Have you ever had something you wore that fit perfectly? That feeling is like no other. You are confident and you feel great every time you wear it. Why is that? Because it fits you perfectly. When you get clothes that are tailor-made or feel like it, you feel incredible.

The same thing happens with our minds. When we build a mindset that fits us, we feel more confident and can positively move through life no matter the circumstances.

This week’s show discusses how to create our own tailored mindset. A mindset that isn’t someone else’s but is ours and we take ownership of it.

Is the life you’re living yours or someone else’s?

Be honest about your motivation

Outside success shouldn’t define us

“Success is when those that are closest to you love you and think the most of you.” -John Maxwell

What will I be happy about at 75?

What do you read, and watch? Who do you follow?

Our input matters

How are you stretching yourself?

Trying new things, pushing yourself in some way

Many men learn stuff but they don’t implement it

We want to practice what we are learning in every area of our lives

Understand that practice helps you get better, but it isn’t perfection

The only way you do something right is to practice

Football teams practice, Golfers practice, Singers practice, etc…

Build a practice mindset in your life

Where are you in your life?

Are you creating your life or surviving?

Start by defining what a successful life is

What will you be happy you did at 75?

Then build backwards

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What do kids want in a family? The interesting thing is they are too young to know. They will come up with all kinds of answers that are often hilarious. However, if you dig deep, you find out that kids want parents who are constant, consistent, and calm.

This is the coolest thing you can do for your family. Too many parents today want to be “liked” or focus their whole lives on their kids. This isn’t good because it puts the kids in charge and they become the center of the family. Their mindset will get messed up and they will think they are the center of the universe.

What kids want and what they need are two different things and it's up to you to work to give them what they need instead of what they want. Yep, this means we have to do the work, but we are men and that’s what we do.

• Kids want constant predictable parents
• This doesn’t mean boring, but not full of drama
• Their life has good routines and the kids are included
• They want parents who love them and love each other
• This constant love feeds their life
• They want parents who act consistent and don’t “change” when the kid’s friends are around or when they get around other adults

• We should be present at our current age and love life where we are as adults
• Own the fact that you are a dad and embrace it
• If all you talk about are the “good old days” you are communicating that becoming an adult stinks
• Let them know that as they get older they gain wisdom and that is better than being young
• This means we may have to do things to work on our lives and fix it
• If you need help in areas of your life, get the help, and don’t expect your child to “fix” you or to live through them

• Let them see that you are not living on emotional highs and lows
• You should not act like a middle schooler
• Help them see the long-term view of life
• Be empathetic but also help them see the things you have learned
• These stories help them get perspective on where they are at
• Tell the stories before they need them so they can remember them
• Be the adult. They need your love and empathy, but they don’t need you to jump on the emotional roller coaster with them

• Do you need to be more constant, consistent, or calm?
• Pick one area to focus on so you can grow and improve as a parent

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What would you consider a successful child? What if your child was a well-known child star making millions of dollars, is that a successful child? Well, if you look at the history of child stars, I would say probably not. Many of those kids get messed up. The problem is often not them but the parents living through them.

As dads, we are responsible for raising successful kids, but how do we define that?

On today’s show, we talk through what real success looks like for our kids and it has nothing to do with money or jobs but has to do with each child having a strong inward foundation.

Security Focuses Success

Success with security is something that kids can enjoy, but it doesn’t control them

Insecure kids (and adults for that matter) “need” success to prove who they are

Security helps success develop positive fruit and not mess a kid up

Success without Security is Destructive

When kids need success, they will always feel insecure even when they have success

They will be willing to change who they are and what they do if they think it will make them more successful and accepted

2 Keys to Building Security

1) Let them be Secure in Your Love

Your love should never be conditional or based upon their behavior

Love is part of discipline and rules

Love speaks life into them and doesn’t manipulate or control them

2) Let them be Secure in Your Support

Support your kids in who they are more than what they do

Give them opportunities and support them in their areas of interest

Don’t live through them or make them love what you love

Communicate that their activities or performances do not earn your love

Your goal is for them to be the best version of themselves

How are you building the security of your children?

Are you success-based and teaching them that accomplishments are the purpose of life?

Pick one area to build your kids up in and focus on it

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Learn about the 4 fundamentals of a Successful Life

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