Shownotes

• Terry’s “grid” that reveals how your trauma shows up in relationships

• The difference between individual empowerment and relational empowerment

• Which quadrant of the grid Layla is on and how she got there

• Why Terry calls our relationships our “biosphere”

• Terry’s best advice for shifting out of anger and into connection

• A powerful guided boundary practice to follow along with

Bio

Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and best-selling author committed to helping you build the lasting, loving relationships you deserve.

The author of four books, including the recent New York Times bestseller Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, Terry knows how to lead people on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy and personal fulfillment.

His revolutionary approach to couples therapy, Relational Life Therapy (RLT), underpins all of his books, courses and teachings. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to make love work and cultivate authentic connections – to themselves, each other and the planet as a whole.

A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry has worked with thousands of individuals, couples and fellow therapists. His extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce garnered Terry the reputation of “the turnaround guy,” and demand from other therapists to learn his RLT method skyrocketed.

To bring the remarkable results of RLT to as many people as possible, Terry established his Relational Life Institute. To date, thousands of mental health practitioners have benefited from a whole new perspective on couples therapy that has transformed their clients, their practice and their own relationships.

Terry is passionately committed to empowering us all with the essential relational skills for meaningful relationships.

Learn more about Terry’s work on his website and take his FREE quiz.

Timestamps

00:00:56 - Guest introduction

00:01:12 - What Terry’s book Fierce Intimacy taught Layla

00:05:03 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:05:43 - Terry shares the work that inspired his grid

00:07:00 - Terry’s “grid” that reveals how your trauma shows up in relationships

00:09:47 - Why we have a hard time centering our own self-esteem

00:11:21 - Terry gives a real life example of self-esteem

00:15:33 - How to get out of one down or one up on the grid

00:21:10 - Say whatever you have to say, but do it from the heart

00:23:55 - Individual empowerment vs relational empowerment

00:26:10 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:28:41 - Why Terry believes that our relationships are our biosphere

00:37:54 - Unlock your deepest pleasure with MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:38:42 - Layla reveals which quadrant she is in on the grid

00:46:36 - What allowed Layla’s pain and desperation to finally dissolve

00:48:52 - Terry guides Layla through an inner child exercise

00:57:45 - Discover your sexual potential inside VITA™ Sacred Sexuality

01:01:38 - The mysticism of marriage

01:07:55 - How Layla chose to be happy no matter what her partner is doing

01:10:50 - Guidance on how to shift out of anger

01:15:44 - Terry guides Layla and listeners through a boundary exercise

01:20:53 - Take Terry’s quiz to find out where you are on the grid

01:22:08 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Why the cervix alters your state of consciousness

• How to move through a violation with your cervix

• What basic cervical dearmoring looks like inside your body

• The importance of understanding sovereignty in a relationship

• The phases of dearmoring safely

• Olivia’s advice for reaching exquisite cosmic cervical orgasms

Bio

Olivia Bryant is the founder of Self:Cervix and creator of the Cervical Awakening Pathway – a profound journey into the body, love and creative power through activating the cervix.

For over a decade, Olivia has explored the cervix as a portal to expanded sensation, deep emotional release, universal love and the integration of sexuality and consciousness.

With a background in sexology and somatic practice, she’s guided thousands of women through transformative experiences that awaken intimacy, pleasure and the multidimensional intelligence of their bodies.

Learn more about Olivia’s work on her website.

