It's "Relationship Week" here on the podcast and in today's episode of Mom Talk, I thought I'd share a little bit of my story AND my love of K-dramas. Spoiler Alert: I share the not so glamorous way I became a single mom and I don't let that define me. I'm also hoping you see no matter what your story that you can live past it and go on to have the life and love you want. Every relationship, I challenge the man interested in me to love me for who I am. I also make room to do the same.

Listen, you do not want to miss this episode. It's a mix of hindsight is 2020 mixed with grace. We all need to give ourselves more grace for the decisions we've made and the people we've picked (whether or not on purpose) to father our children. They're here, we're here, let's make a good life.

We don't always get to choose how life turns out, but we do get to choose what we do with it. Tune in and share your thoughts. I'd love to know what you think.

Next week, we'll hear from a female relationship coach but don't forget to check out the previous episode with Jay Hurt. He dropped some nuggets that will bless you in love and business.

And remember sis, you are worthy.

Connect with Kaywanda at KaywandaLamb.com

In today’s episode, I interview Jay Hurt, Relationship Strategist, Chief Operating Officer at The Academy of Creative Coaching, and Mastermind Trainer. Simply put, Jay is a man you need to know. We discuss relationships of all kinds, dating, marriage, and business. Jay shares why he loves helping single parents deepen their understanding of how to find a relationship that's right for them. As a former single dad himself, he knows exactly what we’ve experienced. 

Jay Hurt is a phenomena relationship coach, and I love his practical wisdom that you can tell he thinks a lot before he speaks. Listen in and be inspired by all the wisdom Jay has picked up over the years. Jay impressed me so much that I invited him to be on a panel for my first “Brunch and Love Relationship Soiree” in 2017. We also discuss connecting with other entrepreneurs, building social capital, and how to get “put on.”

Tips for networking:

• Figure out who aligns with your values
• Building community 
• Building REAL relationships leads to REAL friendships
• Be who you are
• Focus on ONE thing that moves the needle in your life and business

Then, we discuss “How to fit love into your life” as a busy single mom.

His tips to fit love into your life:

• Be comfortable with adjusting what you need in different seasons
• Face what you believe
• Find the issue that’s keeping you from wanting to date again or being afraid of dating
• Don’t be afraid to seek help with a therapist or a relationship coach
• Watch your energy because you could be repelling potential mates

And so much more! Get this tea, mama.

We mention a few men I think you should check out. Each of these men we both hold in high esteem and support their work in the world. Paul C. Brunson, Lamar Tyler, Tieron Spear (not worried about vanity metrics, this millionaire puts in work and is hard to find on the internet), and Derrick Jaxson.

Listen, this episode gets to the heart of the matter, and I hope it truly blesses you to think about your stance on relationships. Give yourself grace, mama. No pressure. No rush. But if you’re ready, take the nuggets that bless you and go get it. Sis! Real love exists!

We'd love to hear what you thought about today's episode. Let us know on social what you thought and please continue to share the podcast with moms you know. 

You're worthy.

In this episode, Kaywanda discusses how you can do both and reminds you that you get to choose. What does this mean? Well, you can raise your babies well AND chase your dreams. You can do what you want in your career and love life AND raise strong, well-loved babies. Single parenting can be like drinking from a water hose. That, by the way, if you’ve done it, is almost impossible. The water comes out fast, gets all over the place, and drips downward missing your mouth if the pressure is too slow. LOL! A struggle. But, it is possible. And so, you may have some challenges, a full plate, some folks and things to cut out of your life, but if you focus, you CAN do both.

Stop waiting for perfection and live the life you want right now. You can do both. You get to choose.

Tune in for some Mom Talk and inspiration to get going on your dreams. And, please rate and review the podcast if it is speaking to you in this season. We love knowing that it's impacting you and helping you get further faster. Learn more about Kaywanda at KaywandaLamb.com

In this episode, I chat with Kiaundra Jackson, America’s Relationship Therapist. We discuss why she decided to become a relationship therapist, how she worked hard to get her brand seen by some of the top media outlets in the world, prioritizing mental health, and exactly what you should be focusing on while dating as a single mom. Yep! This episode is going to give you business nuggets as well as help you get your love life together. Let’s get into it.

