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  • 188: I'd Rather Be Disliked Than Be Fake - Authenticity Talk

    188: I'd Rather Be Disliked Than Be Fake - Authenticity Talk
    Nov 12 2025
    ✨ In today’s episode, we talk about choosing authenticity over approval.

    We’ve all been there — shrinking ourselves so people will like us, doubting our art because of opinions, or making decisions based on how we’ll be perceived. But what happens when we finally decide…

    💥 “I’d rather you dislike me for being myself than love me for being someone else.”

    We discuss:
    • people-pleasing
    • releasing outside validation
    • creative confidence
    • setting boundaries
    • choosing YOU

    If you're an artist, a creative, or someone who’s tired of worrying about what others think — this episode is for you.

    Watch this episode on Youtube: https://youtu.be/thBRvCMMQKE
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    ⏳ TIMESTAMPS / CHAPTERS
    00:00 Intro + Banter
    01:31 I’d rather you hate me for being me
    04:21 Breaking the validation addiction
    12:31 Why artists struggle with self-worth
    20:46 Communicating value & worth
    27:11 Learning to say "no" without guilt
    33:41 Creating for yourself instead of approval
    41:01 When peace becomes the priority
    47:21 Final takeaways + loving who you are

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    📌 RESOURCES MENTIONED
    • Book: “Not Nice” by Dr. Aziz Gazipura
    • Book: "The Courage To Be Disliked" by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga

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    💬 QUESTION FOR YOU:
    What’s one area of your life where you're choosing to be more authentic?

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    If this episode helped you, share it with someone who needs the reminder:
    ➡️ You don’t need permission to be yourself.

    #selfworth #authenticity #selflove #podcast #creatives #stoppeoplepleasing #mentalhealth #boundaries #selfgrowth
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    50 m
  • 187: What is A Monitoring Spirit?

    187: What is A Monitoring Spirit?
    Nov 5 2025
    Left and right we are coming across more and more people claiming that others are monitoring spirits. But what does that even really mean? Who are they? Maybe we accidentally ended up watching your story or simply didn't resonate with the content. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Where does the line begin and end? Let's dive deeper as we discuss what is a monitoring spirit?

    Welcome to the Grae Area. We are @bn.breeze8709 @JusMeShakoyahD and @WhoisDamani_ Through uncommon topics that make us laugh when we shouldn’t, we make conversations fun again. We love to laugh, create, and inspire while having unique and thought provoking conversations.

    Join the Patreon to watch us live patreon.com/thegraearea
    Watch this episode on Youtube https://youtu.be/9YpPdsUwS9Y
    Link for Join The B.O.O.K Club https://discord.gg/ksJfTECCuR

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    Stream our intro song, "Get Out My Face" by ShakoyahD., Daman((I)), and Bn.Breeze: https://music.apple.com/us/album/get-out-my-face-feat-daman-i-bn-breeze-single/1778176776

    NEW MUSIC From The Grae Area:
    "Til Shiloh" - BN.Breeze https://music.apple.com/us/song/til-shiloh/1820090387
    "Ambivert" - Daman((I)) https://music.apple.com/us/album/ambivert-the-introversion/1838538778
    "I'll Let You" - ShakoyahD. https://linktr.ee/jusmeshakoyahd

    Buy Our Music
    ShakoyahD. https://www.even.biz/r/i-ll-let-you
    Daman((I)) https://www.even.biz/r/ambivert-the-introversion

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    Email Us: Thegraeareapodcast@gmail.com

    00:00 – Intro
    00:47 – what is a monitoring spirit?
    05:14 – do you feel like monitoring spirits are real?
    14:03 – have you been called a monitoring spirit?
    22:42 – monitoring spirits vs someone who is entertained
    27:35 – does monitoring spirits have to do with access
    34:12 – final thoughts & how to stay divinely protected, supported
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    40 m
  • 186: Why People Don’t Celebrate Your Wins (and Why You Should Anyway)

    186: Why People Don’t Celebrate Your Wins (and Why You Should Anyway)
    Oct 29 2025
    In this episode of The Grae Area Podcast, we talk about the importance of showing the world how to treat you — especially when it comes to your creativity. Why do people cheer louder when you get a 9–5 than when you follow your dream? How do you stay excited about your art when the money hasn’t caught up yet?