Timestamps

00:00:46 - Guest introduction

00:02:07 - How Olivia experienced her first cervical orgasm

00:07:25 - The cervix alters your state of consciousness

00:10:08 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:11:39 - How Olivia vetted potential partners as a single woman

00:15:20 - You get to be responsible for exactly the kind of touch you desire

00:19:43 - How you move through a violation with your cervix

00:23:33 - How to dearmor the cervix to release pain

00:27:40 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:30:22 - When we surrender, our primal impulse flows through us

00:34:13 - What basic cervical dearmoring looks like inside your body

00:37:10 - The shadow of yin is a heavy energy

00:41:24 - Cervical orgasm influences the frequency you walk through the world with

00:41:58 - Olivia and Layla drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:48:41 - The importance of understanding sovereignty in a relationship

00:52:45 - No matter where you start, you can reach the deepest self-love

00:53:19 - Discover your sexual and relational potential inside VITA™ Sacred Sexuality

00:55:56 - The phases of dearmoring safely

01:02:22 - Olivia’s advice for reaching exquisite cosmic cervical orgasms

01:05:39 - Conclusion

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Shownotes

• What most people don’t realize about the happiest couples

• The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma

• How to never get ghosted again

• What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important

• Why repair is an ongoing practice

• Four of the most important skills required to repair successfully

Bio

Baya Voce is a relationship repair expert helping couples fight better and make up faster.

She holds an MSW from Columbia University, is in ongoing supervision with Esther Perel and is trained and mentored by Terry Real. Baya’s approach blends therapeutic depth with the practicality of coaching, teaching couples how to break destructive patterns, rebuild trust and come back together.

Baya collaborates with Columbia University, MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies) and Rick Doblin on pioneering research into MDMA-assisted couples therapy. She also regularly speaks at SXSW, and with over 5 million views, her TEDx talk on loneliness highlights the often-overlooked impact of relational disconnection.

Learn more about Baya’s work on Instagram @bayavoce.

Timestamps

00:00:45 - Guest introduction

00:03:56 - What led Baya to create a career out of relationship repair

00:08:37 - The social shift of perfection in coaching and leadership

00:10:39 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:12:01 - What people don’t realize about the happiest couples

00:14:35 - How a virtual world is challenging our human connections

00:19:08 - The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma

00:22:47 - A question to ask yourself if you think you’re in a manipulative relationship

00:27:20 - Why Baya chooses to stay in her marriage despite the challenges

00:31:14 - Most couples will experience disillusionment in their relationship

00:33:00 - A question to ask yourself to help shift out of victimization

00:33:47 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:39:29 - The end of a partner’s capacity teaches you how strong you are

00:45:51 - How to never get ghosted again

00:50:57 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:55:23 - Baya explains the third pole of a relationship

01:01:50 - What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important

01:04:29 - The difference between perception and perspective

01:12:58 - Why repair is an ongoing practice

01:15:17 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

01:18:30 - Four of the most important skills required to repair

01:28:49 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• How purity culture manifests in women’s bodies and sexual experiences

• Why a woman’s pleasure is a gift to everyone around her

• How ecstatic states purify and cleanse the soul

• Why shame is actually the gateway to pleasure

• A powerful practice that saved Dr. Kim’s life

• Why Jesus’ ministry would not exist without the women who supported it

Bio

Dr. Kimberly Rose Pendleton is a speaker, writer, teacher and the founder of UNCOVER, a 7-figure global lifestyle brand focused on intimacy, pleasure and women’s empowerment.

With a M.A. from Yale, a PhD, in-depth coaching training and many years of experience, Dr. Kim considers it a deep honor and pleasure to weave the intellectual side of empowerment, healing and intimacy work into embodied, playful pleasure practices.

Learn more about Dr. Kimberly and her work on her website and find her on all social media platforms @drkimberlyrosependleton.

Timestamps

00:00:48 - Guest introduction

00:02:49 - Layla shares her religious history

00:05:57 - Why Jesus’ ministry would not exist without the women who supported it

00:09:32 - Religious conditioning is baked into our society

00:09:56 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:12:55 - How purity culture manifests in women’s bodies and sexual experiences

00:14:58 - The reality of women who follow the rules of purity culture

00:19:06 - An MRI study from Daniel Bergner’s book What Do Women Want? proves that women silence their pleasure

00:26:29 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:30:40 - Pleasure is something all of us can access

00:37:51 - Dr. Kim shares a powerful practice that saved her life

00:40:30 - Why shame is the gateway to pleasure

00:42:30 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:44:09 - Why a woman’s pleasure is a gift to everyone around her

