Shownotes

• Why relational work has the ability to heal things that solo work can’t

• How to be fully present with what’s true in the moment

• Why deeper inquiry into yourself is at the heart of the spiritual journey

• The beautiful thing about disintegration and why it’s so important

• Why hiding your power creates disarray

• Tom’s top advice for connecting with yourself on a deeper level

Bio

From a young age, Tom Slater sought to learn through direct experience, a path that has taken him across the globe, immersing himself in many traditional and indigenous cultures. His quest to understand himself and the life he was experiencing led him to explore the very nature of his existence, often guiding him down challenging paths, including struggles with addiction and depression.

Through this deep exploration, Tom gradually opened up to a more profound connection with his own humanity, confronting the limitations that prevented him from fully feeling and embracing it. His personal journey has taught him invaluable lessons, enabling him to be present with others in a spontaneous and creative way, facilitating their own process of discovery.

Tom’s work, particularly through The Sapience Retreat, focuses on helping individuals integrate all aspects of their being – mental, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual – in a way that fosters a true sense of homecoming, both within themselves and in connection with others. At the heart of his approach is cultivating an open awareness and a deep sense of choice, empowering people to show up more fully and authentically in life.

Learn more about Tom and The Sapience Retreat on his website.

Timestamps

00:00:54 - Guest introduction

00:05:46 - Tom describes what a “meeting” is in his work

00:09:54 - A meeting can be any flavor of energy

00:13:36 - The heart of this work is to have less and less resistance to what’s happening

00:14:07 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:16:59 - Relational work has the ability to heal things that solo work can’t

00:18:44 - The various traps humans get caught in

00:20:19 - Why deeper inquiry into yourself is at the heart of the spiritual journey

00:23:01 - Layla summarizes spiral dynamics

00:26:41 - The beautiful thing about disintegration and why it’s so important

00:29:27 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:31:20 - Layla describes her experience with the beige stage

00:35:10 - Trust and safety only exist in this moment

00:39:51 - The power of unconditional somatic connection

00:40:40 - Layla and Tom drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™

00:43:20 - Layla talks about her “Reclamation in the Red Stage”

00:51:30 - When we hide our power, it can become a force that creates disarray

00:55:23 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:58:35 - How to be present with what’s true in the moment

01:01:09 - Layla shares about her entity removal at The Sapience Retreat

01:08:08 - What Tom whispered to Layla’s inner little girl

01:10:55 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

01:11:46 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery

01:13:40 - We don’t have to become cosmic starchildren to touch magic

01:17:39 - Just meeting each other as humans is the most advanced thing we can do

01:21:48 - Tom’s top advice for connecting with yourself on a deeper level

01:25:42 - Layla shares about the stuffed animal she used to carry

01:27:46 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• The best and worst sex ideas of 2025

• The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone

• Why safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic

• The biggest sexual problems people face

• Dr. Emily’s take on why people cheat

• How sex is a multi-layered experience

Bio

Emily Morse is a doctor of human sexuality and host of the award-winning #1 sexuality podcast, “Sex With Emily,” which has been on air for two decades. She’s a MasterClass instructor on sex and communication and the bestselling author of Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ & Own Your Pleasure. Emily has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes and Men’s Health and has been featured by The Today Show, Conan, Entertainment Tonight, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Bustle and others.

Dr. Emily’s mission is to liberate the conversation about sex and pleasure. Her candid conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives.

Learn more about Dr. Emily and find her work on her website.

Timestamps

00:00:41 - Guest introduction

00:02:20 - What made you so good at talking about sex

00:04:43 - If you can’t talk about something, then you can’t have an empowering relationship to it

00:10:31 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:11:28 - Layla sexts with ChatGPT

00:14:31 - The worst sex ideas of 2025

00:17:42 - Every human is a magical universe

00:20:50 - Layla talks about her dating journey as a single woman

00:26:14 - The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone

00:26:56 - The key to how Layla healed her unworthiness

00:31:57 - Even the experts are still human

00:33:41 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:36:53 - Layla and Dr. Emily drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™

00:41:36 - Why Layla created MOOD Sexy Supplements

00:43:30 - Dr. Emily shares about her journey with somatic therapy

00:47:28 - Safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic

00:48:20 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:49:09 - What are the biggest sexual problems people face

00:54:56 - Do people who don’t practice sacred sexuality experience spirituality during sex?

