: Spaces: New X Spaces About My Case

    88: Spaces: New X Spaces About My Case
    Jan 4 2026
    I have started doing short X Spaces, not in the usual way with guests, but as a short voice clips with just me. A full description of why is here:

    https://x.com/FairParentingUK/status/1949541228217016589

    I began this with episode 80 and I update it in this episode and I will continue as long as I am able.

    I feel the other parent will ultimately destroy me. I don't know why that is but it is clearly her aim and for 7 years I have lived in fear of her.

    My co-parent has abandoned her child and hasn't even called her since December - also no birthday cards, Christmas cards, no interest in her child's welfare, no interest in parental decisions despite requests for input, etc.

    My co-parent instead spent the last year taking my family's house and hiring an ex-soldier, also taking our passports and leaving us near a war zone - all when we had an agreement to parent in the UK. She walked away from that agreement but never said why.

    For all that time and she has an open offer to revisit that or try mediation again. Instead all actions for 7 years have been aggressive for no reason. I believe most people would be fairly terrified.

    My co-parent clearly doesn't want to parent our child but she won't let me and our child move on safely. Currently the risk of a regional war is rising again and my daughter has fallen ill. The UK and my co-parent couldn't care whether we are alive or dead and this has been the case for 2 years.

    The clips are recorded quickly and are not as slick or as high quality in audio terms as the podcast normally is but they form a real-time record of things. They are all available on my X account and friends are posting them elsewhere in case my X account disappears.

    Sounding Like A 'Professional' Podcaster
    Most podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.

    In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link on my X page. There is also a crypto Link.

    You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional :-)
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    6 m
  • 87: Replay: Coping - Simple Ideas For Christmas and Beyond

    87: Replay: Coping - Simple Ideas For Christmas and Beyond
    Dec 21 2025

    Today is an episode in the replay series. I revisit an episode I did about coping at Christmas. I replay this episode each year as it may help people cope with specific challenges at this time of year.

    Christmas can be a difficult time whether you are a targeted parent or not.

    This episode first aired in Christmas 2022 and it highlights 12 ways to help you cope with #ParentalAlienation or #FamilyCourt

    We have episodes published and planned with experts in their fields to go into depth in specific areas but for now I wanted to give a quick list of many things you can try.

    In my experience nothing works all the time but many things work at different times and that's fine. As John Lennon said 'Whatever gets you through the night'.

    This is the seventh Christmas for my case. By Christmas 2018 I hadn't seen my child for over 2 months. It was terrible but, little did I know, the abuse was only just beginning. Despite a solicitors letter my abuser wouldn't allow even a moment with our child. Are abusers oblivious to the heartbreak that causes or do they revel in it?

    I am no expert in the ideas in this episode but I have tried many of them and found they help. This episode is just a quick surface run through which may provide you a springboard to try them or find out more by searching the internet or Youtube.

    Whether you are seeing your children or not, have a good Christmas. The system is broken and causes harm to us and the children but change will come in time. Parts of the world are improving so there is hope. Above all stay strong for your children.

    Many listeners are suffering alienation because a co-parent has taken their children. Others are going through divorce and suffering stress and an uncertain outcome. Many are suffering psychological abuse. If you are still living with your co-parent and are suffering physical abuse seek immediate help.

    If your life is in danger through physical or psychological abuse, assault or suicide please contact support services whether it is the police or suicide prevention charities. Do what you can. Look after yourself for your children.

    Links to the personal development leaders mentioned:
    https://www.tonyrobbins.com
    https://www.jimrohn.com
    https://www.naphill.org
    https://www.josephmcclendon.com
    https://www.melrobbins.com

    Sounding Like A 'Professional' Podcaster
    Most podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.

    In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link here: https://buymeacoffee.com/coffeeforfairparentinguk

    You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional :-)
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    19 m
  • 86: Plans: The Harm Done And Planned For Us

    86: Plans: The Harm Done And Planned For Us
    Dec 7 2025
    A quick episode to update my case and the harm already done and being planned for me and my child.

    Links
    Here are some links to information mentioned in the episode. I am told the Substack is growing all the time and will have more documents.

    Summary -
    https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/dad-and-daughter-in-danger

    Note: This also shows screenshots from the parenting app showing the other parent is not calling her child or sending birthday and Christmas cards and refusing to give input or views into medical, educational or welfare matters.