00:44:51 - How ecstatic states purify the soul from Ritual Texts for the Afterlife: Orpheus and the Bacchic Gold Tablets by Fritz Graf and Sarah Iles Johnston

00:49:11 - A woman connected to her pleasure can do anything

00:52:25 - Dr. Kim shares why her good girl part had to experience a death to liberate her

00:57:29 - Why every woman needs to learn how to activate pleasure

00:57:35 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

01:01:27 - Humans were designed to play multiple notes in life

01:02:24 - Discover Dr. Kim’s free course Harlots and Heretics

01:02:40 - Dr. Kim shares about her experience inside VITA Coaching

01:08:05 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• The importance of focusing on connection instead of healing

• How to describe your feelings from your body instead of your head

• The most effective way to teach attunement to men

• Why lack of attunement feels like apathy

• The difference between suppression and containment

• What it feels like to be present inside of yourself

Bio

Steven Jaggers is a somatic educator, practitioner and the founder of SOMA+IQ™ Breathwork, a powerful modality for nervous system healing and embodied transformation.

He has trained over 2,000 practitioners in a unique method that rewires the body’s response to stress, trauma and connection through potent tools like breath, co-regulation and somatic self-inquiry.

Steven’s approach bridges ancient healing traditions with modern neuroscience, offering experiential tools for emotional integration, authentic relating and whole-body aliveness.

His work has been featured in university-accredited programs, major podcasts and global events. Learn more about Steven and his work on his website.

Timestamps

00:00:45 - Guest introduction

00:04:54 - Steven explains what meta skills are and their importance

00:08:25 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:09:34 - The importance of focusing on connection instead of healing

00:13:14 - How to describe your feelings from your body instead of your head

00:17:20 - Steven shares Eckhart Tolle’s definition of stress

00:21:05 - Others can feel your alignment in their nervous systems

00:23:24 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:24:35 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:25:36 - Steven’s definition of eros

00:25:47 - Layla shares her definition of eros

00:32:13 - The most effective way to teach attunement to men

00:42:53 - Why lack of attunement feels like apathy

00:47:26 - The difference between suppression and containment

00:51:52 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:53:19 - Steven explains the 4 modes of communication

00:55:01 - Steven guides Layla through a powerful breathwork practice

01:06:42 - What it feels like to be present inside of yourself

01:07:05 - What it feels like to not be present inside of yourself

01:12:08 - The 3 potentials that can happen for a client during coaching or facilitating

01:16:57 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Why women have a hard time accessing cervical orgasms

• What sex is like before cervical healing vs. what it’s like after

• A guided cervical micropractice you can follow along with

• How to create a relationship with your cervix if it’s been removed

• 3 Ways you can connect with your cervix every day

• Why your cervix is connected to having a healthy nervous system

Bio

Jamie Elizabeth Thompson is a feminine embodiment teacher and the founder of Awakened Woman, a global community and course platform devoted to helping women reclaim their pleasure as holy and cultivate the intimacy they most deeply desire in relationships.

Blending her 17 years of training in Somatic Psycho-Spiritual practices, erotic alchemy, and sacred sexuality, Jamie guides women to transform their relationship with their bodies and pleasure. She specializes in cervical de-armoring and awakening - activating the cervix as a divine erotic portal and a key to unlocking orgasmic aliveness and everyday bliss.

