If you’ve tried to “work on yourself” as a husband, to transform from weak to confident, and it still hasn’t stuck… and your wife still doesn't desire you...this one’s for you.

You build new habits for a week or two, white-knuckle your way through being “more patient,” “more spiritual,” “more romantic”… and then your wife’s look tells you the truth: nothing really changed. The shame hits. You try harder. It fails again.
That cycle is PAINFUL— and it is not how the Kingdom works.

In this episode I’m unpacking why self-improvement keeps Christian men stuck and how the Holy Spirit actually transforms you from the inside out — from “weak, ashamed, spinning your wheels” into a man who walks in quiet confidence, masculine presence, and supernatural power. Not a man obsessed with avoiding sin… a Word-made man who embodies the promises of God.

In this episode we cover:

Why the version of faith you inherited feels disappointing and powerless
The brutal problem with “Christian change methods” (just pray, read, avoid sin…)
The difference between behavior modification and identity overhaul
How shame slowly poisons your transformation attempts
What it means to become a “word made man” instead of a rule-keeper
How the Holy Spirit convicts you into hope, not condemnation
The simple Kingdom way to renew your mind and tap real dynamite power
How this inner transformation turns you into a confident, attractive husband

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This is the best place to start if your marriage feels cold, distant, or passionless.

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This is only for men who are ready and able to make a significant investment. If that’s not you yet, focus on the book, the tactical guide, and the free training above.

Too many Christian husbands have been discipled into hovering puppy dogs instead of dangerous, mission-driven men of God. We’ve been told “love your wife, be nice, serve more, be patient”… but nobody showed us EXACTLY how Adam lost his wife’s respect or how Song of Solomon shows a wife who can’t keep her hands off her man.

In this episode, we go deep into Genesis 2–3 and Song of Solomon to expose how Adam laid down his mission, orbitted his wife like a desperate puppy, and opened the door to the serpent. Then we contrast that with a king on mission whose bride says, “Draw me after you—let us run.” If you’ve felt like a different man at work than you are at home… if your wife feels cold, critical, or distant… this is going to punch you in the chest in the best way.

We’ll talk about how to stop obsessively hovering around your wife, reclaim your God-given mission, rebuild her respect, and invite her back into your chambers as a confident, grounded, masculine husband. Not by getting louder or harsher—but by becoming a man who is validated by God, rooted in identity, and willing to set boundaries and lead.

🔥 If you’re done being the hovering puppy dog husband and you want help becoming the man your wife is actually wired to desire…

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You don’t have to stay stuck in a cold, resentful, sexless marriage. Heaven calls you more than a conqueror. Start acting like it.

Chapters

00:00 The Foundation of Marital Bliss
05:17 Identifying the Hovering Puppy Dog Husband
17:57 Restoring Respect and Attraction
25:19 Taking Action for a Thriving Marriage

In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, host Matt Hallock explores how the desire to please God can accidentally lead to passivity in marriage. He emphasizes the importance of taking action and partnering with God rather than constantly waiting FOR God. Through biblical examples, particularly the story of Jonathan, Matt encourages men to take initiative in their marriages and lives. He also discusses practical steps for change and highlights resources available for men seeking transformation.

Takeaways

Your desire to please God can lead to inaction.
Passivity in marriage can lead to deterioration.
Women are attracted to men who take action.
God desires partnership with us in our actions.
Moses was rebuked for inaction; God wants us to move forward.
Jonathan took initiative without direct revelation from God.
Taking action can initiate God's miraculous work.
You have a green light to act until told otherwise.
Transformation can feel effortless with the right mindset.
Resources like the Masculine Husband program can facilitate change.

Pick up your copy of The DNA of a Man here: https://thrive.manwarriorking.com/dna-2025

Join The Masculine Husband 3-month Marriage Intensive here: https://thrive.manwarriorking.com/masculinehusband

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Chapters

00:00 The Desire to Please God: A Double-Edged Sword
07:25 Partnership with God: Action vs. Inaction
12:56 Taking Initiative: The Story of Jonathan
18:50 Practical Steps for Marital Improvement
25:07 Transformative Change: The Masculine Husband Program
27:27 Outro exported.mp3

Summary

In this episode, Matt Hallock discusses the detrimental effects of 'niceness' in marriage, contrasting it with the concept of 'kingdom masculinity.' He argues that niceness often stems from co-dependence and a lack of self-identity, leading to unhealthy dynamics in relationships. Instead, he advocates for a more assertive and confident approach to masculinity that fosters genuine kindness and respect. Matt provides actionable steps for men to transform their behavior and communication in their marriages, emphasizing the importance of self-worth and healthy boundaries.

Takeaways

Jesus wasn't nice; he was dangerous, challenging norms.
Niceness can lead to co-dependence in relationships.
Kindness is rooted in strength, while niceness stems from weakness.
Healthy masculinity involves setting boundaries and standards.
Christian marriage advice often promotes niceness over honesty.
Men should not shy away from confrontation in marriage.
The spirit of niceness can diminish attraction and passion.
Action steps include repenting and initiating change.
Men should advocate for their desires in relationships.
Transformation requires inside-out change, not just behavior modification.