Kiaundra shares how she ended up taking the plunge to be and entrepreneur and leaving her 9 to 5. She shares how her life looks different today and she gets to speak on stages with thousands of people in attendance, help people restore relationships, prevent divorce, and more all because she took a meeting with a friend and the rest is history. She discusses her big leap to trust God and live in her fullest potential. Now, she’s been on The Doctors numerous times and was voted one of he most influential therapists in the U.S. We discuss what it took for her to get here and how you to should be encouraged to fulfill your dreams.

Then, we tackle the age-old question, “Do black people have mental health issues?” “Do we need therapy or do we just need Jesus?” Ummm... yes, we do. Therapy is good and sometimes we do need to talk to professionals who can help us through some of the toughest situations we can imagine. Kiaundra shares why mental health needs to no longer be a stigma in the AA community and how seeing a therapist is good. 

We then get into relationships. Ayyy!!! So, Kiaundra shares tips on dating for single women who feel they have it all together except in the relationship area. Hint: Enjoy the season you’re in. Kiaundra says your singlehood is a time to get yourself together physically, financially, spiritually, and mentally. Live and enjoy your life and go where the kind of guy you want hangs out. Hmmm, that's some good tea right there.

Wow! I enjoyed this conversation. Kiaundra is so full of wisdom. Her hunger for life is amazing and the nuggets she dropped are life-giving. Be sure to check out her free relationship course and follow her on social.

Links:

Visit Kiaundra on social and on her website: https://kiaundrajackson.com  And, sign up for her FREE relationship course to learn the 3 relationship killers and how to avoid them in  The Relationship Goals Course

Her books:

Staying Sane in an Insane World

The Art of Relationships

Thanks again for tuning in. We hope you enjoyed this conversation. So many nuggets. Please share this podcast with women you know who could use some amazing wisdom and real talk about what it takes to build a business or side hustle while raising your family. Until next time, I hope this has helped you go further faster!

In this episode of Mom Talk, Kaywanda shares why you must absorb the idea of giving yourself grace. This single parenting journey is one filled with lots of new beginnings and sometimes hard things that happen all at once. But, if you can learn to add in grace for yourself and for your kids, you'll find that you'll enjoy your life a whole lot more and you'll discover so much about you and your babies.

Kaywanda discusses what grace is and shares some of her own hangups and scenarios with her children to help you get further faster by grasping that you can do this just not all at once. And grace is for the journey.

Be good to yourself and your babies. Love on you! Keep showing up and showing yourself grace.

Suggested reading:
-The Holy Bible (choose a version that speaks to you. I use the Amplified and KJV/NKJV)
-The Purpose Driven Life by Pastor Rick Warren
-Parent, Thrive, Win! A 31 Devotional for Courageous Single Moms by Kaywanda Lamb

Suggested Practices:
-Journal your thoughts
-Get organized, make a plan, give yourself grace
-Revisit your goals, dreams, redraft if needed

Suggested Viewing/Listening:
-Listen to the past 3 Mom Talks (Winning as a single mom/Mindset, Finances, and Organization)
-Kaywanda's Periscope and Youtube

Have an amazing day! Thank you for tuning in. If this episode blessed you, please subscribe, rate the podcast, and share it with your community. Somebody needs to hear that we single moms have a space just for us to help us grow professionally and personally. Talk to you soon!

In this episode, Kaywanda interviews Brian J. Olds of Black Speakers Network. Brian shares why he felt there was a need to create Black Speakers Network, how he got the idea, and why this network exists. Brian goes on to share his 5 step framework from BSN which is the 5 M’s: Mission, Message, Marketing, Monetize, and Management. He also explains what you need to learn right now to get started speaking for free.

