Today on the show, I’m talking to the host of the Rethinking Manhood podcast, Destyn Land. Destyn and I discuss men and sex. Sounds simple but when you start to layer in shame, silence, and how by grade 3 you’re already comparing penis size–it gets a lot more complicated. I first saw Destyn’s work when a friend shared one of his posts on Instagram. It was a beautiful piece about men and how society has created this pressure to prove how “straight” you are. This could be by catcalling women or making homophobic comments. Destyn’s posts are always thoughtful, well researched and when I found out he had a podcast, I just had to listen.

Resources from the Show

Destyn Land: @destynforgreatness

Rethinking Manhood Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3bQw3DWTRuCmlGXFvYrVya?si=c26149d4a7474d36

Instagram: @rethinkingmanhood 

Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsex

Euphoria on Crave

Heartstopper on Netflix and Comics

Bi-erasure definition: https://www.glaad.org/bisexual

The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love by bell hooks

Today on the show, I have brought back a crowd favourite—my husband, Levi Hildebrand. Levi and I talk about our experience of using Fertility Awareness Method over the past 8 months and the impact not being on birth control has had on our sex life. We also do a bit of a deep dive on masculinity and how just now Levi feels like he is choosing what that means for himself.

Resources from the show! 

Levi Hildebrand Instagram: @levihildebrand 

Levi and Leah YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/LeviHildebrand 

Boys and Sex by Peggy Orenstein: https://www.peggyorenstein.com/boysandsex

Come As You Are by Dr. Emily Nagoski : https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/22609341-come-as-you-are

Today on the show, I am answering your questions about opening up relationships and BDSM. But I’m not answering them alone. I am honoured to share my interview with Registered Clinical Counsellor, Sarah Watson, who helps me navigate your questions surrounding trauma and sexuality.

References from the Show!

Sarah Watson: https://sarahwatsontherapy.com/

Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel S.F. Heller: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/9547888-attached

Polysecure by Jessica Fern: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52569124-polysecure

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-as-You-Are/Emily-Nagoski/9781476762111

Allura Website $50 webinars: Sex and Trauma : https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5b162a5675f9ee6cc62c56b5/t/61a68fc8cdbab21c1afb1d71/1638305736878/Sex+%2B+Trauma+Flyer.pdf

Self Harm Resources: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/anxiety/cutting-and-self-harm.htm

Sexual Configurations Theory: https://www.academia.edu/37691857/_SCT_Zine_Mapping_Your_Sexuality_From_Sexual_Orientation_to_Sexual_Configurations_Theory

Sue Johnson: A(ccessible)R(esponsive)E(ngaged) you there for me?

Debunking 5 Common Myths About Kink: https://www.slice.ca/sex-sessions-art-debunking-common-myths-about-kink/

5 Things Science Has Taught Us About BDSM: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/2021/8/16/5-things-science-has-taught-us-about-bdsm/

B.C.’s Capital City Leads the Country in Trans and Non-binary Representation:

https://www.coastmountainnews.com/news/b-c-s-capital-city-leads-the-country-in-trans-and-non-binary-representation/