Pick up your copy of The DNA of a Man here: https://thrive.manwarriorking.com/dna-2025

Join The Masculine Husband 3-month Marriage Intensive here: https://thrive.manwarriorking.com/masculinehusband

Subscribe to Matt and Man Warrior King on Youtube here: https://www.youtube.com/@manwarriorking/

In this episode, Matt and Chris explore the concept of the 'adventure gene' and its implications for leadership, personal growth, and faith. They discuss the inherent human desire for adventure, the science behind risk-taking, and how biblical figures exemplify the call to adventure. The conversation also touches on the importance of healthy addictions, motivation in helping others, and the upcoming adventure that Chris is embarking on, aiming to inspire listeners to embrace their own adventures in life.

Contact Chris: chris@go-northbound.com

Find his Podcast, Heat & Light, on Spotify

If you haven't yet, be sure to grab the book, The DNA of a Man.

CHAPTERS

00:00 The Adventure Gene: An Introduction
04:35 Exploring the Passion for Adventure
07:35 The Science Behind Adventure and Risk
10:45 Adventure as a Path to Fulfillment
13:43 The Role of Risk in Life and Faith
16:44 Healthy Addictions and Their Impact
19:43 Finding Joy in Adventure and Service
22:25 The Call to Adventure in Scripture
25:41 God's Invitation to Take Risks
28:37 Navigating the Challenges of Following God
31:38 The Balance of Healthy Addictions
34:52 The Importance of Motivation in Service
41:09 Transforming Fear into Love in Healing
42:43 Motivation Behind Miracles: The Story of Simon
44:59 Authenticity in Spiritual Practices
45:55 The Complexity of Creation: DNA and Evolution
50:56 The Racism and Sexism in Evolutionary Theory
53:16 The Adventure of Seeking Truth
59:24 Preparing for the Pacific Crest Trail Adventure

In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, host Matt Hallock and guest Chris Miser discuss the critical importance of truth in parenting, particularly in the face of societal lies that affect children. They explore the impact of social media, the dangers of self-belief, and the misconceptions surrounding love. The conversation emphasizes the role of fathers in guiding their children and the necessity of speaking truth to combat the lies prevalent in today's culture.

Contact Chris: chris@go-northbound.com

Find his Podcast, Heat & Light, on Spotify

If you haven't yet, be sure to grab the book, The DNA of a Man.

CHAPTERS

03:51 The Importance of Truth for Children
11:13 The Lies of Social Media and Its Impact
23:29 The Effects of Visual Media on Children
28:52 Exploring Unconscious Behaviors and Their Roots
30:48 The Impact of Media on Behavior
32:09 The Dark Side of Pornography
34:21 The Influence of Music and Culture
37:48 Choosing What to Feed Our Minds
39:05 The Controversy of 'Love is Love'
41:53 Defining True Love
44:12 The Role of Parents in Guiding Children
46:20 The Consequences of Poor Leadership
50:46 Loving Others While Upholding Truth
59:37 Understanding God's Love
01:00:59 The Dangers of Self-Belief
01:03:31 The Balance of Confidence and Humility
01:05:47 Building Identity Through God's Perspective
01:13:43 The Impact of Lies on Mental Health
01:17:21 Speaking Truth as Oxygen
01:20:09 Encouragement and Support in Parenting

In this episode, Christopher Miser and Matt Hallock discuss the concept of 'Do Not Go Gentle,' emphasizing the importance of fighting against darkness and evil. They explore the significance of DNA in understanding our identity and purpose, the call to leadership and warrior spirit in men, and the dangers of passive Christianity. The conversation also delves into spiritual warfare, the importance of hope in the present, and the inspiring story of Desmond Doss as a model of courage and hope. Ultimately, they stress the responsibility of Christians to take charge of their world and make a positive impact.

Contact Chris: chris@go-northbound.com

Find his Podcast, Heat & Light, on Spotify

If you haven't yet, be sure to grab the book, The DNA of a Man.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to the Concept of 'Do Not Go Gentle'
04:36 The Significance of DNA and God's Design
07:37 Fighting Against Darkness and Evil
10:25 Understanding Passive Behavior in Men
13:36 The Role of Spiritual Warfare in Daily Life
16:39 Practical Steps to Combat Evil
19:37 The Nature of Demons and Spiritual Resistance
22:35 The Importance of Vigilance in Spiritual Warfare
26:30 The Power of Anger in Faith
28:56 Hope in the Present vs. Future
32:32 Desmond Doss: A Model of Faith in Action
36:13 Taking Responsibility for Our World
40:32 Looking Ahead: Future Endeavors and Projects
44:10 Outro exported.mp3

In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, host Matt Hallock and guest Chris Miser discuss the importance of breaking free from the status quo in various aspects of life, including marriage, faith, and leadership. They emphasize the need for boldness in faith, the role of fear in holding individuals back, and the significance of partnership in purpose within marriage. The conversation also touches on the reality of spiritual warfare and the encouragement to seek God and make new choices, regardless of past failures.

Contact Chris: chris@go-northbound.com

Find his Podcast, Heat & Light, on Spotify

If you haven't yet, be sure to grab the book, The DNA of a Man.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Man Warrior King Podcast
04:57 Cutting the Chains of the Status Quo
14:26 Breaking Free from Guilt and Disqualification
20:18 Embracing God's Promises and Blessings
23:23 Extreme Examples of Standing Up for Truth
30:49 The Christian Response to Prevailing Mentalities
33:00 Family Dynamics and Christ-Centered Relationships
34:07 Breaking the Status Quo in Marriage
37:02 The Power Couple: A Divine Adventure
40:53 God's Call to Break Out of the Status Quo
44:08 Courage in Leadership and the Workplace
48:26 The Reality of Spiritual Warfare
51:19 The Importance of Boldness in Faith
57:34 Outro exported.mp3