This episode is FULL of nuggets about how to get started speaking and how to build a long-lasting speaker brand, what you need to have in place, and where you can go for support. Listen to this episode with a pen and paper, sis. So many good nuggets for new and experienced speakers. Even if you’re not black, this episode is super valuable.

He then breaks down how to know what you can talk about for the next ten years. Hint: 3 things: passion, expertise, and marketing demand. He shares this process so you can figure out your special speaker brand sauce using a Venn diagram. He calls the intersection of these 3 your “Speaker Sweet Spot.”

This conversation was so good. Be sure to check Brian out at BlackSpeakersNetwork.com Join the BSN Facebook group and look up the book, Speak Up! I have a copy of it and it is LIFE! I’m also a silver member and I paid for the annual membership after this interview. I cannot believe the value I get for the price he charges. The community is awesome. 

Note: This episode was recorded in 2019 pre-COVID. Be sure to follow Brian and BSN to keep up with future live and virtual events and join his free community. He gives every member the opportunity to speak.

Links to Things we mentioned to help you:

1. Join the Black Speakers Network Facebook group
2. BSN Website
3. Grab your copy of “Speak Up! The Ultimate Guide to Dominate in the Speaking Industry” with the foreword from Dr. George Fraser and Afterword by Les Brown.

Brian’s tip for speakers:
“If you think you can do better than the speakers you’re listening to, do it.”

Whatever you do, just get started. 

Welcome to the latest episode of Mom Talk. Today, I discuss how and why you must “Organize Your Life.” I discuss the four areas in which every single mom needs to get organized. If you want your life to run smoother, you’ve got to do something about it. Tune in for some quick tea to help you take organization bit by bit in what I call your "FCLM." This episode is short, it’s sweet, and it’s powerful.

Hey girl hey! Since you're here, please go ahead and subscribe so you don't miss any future episodes. Mom Talk is every Thursday and Every Tuesday, I interview a boss entrepreneur to help you get further faster in your business. If you haven't, listen to the previous episodes. They are FIRE. No for real. Really good information from women entrepreneurs who's real talk will help you level up faster.

Need a planner? Why not order the Single Mom Success Planner at KaywandaLamb.com/shop It'll bless you with 3 layouts to help you balance mom life, work-life, and your dreams. Woo!

And don't forget to do your homework. Getting organized is a process. Take the first step and assess what's not working, get help, make a plan, and take action. You can do this!

I'll talk to you soon!

 In this episode, I interview legit Shopify Master, Vivian Kaye. Vivian is a single mother, an immigrant, a college dropout, AND a successful entrepreneur. We discuss her pivot from one successful business to her current company KinkyCurlyYaki.com. Vivian shares how to know when to pivot, how she came up with the idea for the company, and how she catapulted it to 7 figures. This didn’t happen overnight and Vivian has had her challenges. But, she wants to inspire you and says "if she can do it, you can do it." We discuss bouncing back from divorce, life, parenting her son while building these businesses, dating, self-love, healing, and preparing for the next good love in your life. So, tune in for this good tea. 

She is a Shopify master because she's sold more than a million on that platform. Since we last talked, Vivian has gone on to even more massive success. Her smile is infectious and her business insight is unmatched. She's unapologetic about her success, loves her son with all she has and is one of the most authentic brands I've seen. Vivian shows every day how you can truly be a winning single mom and accomplish your goals and dreams.

See links below to connect with Vivian:

Follow her on Instagram @itviviankaye

Vivian's FABULOUS natural hair website: KinkyCurlyYaki.com

Watch her interview with Shopify. It will bless you.

All her links in one place

This was a special interview. Vivian is a BOSS mom, but she made time to support me and you with her nuggets of wisdom. We laughed like old friends because we have a common goal in mind- educate women. 

Please remember to subscribe to the podcast and invite a friend to listen by sharing on social media. I pray this episode blesses you to start your own empire or continue working your dream. And like Vivian, may you show up no matter what to make it work.