If you are not making progress toward your goals and yet taking massive action, listen up. You need to remember one critical step.

It frustrates me when people get stuck chasing their tails in attempting to make a massive change.

In putting themselves first so they can stay feeling healthy

Being kind to themselves, then they made a mistake for the 3third time that they have been trying to correct

Even feeling stuck within their personal life. Just not connecting with kids and or spouse then defaulting to head down behavior

I hear I have tried it all.

• Counseling
• Workshops
• Coaching
• Books
• Journaling
• Explosive arguments with others and myself
• Crying fits

It will never change, so I deal with this issue and make the best of it.

Here is what you still need. The connection with the body

You are missing let off the e brake of the car, so you can move forward in changing the behavior

Your body has locked up and is protecting you

if you don't clear that up, you will spin your tires and not make progress. Worst yet, make slow progress burning up your body in the process.

Think about the last time  you were mad

The body ball up energy

You tighten up muscles, and pressure inside rises

Your mind's focus narrows on what it will take to get back into your safe place.

Think about what that looks like in your body. What does your hand do when you get a heightened emotion" You make a fist."

Your heightened emotions are triggers, correct, but more so clues to what matters to you and what you need to learn from.

We get caught up in defending our emotions

We begin to make a point

And if you are fighting to prove something, you, unfortunately, lose the ability to improve the situation you are now in.

This is the place where massive change happens.

Think of when you were last triggered and make the image in your mind eye of you holding up your fist.

As you look at that moment as your two questions of

what do I need to learn about this situation

Ask what is important to me at this moment

Imagine yourself opening that hand and seeing a ballup piece of paper and

Unwrap the message

See what happens inside your mind's eye

Feel how the body feels about what you see

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