    Police Evidence of the 17 malicious calls and their conclusions I did nothing wrong -
    https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/police-evidence-kennedy-called-police

    Court Advisor Report - https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/official-reports-cafcass-safeguarding

    The other 4 podcast episodes about my case (they cover more detail of the last 7 years but don't cover the most recent events discussed in Episode 86) -
    https://friendsoffairparentingpodcast.substack.com/p/podcasts

    Sounding Like A 'Professional' Podcaster
    Most podcasts have a BuyMeACoffee link and ask listeners to write reviews. I meant to do that at launch in 2022 but never got around to it. I don't often look at the podcast stats but I did this week and noticed a large increase over the last 3 months. That's great. I am thankful to all listeners and guests.

    In the spirit of becoming more professional, if you want to support the podcast there is a BuyMeACoffee link on my X page. There is also a crypto Link.

    You can also support the podcast by writing a review on your podcast provider's platform and by reposting the episodes on social media. I am told reviews 'help the algorithm'....at least I hear other people say that and it sounds professional :-)
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    21 m
  • 85: Replay: Paternity - Test Issues for Mums, Dads and Children

    85: Replay: Paternity - Test Issues for Mums, Dads and Children
    Nov 23 2025
    This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

    Today we look back at my episode on paternity testing. This is apt as El Salvador has just introduced paternity testing for all babies born there.

    The episode originally aired as episode 45 on 12/5/2024 and here are the show notes from that episode:

    In the light of a recent news story, I look at paternity testing and whether dads should be able to get a test outside of court proceedings.

    Some people might see this as an issue for men but it is wider. I discuss how testing has issues for mums, dads and children, including how paternity tests can improve health outcomes for children.

    Links
    I mention a recent video from a judge which went viral. Here is one of many links to it: https://twitter.com/VetFather_Bill/status/1758955451167723961
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    10 m
  • 84: Replay: Law - Lawyer Raymond Hekmat Discusses Family Law In California, Prenups And His Work As A Divorce Consultant And Mediator

    84: Replay: Law - Lawyer Raymond Hekmat Discusses Family Law In California, Prenups And His Work As A Divorce Consultant And Mediator
    Nov 9 2025
    This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

    Today we look back at my episode with Raymond Hekmat. It originally aired as episode 24 on 23/7/2023 and here are the show notes from that episode:

    Raymond Hekmat is a lawyer and founder of Hekmat Law & Mediation, APC based in Beverly Hills.

    They focus on family law with areas including divorce, paternity, custody, support issues as well as prenuptial agreements.

    Raymond earned his Juris Doctorate degree from Loyola Law School in 2009. During his tenure at Loyola, Raymond was President of the Evening Bar Association, and was awarded the Alumni Association Governors’ Alumni Award. While earning his degree, Raymond worked as a law clerk, and later an associate, for a Beverly Hills family law firm.

    Later Raymond was an associate with Law Offices of Schuchman & Aldin in Century City, where he managed his own complex family law caseload, as well as provided assistance to the partners in family law litigation.

    He is admitted to practice law in California and is a member of the Los Angeles County and Beverly Hills Bar Associations.

    Raymond received his Bachelor of Arts degree in International Studies, with honors, and a minor in Business Management from the University of California at Irvine, with study at the London School of Economics in London, England.

    He was also a member of the Division I UCI Men’s Tennis Team, and continues to play competitive tennis as a member of the USTA.

    Raymond was born and raised in Los Angeles and lives in West Los Angeles with his wife and two sons.

    Raymond also has the distinction of being the first lawyer to appear on the podcast!

    The discussion is wide ranging and covers topics including differences between family law in Britain and California, free speech and a refreshing take on why prenups can be a good idea for most, not just the rich and famous.

    One correction I want to make is, in this episode, I referred back to episode 16 and my discussion with Dr. Larry Waldman Ph.D. ABPP. I mistakenly referred to him as a psychotherapist whereas he is of course a psychologist. If you haven't heard episode 16 it's well worth listening to as Dr. Waldman had great experience and insights, as does Raymond in this episode.

    Raymond's Links
    Website - hekmatfamilylaw.com
    Youtube - theprenupguy
    TikTok - theprenupguy
    Instagram - hekmatfamilylaw
    The documentary Raymond mentions is Divorce Corp https://www.divorcecorp.com
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    57 m