    From “business showers” to taking naps before celebrating wins, this one’s about self-celebration, trust, and keeping your joy even when others don’t understand your vision.

    Welcome to the Grae Area. We are @bn.breeze8709 @JusMeShakoyahD and @WhoisDamani_ Through uncommon topics that make us laugh when we shouldn’t, we make conversations fun again. We love to laugh, create, and inspire while having unique and thought provoking conversations.

    Join the Patreon to watch us live patreon.com/thegraearea
    Watch this episode on Youtube https://youtu.be/iyITLno1RYk
    Link for Join The B.O.O.K Club https://discord.gg/ksJfTECCuR

    Take our survey: https://forms.gle/BjWJeAWewAUWbCUD6

    Stream our intro song, "Get Out My Face" by ShakoyahD., Daman((I)), and Bn.Breeze: https://music.apple.com/us/album/get-out-my-face-feat-daman-i-bn-breeze-single/1778176776

    NEW MUSIC From The Grae Area:
    "Til Shiloh" - BN.Breeze https://music.apple.com/us/song/til-shiloh/1820090387
    "Ambivert" - Daman((I)) https://music.apple.com/us/album/ambivert-the-introversion/1838538778
    "I'll Let You" - ShakoyahD. https://linktr.ee/jusmeshakoyahd

    Buy Our Music
    ShakoyahD. https://www.even.biz/r/i-ll-let-you
    Daman((I)) https://www.even.biz/r/ambivert-the-introversion

    Follow us on IG @GraeAreaPodcast
    Email Us: Thegraeareapodcast@gmail.com

    00:00 – Teaching the world how to treat you
    00:47 – Why people celebrate jobs more than dreams
    06:36 – “Business showers” and redefining celebration
    09:40 – Show your excitement so others can too
    18:13 – Don’t be too cool to geek out about what you love
    24:18 – Separating creativity from financial stress
    35:50 – When people project fear onto your dreams
    37:17 – Celebrate like it’s your birthday (literally)
    41:00 – Trusting your own vision first
    48:42 – Small wins, “monitoring spirits,” and closing thoughts
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    56 m
  • 185: Being Real Without Losing Yourself: Authenticity and Boundaries

    185: Being Real Without Losing Yourself: Authenticity and Boundaries
    Oct 22 2025
    What does it really mean to be authentic? In this episode of The Grae Area Podcast, we unpack the layers of showing up as your true self — even when the room doesn’t always feel safe to do so. From people-pleasing habits to growth, boundaries, and evolution, they get real about what authenticity looks like, how it changes with time, and why it’s not a one-size-fits-all journey.

    Get ready for laughs, insights, and a few truth bombs about being genuine in a world full of masks.

    Welcome to the Grae Area. We are @bn.breeze8709 @JusMeShakoyahD and @WhoisDamani_ Through uncommon topics that make us laugh when we shouldn’t, we make conversations fun again. We love to laugh, create, and inspire while having unique and thought provoking conversations.

    Join the Patreon to watch us live patreon.com/thegraearea
    Watch this episode on Youtube https://youtu.be/R4ALEPL5g8Q
    Link for Join The B.O.O.K Club https://discord.gg/ksJfTECCuR

    Take our survey: https://forms.gle/BjWJeAWewAUWbCUD6

    Stream our intro song, "Get Out My Face" by ShakoyahD., Daman((I)), and Bn.Breeze: https://music.apple.com/us/album/get-out-my-face-feat-daman-i-bn-breeze-single/1778176776

    NEW MUSIC From The Grae Area:
    "Til Shiloh" - BN.Breeze https://music.apple.com/us/song/til-shiloh/1820090387
    "Ambivert" - Daman((I)) https://music.apple.com/us/album/ambivert-the-introversion/1838538778
    "I'll Let You" - ShakoyahD. https://linktr.ee/jusmeshakoyahd

    Buy Our Music
    ShakoyahD. https://www.even.biz/r/i-ll-let-you
    Daman((I)) https://www.even.biz/r/ambivert-the-introversion

    Follow us on IG @GraeAreaPodcast
    Email Us: Thegraeareapodcast@gmail.com

    00:00 intro
    00:52 in the past did you show up authentically in every room?
    04:20 do you allow yourself to show up authentically in every room now?
    14:26 what does authenticity look like to you?
    25:04 have you experienced someone feeling like you weren’t being authentic even though you were?
    37:32 are people always changing?
    46:13 will you always be authentic going forward?
    48:56 what’s the key to being authentic every day
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    54 m
  • 184: Good Intentions, Bad Decisions — The Grae Area of Making Choices

    184: Good Intentions, Bad Decisions — The Grae Area of Making Choices
    Oct 15 2025
    This week on The Grae Area Podcast, we get into one of life’s toughest questions — can a decision still be good if the outcome turns out bad?

