Day 3 is filled with PRACTICAL advice you can take into your dates. These tips may seem simple, but they can make all the difference in you looking like a laaaaaady or you looking like a monster eating a GIGANTIC size piece of lettuce 🥬

A big shout out to Bianca for spending time filming this series with me and pouring into me the entire boot camp and BEYOND! B, you are truly an amazing human and I am lucky to know you! 💛 M

As always let's take a look at Bianca's show notes because they are chef's kiss:

Do you struggle with how to plan a date? Do you know what to do, where to go or who’s going to pay? Today, we round up this Dating Bootcamp series by giving you practical handles that will help you be more prepared before you go out on a date. 

The goal of this series has always been for my single friends to go out on a date. Initiating a hangout with someone you are interested in is a good place to start. Remember these things before you go out: 

• Set healthy boundaries in advance 

• The person who asks is the person who pays 

• Come prepared to have a conversation 

• Give hints not heaps? 

• Listen to the other person 

• Be mindful of the type of food you order 

• Have no form of physical intimacy 

So, if you do the work, put your best foot forward, and take yourself seriously you can find a potential candidate and eventually end up in a real dating relationship. Who knows, you might end up finding your life partner in the process! 

Welcome to dating bootcamp day two! Meagan is busy taking notes and cracking a few jokes during this session and you should too!

Bianca wrote the show notes best, so here they are ✨

Do you know where to meet people online? Have you created a dating profile? On a scale of 1 - 5 where does your dating profile score? If your answer is low, we’re here to help! 

Has it been difficult for you to run into single people lately? Are you wondering where to go, what to do, or who to ask out? I want you to assess 2 things today:

1 Your community - Where are you hanging out? Who are your friends? What are your hobbies? 

2 Your sparkle - Are you going out of your comfort zone to intentionally let others know that you are single like a pringle and ready to mingle? 

Dating is like a taxicab light; if the light is on - you’re signaling that you are ready to date! But before you go out on a quality date, you need to spruce up your profile. That is what Meagan and I will be focusing on today. Listen in to learn more on how to create a dazzling dating profile.

Remember, dating is a season that we move through. The intention is to meet the person who you will hopefully spend the rest of your life with. 

Please if you do this tag @meaganherself and @biancaolthoff, we have been LOVING the stories that have been rolling in!

I mean welcome to a front-row seat of Meagan being open real and honest with you. Meagan was hesitant to be this REAL with you, but she knew there were SO many other women and men out there who feel the same way, and what does staying quiet help anyone else?

Now Bianca Olthoff and her team have their ish together, so here are the show notes from the original show, because I couldn't have said it better!

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Have you gone through some type of trauma in past relationships and are hesitant to put yourself out there again? Are you experiencing frustration with your dating life? What if I told you that I want to challenge you to go on a date this month. 

We all know that dating can be risky and uncomfortable but if we're not willing to take a risk there will be no reward. So today, I enlisted the help of Meagan, a courageous listener who has volunteered herself as “tribute” to take a 30-day dating challenge. (Yes, yes I did)

In this first episode of our Dating Bootcamp podcast series, we will be challenging you to: 

• Give yourself permission to go dating again 

• Not get tangled in “Situationships” 

• Get ready to test the waters again 

Let’s get ready for the dating journey! But first, I want you to dig deep and answer the following questions honestly: 

1 Am I ready to date? 

2 Why do I want to date now? 

3 What is my list of 50 qualities I look for on a date? 25? 10?

• What are my 5 non-negotiables?

• Of the 5 non-negotiables, which ones am I holding loosely? 

4. Do I know the risk of love and am I willing to take a risk for the reward? 

5. What are my sexual, financial, and spiritual boundaries? 

6. What information am I sharing too much of? 

7. What are my boundaries regarding time? 

This list might seem like a lot but trust me it’s not. You are creating a baseline, a guideline, a roadmap to help you get more comfortable with who you really are and be confident next time you go out on a date. 

RESOURCES/LINKS 

Follow Bianca Olthoff - @biancaolthoff

Follow Meagan’s Dating Journey - @meaganherself, Meagan’s website - or Season of You Podcast

How to Have Your Life Not Suck: Becoming Today Who You Want to Be Tomorrow

FREE Love Is Resource 

Ben Stuart: Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age

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