00:57:30 - The divine is there in every moment, winking at you

00:58:27 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside ⁠Crystal Pleasure⁠

00:59:30 - Dr. Emily talks about why people cheat

01:08:31 - Sex is a multi-layered experience

01:13:40 - How ecstasy amplifies your manifesting powers

01:20:07 - Conclusion

Free Guide

Shownotes

• Layla’s most powerful manifestation ritual

• Why you have to grieve to step onto a new timeline

• The key to digesting a negative or heavy experience

• How to do Sex Magic in 10-15 minutes

Bio

Layla Martin is a visionary and thought leader who teaches on sexuality, relationships and self-love to people across the globe.

Her devoted study of Tantra for 20+ years along with her sexuality, neuroscience and human biology studies at Stanford University have informed her unique teaching process and the creation of her proprietary VITA™ Methodology.

Layla’s programs have taught over 12,500 women, men and non-binary people her method of using breath, sound, movement, meditation and energy awareness to awaken their sexuality and reclaim their power and worthiness.

Layla has shared her work with over 150 million people and 500,000+ subscribers through her YouTube channel and has a weekly email audience of 375,000+ people. Her top-rated podcast, This Tantric Life, has reached over 1.6 million downloads.

Timestamps

00:00:36 - Introduction

00:01:39 - Why Layla created this manifestation ritual

00:02:44 - What you can use this manifestation ritual for

00:04:39 - Why you have to grieve to step onto a new timeline

00:06:00 - What supercharges this manifestation

00:06:07 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:07:25 - To create a new timeline, you have to shift your nervous system

00:10:02 - The grieving ritual

00:12:34 - The key to digesting a negative or heavy experience

00:12:56 - Layla drinks MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:13:24 - The grieving ritual recap

00:13:38 - Layla’s grief ritual music playlist

00:14:40 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:15:39 - The Sex Magic ritual

00:17:19 - Make your Sex Magic as sensorial as possible

00:19:21 - How to do Sex Magic in 10-15 minutes

00:22:45 - Sex Magic is not just magic, it’s working with your erotic power

00:24:22 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Why the archetype of successful women is often unsuccessful in love

• The hardest thing about keeping things sexy as a mother

• Why rewiring ourselves for healthy love means being available to be chosen

• How the feminine archetypes impact dating and relationships

• Why we choose the love that feels comfortable to us, even if it hurts us

• Mel’s best advice for anyone who is worried about dying alone

Bio

Mel Wells is a world-renowned 7-figure love and leadership mentor for successful female entrepreneurs. She empowers women to create the love lives and intimacy they deeply crave by fully understanding and embodying their feminine power, unlocking their wild magnetism and irresistible energy. Mel also mentors ambitious, spiritually driven women to scale their businesses by harnessing the power of their feminine energy and unique superpowers. Through her work, Mel helps women thrive in both love and leadership, embodying their most authentic and radiant selves.

Timestamps

00:01:33 - Guest introduction

00:04:29 - The archetype of successful women is often unsuccessful in love

00:07:34 - Why we think of feminine energy as less powerful

00:08:04 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:09:56 - Mel shares about the relationship that sent her into a deep portal of reflection

00:13:22 - If his energy isn’t pursuing you, he’s disqualified

00:16:32 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic

00:17:16 - Mel and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:20:25 - Men go after what they want

00:21:38 - If he’s not moving towards you, it’s not your job to figure it out

00:25:47 - Rewiring ourselves for healthy love means being available to be chosen

00:26:02 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples

00:28:34 - We choose the love that feels comfortable to us, even if it hurts us

00:31:40 - Mel explains the feminine archetypes and how they impact dating

00:35:33 - Why it’s important to listen deeply to your universal path

00:39:23 - Fall in love with your body and unlock outrageous orgasms with Obliss

00:43:04 - Finding delight in wherever you are on your dating journey

00:46:40 - Never discount the possibility of being fully chosen at every stage in your life

00:48:19 - You can be a female entrepreneur AND be filled with life and magic

00:51:10 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:54:18 - When you mother your partner, he will show up as a child