    From robbing a bank to save Grandma’s house (😅) to saving the Joker, quitting jobs, and even burning out from “success,” let's explore how our intentions, process, and results shape the way we see our choices. This episode challenges you to rethink how you define a “good” or “bad” decision — and to trust yourself more along the way. Let's pod! Sometimes you have Good Intentions but make Bad Decisions. Let's talk about The Grae Area of Making Choices.

    Welcome to the Grae Area. We are @bn.breeze8709 @JusMeShakoyahD and @WhoisDamani_ Through uncommon topics that make us laugh when we shouldn’t, we make conversations fun again. We love to laugh, create, and inspire while having unique and thought provoking conversations.

    Join the Patreon to watch us live patreon.com/thegraearea
    Watch this episode on Youtube https://youtu.be/R4ALEPL5g8Q
    Link for Join The B.O.O.K Club https://discord.gg/ksJfTECCuR

    Take our survey: https://forms.gle/BjWJeAWewAUWbCUD6

    Stream our intro song, "Get Out My Face" by ShakoyahD., Daman((I)), and Bn.Breeze: https://music.apple.com/us/album/get-out-my-face-feat-daman-i-bn-breeze-single/1778176776

    NEW MUSIC From The Grae Area:
    "Til Shiloh" - BN.Breeze https://music.apple.com/us/song/til-shiloh/1820090387
    "Ambivert" - Daman((I)) https://music.apple.com/us/album/ambivert-the-introversion/1838538778
    "I'll Let You" - ShakoyahD. https://linktr.ee/jusmeshakoyahd

    Buy Our Music
    ShakoyahD. https://www.even.biz/r/i-ll-let-you
    Daman((I)) https://www.even.biz/r/ambivert-the-introversion

    Follow us on IG @GraeAreaPodcast
    Email Us: Thegraeareapodcast@gmail.com

    00:00 Intro
    00:51 check out Damani’s new album
    01:36 can a decision be good if the outcome is bad?
    02:20 is it based on intention, result, or process to get to the decision?
    07:10 when does your responsibility end?
    17:30 is it the process to make the decision or the journey after?
    24:22 does a good outcome mean it’s always a good decision?
    29:10 what makes a decision good?
    35:40 why do we harp so much on whether or not this is a good or bad decision?
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    46 m
  • 183: Living in the Present: Finding Peace Between Past and Future

    183: Living in the Present: Finding Peace Between Past and Future
    Oct 8 2025
    What does it really mean to live in the present? Let's unpack how our constant focus on the past or anxiety about the future keeps us from truly experiencing the now.

    From personal reflections to funny car stories, this episode blends philosophy, mindfulness, and real-life moments that remind us to appreciate where we are. You’ll hear discussions about how decision-making is shaped by old experiences, how to balance ambition with gratitude, and why time might just be an illusion after all.

    🎧 Tune in, reflect, and take a breath — because the present moment is truly all we have.

    Welcome to the Grae Area. We are @bn.breeze8709 @JusMeShakoyahD and @WhoisDamani_ Through uncommon topics that make us laugh when we shouldn’t, we make conversations fun again. We love to laugh, create, and inspire while having unique and thought provoking conversations.

    Join the Patreon to watch us live patreon.com/thegraearea
    Watch this episode on Youtube https://youtu.be/f-Sr-W8CWuI
    Link for Join The B.O.O.K Club https://discord.gg/ksJfTECCuR
    Video Mentioned: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8AM3px4/

    Take our survey: https://forms.gle/BjWJeAWewAUWbCUD6

    Stream our intro song, "Get Out My Face" by ShakoyahD., Daman((I)), and Bn.Breeze: https://music.apple.com/us/album/get-out-my-face-feat-daman-i-bn-breeze-single/1778176776

    NEW MUSIC From The Grae Area:
    "Til Shiloh" - BN.Breeze https://music.apple.com/us/song/til-shiloh/1820090387
    "Ambivert" - Daman((I)) https://music.apple.com/us/album/ambivert-the-introversion/1838538778