00:54:54 - The hardest thing about keeping things sexy as a mother

00:57:46 - Mel’s advice for anyone who is worried about dying alone

01:00:47 - A practice for switching from the Huntress archetype to the Queen

01:02:01 - A practice for shifting from the Mother archetype to the Lover

01:03:27 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• The story behind the quasi-cheating incident that ended the relationship

• Why Ryan and Layla’s first kiss went horribly wrong

• How to take full responsibility for your actions and impact on others

• Why Ryan showed up at the Stanford campus in a full-on chicken costume

• How radical love is different than self-sacrificing

• What Ryan and Layla learned from opening their relationship

Bio

Ryan Cheney is a therapist, seeker, and guide devoted to the process of inner transformation. Based in Austin, TX, he works with individuals and couples to uncover what stands in the way of lasting change – and how to meet those blocks with presence, compassion, and courage. His work is deeply rooted in Internal Family Systems and a profound curiosity about how people evolve.

Before turning his focus inward, Ryan was the founder of Raaka Chocolate, a Brooklyn-based bean-to-bar company built on transparency and ethical sourcing. But his truest calling lies in the inner landscapes: the quiet, tender spaces where real healing happens. His path has been shaped by deep inquiry, spiritual practice, and a love for the moments when people reconnect with the truth of who they are.

Ryan believes transformation doesn’t have to be a battle – it can be a remembering. He’s most alive when exploring the alchemy of change, the courage it requires, and the unexpected grace that can come when we stop striving and start listening.

Timestamps

00:01:16 - Guest introduction

00:06:02 - Ryan shares how he and Layla met

00:07:35 - Going from small and scared to big and free

00:07:59 - Where Layla was at in her life when she met Ryan

00:11:48 - Where Ryan was at in his life when he met Layla

00:12:31 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:13:11 - Friendship turns into strong attraction

00:13:47 - Ryan describes he and Layla’s first kiss

00:16:20 - Why the sex didn’t initially work for Ryan

00:19:33 - Ryan learned to hold all parts of Layla

00:21:11 - Layla’s first experience with somatic therapy

00:23:00 - Layla credits Ryan for being deeply present for her healing journey

00:24:33 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples

00:26:00 - Layla’s desire to find the real Tantra

00:27:19 - Ryan and Layla gave each other spiritual names

00:34:05 - Layla and Ryan discuss their experience with sexual healing

00:39:01 - Why we have to take full responsibility for our actions and impact on others

00:41:48 - How to be present with intensity and pain

00:41:57 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic

00:42:55 - Ryan and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:45:57 - The feedback Layla gave Ryan as their relationship ended

00:48:17 - Layla healed and opened her sexuality before healing and opening her heart

00:51:15 - Ryan shares what he learned from the end of the relationship

00:54:55 - Layla shares one of her favorite stories about Ryan

00:56:08 - How radical love is different than self-sacrificing

01:02:18 - Discover your most masculine confidence and presence with Men’s Sexual Mastery

01:03:59 - Layla and Ryan share their experience with an open relationship

01:09:10 - Ryan shares what signaled the end for him

01:17:38 - What Layla learned from the end of the relationship

01:19:20 - What Ryan learned from the relationship

01:21:08 - One of the saddest parts of trauma

01:24:32 - Ryan’s favorite parts of Layla from their relationship

01:27:41 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• What Eva learned through menopause that she wishes she had known

• The science behind body changes in perimenopause and menopause

• Some of the key practices Eva recommends for midlife

• How meditation supports perimenopause and menopause

• How Eva’s needs with men and relationships changed through menopause

• Why Eva calls Kali the Patron Goddess of Menopause

Bio

Eva Clay is an acclaimed sexologist, psychotherapist and professional troublemaker whose mission is to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of soul, sex and science. She's helped thousands of people unlock their innate potential for pleasure, and as a former professor of neuroscience, she bodaciously reminds us that smart is sexy. As a practitioner of sexual tantra for 13 years, her work is an elegant marriage of the profound and the playful - and she has a particular passion for elevating women in their midlife portal to enjoy the most wildly succulent phase of their lives.

See www.EvaClay.com

Timestamps

00:01:00 - Guest introduction

00:04:02 - Eva shares the story of her first hot flash

00:06:20 - The medical model around perimenopause and menopause

00:07:59 - What Eva learned through menopause that she wishes she had known

00:09:19 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:11:00 - What we offer the world when we’re in menopause fundamentally shifts

00:14:49 - The science behind body changes in perimenopause and menopause

00:17:38 - Why women who prioritize pleasure have a more easeful menopausal process

00:19:44 - The mindset that allowed Eva to have lovers in perimenopause

00:21:47 - Some of the key practices Eva recommends for midlife

00:24:46 - How meditation supports perimenopause and menopause

00:25:56 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic

00:26:39 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples

00:29:03 - Eva shares her love story

00:32:21 - Eva and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:33:52 - How ketamine helped Eva move into a deeper state of body acceptance

00:35:38 - How Eva’s needs with men and relationships changed through menopause

00:38:23 - Eva’s experience with hormones

00:39:34 - Why Eva calls Kali the Patron Goddess of Menopause

00:40:31 - Fall in love with your body and unlock outrageous orgasms with Obliss

00:42:15 - Why it’s never too late to start these practices

00:46:00 - Menopause isn’t about how you look, it’s about how you feel

00:47:28 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:50:16 - Menopause: you are in full bloom

00:51:03 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Exactly what Internal Family Systems therapy is

• The actual mechanism that creates the most profound level of healing

• Psychedelics as a loving catalyst to know ourselves more

• The truth about psychedelic stigma

• Why it’s important to prepare your set and setting with psychedelics

• The difference between doses of psilocybin

Bio

Nick Brüss, EdD, LMFT, is a leading licensed psychedelic therapist, researcher and educator who is passionate about inspiring and helping people heal, grow and live creative lives. He’s pioneering treatments and programs that harness the synergistic power of combining psychedelic medicine with cutting edge therapy and coaching.

Dr. Brüss was a clinical researcher and supervisor on the ground breaking FDA Phase III clinical trial of MDMA-assisted therapy for PTSD sponsored by MAPS, and is currently a lead therapist on the Phase III Psilocybin therapy study for Treatment Resistant Depression sponsored by Compass Pathways.

In private practice, he specializes in concierge ketamine-assisted and Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. He trains nationally and speaks internationally on psychedelic-assisted therapy safety and efficacy, and is a co-founder of the Psychedelic Coalition for Health, a psychedelic medicine education and training platform.

Dr. Brüss is also a Certified Mindfulness Facilitator through UCLA’s Mindful Awareness Research Center at the Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior, and a certified teacher of both Mindful Self-Compassion, and the Compassion Cultivation Training through the Center for Compassion, Altruism Research and Education at Stanford University School of Medicine.

Find more about Dr. Brüss’ work at www.apracticeoffreedom.com and connect with him on LinkedIn and Instagram.

Timestamps

00:01:14 - Guest introduction

00:02:20 - How Layla and Dr. Brüss originally connected

00:04:51 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:06:51 - The first time Layla experienced her own somatic avoidance

00:11:14 - Humans are so beautiful when they don’t have so much pain

00:13:52 - Dr. Brüss explains what Internal Family Systems therapy is

00:19:24 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples

00:20:06 - Discover your most masculine confidence and presence with Men’s Sexual Mastery

00:21:12 - Dr. Brüss introduces listeners to MAPS

00:24:36 - The actual mechanism that creates this profound level of healing

00:27:19 - Layla shares about her experiences with MDMA

00:30:43 - How IFS integrates with felt-sense experience

00:32:30 - How intellectually “getting” something isn’t the same as being “in” it

00:36:33 - We don’t realize how much power we actually have

00:38:44 - Discover MOOD™ Sex Magic

00:42:48 - How psychedelics can be a loving catalyst to know ourselves more

00:44:28 - Layla shares her experience with psychedelics

00:47:22 - Dr. Brüss and Layla drink MOOD Sex Magic

00:55:28 - Psychedelic stigma was intentionally created

00:57:02 - The war on disconnection

00:57:27 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:59:15 - Why it’s important to prepare your set and setting with psychedelics

01:04:33 - Dr. Brüss shares about his first psychedelic experience

01:07:24 - The difference between doses of psilocybin

01:12:06 - How different psychedelics work on different situations

01:19:53 - Conclusion