    Follow us on IG @GraeAreaPodcast
    Email Us: Thegraeareapodcast@gmail.com
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    51 m
  • 182: The 30 Package

    182: The 30 Package
    Oct 1 2025
    Picking Your 30s Like a Subscription Plan...
    What if your 30s came with a menu of “life packages” — like picking a cell phone plan? In this episode of The Grae Area Podcast, we dive into a hilarious yet eye-opening conversation inspired by a viral video about “choosing your package before 30.” https://youtube.com/shorts/GTNxsR-NwQg?si=_KDfkcnHBY0f6tGW

    From juggling good jobs with bad backs to finding love late, we break down the “packages” and then build our own custom versions — with creativity, family, travel, health, and happiness at the center.

    This isn’t just laughs — it’s about mindset, planning, and realizing that what you focus on shapes the life you live. Whether you’re in your 20s, 30s, or beyond, this one’s packed with gems on how to pick (and create) the life you actually want.

    Welcome to the Grae Area. We are @bn.breeze8709 @JusMeShakoyahD and @WhoisDamani_ Through uncommon topics that make us laugh when we shouldn’t, we make conversations fun again. We love to laugh, create, and inspire while having unique and thought provoking conversations.

    Join the Patreon to watch us live patreon.com/thegraearea
    Watch this episode on Youtube https://youtu.be/ljj_hIaFuZg
    Link for Join The B.O.O.K Club https://discord.gg/ksJfTECCuR

    Take our survey: https://forms.gle/BjWJeAWewAUWbCUD6

    Stream our intro song, "Get Out My Face" by ShakoyahD., Daman((I)), and Bn.Breeze: https://music.apple.com/us/album/get-out-my-face-feat-daman-i-bn-breeze-single/1778176776

    NEW MUSIC From The Grae Area:
    "Til Shiloh" - BN.Breeze https://music.apple.com/us/song/til-shiloh/1820090387
    "Ambivert" - Daman((I)) https://music.apple.com/us/album/ambivert-the-introversion/1838538778

    Follow us on IG @GraeAreaPodcast
    Email Us: Thegraeareapodcast@gmail.com

    00:00 Intro
    00:52 The 30 package
    06:36 Which package does your life most closely align with?
    20:56 Is 30 as bad as the video made it seem?
    29:44 How you see yourself determines your package
    33:59 Nobody prepares for the next 10 years
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    50 m
  • 181: The Value of Scarcity

    181: The Value of Scarcity
    Sep 17 2025
    The value of something is not determined by if there is an abundance of it or not. We spend so much time focused on how scarce things might be but what happens when we shift our mindsets to look at it in a new way? We might find that somethings have value simply because they are rare. A wise man named Daman((I)) once said, “In everything that’s abundant, there ends up being some level of rarity”. Let’s pod about The Value of Scarcity

    Welcome to the Grae Area. We are @bn.breeze8709 @JusMeShakoyahD and @WhoisDamani_ Through uncommon topics that make us laugh when we shouldn’t, we make conversations fun again. We love to laugh, create, and inspire while having unique and thought provoking conversations.

    Join the Patreon to watch us live patreon.com/thegraearea
    Watch this episode on Youtube https://youtu.be/dZwJVmKWxJM
    Link for Join The B.O.O.K Club https://discord.gg/ksJfTECCuR

    Take our survey: https://forms.gle/BjWJeAWewAUWbCUD6

    Stream our intro song, "Get Out My Face" by ShakoyahD., Daman((I)), and Bn.Breeze: https://music.apple.com/us/album/get-out-my-face-feat-daman-i-bn-breeze-single/1778176776

    NEW MUSIC From The Grae Area:
    "Til Shiloh" - BN.Breeze https://music.apple.com/us/song/til-shiloh/1820090387
    "Ambivert" - Daman((I)) https://music.apple.com/us/album/ambivert-the-introversion/1838538778

    Follow us on IG @GraeAreaPodcast
    Email Us: Thegraeareapodcast@gmail.com

    00:00 intro
    00:57 Everything that is scarce has more value
    11:52 scarcity vs rarity
    14:52 what determines the value of something?
    19:41 does abundance make things invisible and scarcity make things visible?
    22:28 how can you not value your own uniqueness
    31:35 it goes back to your mindset
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    48 m