Learn more about Jamie and her work:

• Free Ecstatic Cervical Breathwork Ritual:⁠ https://www.awakenedwoman.life/cervixbreath
• Jamie’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/_awakened_woman⁠

• Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/missjamieelizabeth

Timestamps

00:00:44 - Guest introduction

00:03:10 - How Jamie discovered the magic of her cervix

00:04:25 - Jamie describes the moment her whole life opened up during a cervical orgasm

00:08:36 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:09:04 - The ingredients that led Jamie to be able to have a cervical orgasm

00:11:10 - Why women have a hard time accessing cervical orgasms

00:13:37 - The difference between a clitoral orgasm and a cervical orgasm

00:19:04 - Layla shares the story of her most powerful cervical orgasm

00:21:09 - This is one of the greatest gifts of a cervical orgasm

00:21:40 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:22:45 - Layla and Jamie drink MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:24:02 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:25:14 - What sex is like before cervical healing vs. what it’s like after

00:29:24 - The cervix is a gateway into full erotic expression

00:29:55 - The most important things to know about opening and activating your cervix

00:31:48 - A regulated nervous system opens up the pathway for a cervical orgasm

00:34:09 - Jamie shares the #1 pitfall women experience when activating their cervix

00:39:41 - Jamie guides a cervical micropractice you can follow along with

00:52:51 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:53:46 - Jamie and Layla share what they experienced during the practice

00:59:25 - How touching your cervix automatically puts you in a feminine state

01:00:24 - Can you create a relationship with your cervix if it’s been removed?

01:03:13 - 3 Ways you can connect with your cervix every day

01:06:18 - Your cervix is connected to having a healthy nervous system

01:12:12 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• How to use pain to carve out space for more joy

• The key to re-establishing beautiful orgasmic experiences

• Layla’s experience training terror into safety in her nervous system

• The tools that allowed Layla to love greater than her relational trauma

• Why some of our earliest imprints of whether pleasure is safe happen in infancy

• How to heal trauma from a resource perspective so it becomes a gift

Bio

Emily Fletcher is the founder of Ziva Meditation and has taught over 50,000 people. Her best-selling book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon and has been translated into 12 languages.

Her work has been featured by The New York Times, Good Morning America, The Today Show, Vogue and ABC. She’s been named one of the top 100 women in wellness to watch and has taught at Apple, Google and Harvard Business School.

A formerly stressed Broadway performer who was going gray at 27, Emily discovered a powerful practice that cured her insomnia and improved her health on the first day. Her transformation was so dramatic that she felt inspired to share it with others.

It’s Emily’s mission to help as many people as possible achieve extraordinary benefits – like dramatically reduced stress, anxiety relief and deep, restful sleep.

Learn more about Emily and her work on her website.

Timestamps

00:01:00 - Guest introduction

00:02:00 - Emily shares her experience inside VITA Coaching

00:02:43 - What surprised Emily about VITA Coaching

00:04:24 - Emily shares about the death portal she’s been experiencing

00:06:26- The pain carves out space for more joy

00:07:05 - What inspired Layla to create VITA Coaching

00:10:39 - How to re-establish beautiful orgasmic experiences

00:13:33 - The answer to women being fractured in their power

00:13:48 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:18:49 - VITA Coaching is an understanding of women’s evolution of power

00:19:55 - The reactivation and reunion of sex, heart and spirit

00:21:45 - What has helped Emily remember her own divinity

00:25:29 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:27:52 - Layla shares her experience training terror into safety in her nervous system

00:30:09 - How the VITA tools allowed Layla to love greater than her relational trauma

00:32:10 - We have organic pleasure chemicals already in our body

00:33:31 - One of the things Layla is most proud of

00:35:59 - Some of our earliest imprints of whether pleasure is safe happen in infancy

00:39:31 - You heal your trauma at the level of consciousness it occurred

00:39:39 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:42:08 - If you love who you are, you can love what shaped you into it

00:45:43 - When you heal trauma from a resource perspective, it becomes a gift

00:46:22 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:47:26 - Layla shares the most touching thing VITA Coaching grads share with her

00:49:51 - Where to find the most outrageous amount of healing and self-practice

00:53:00 - Save your seat for Your Future is Erotic LIVE Event

00:54:12 - You don’t need to be perfect to be a powerful coach

00:57:02 - Why Layla considers it her responsibility to support your success as a coach

00:57:32 - VITA Coaching niche specializations to scale your impact and income

00:58:54 - Join the VITA Coaching Waitlist and unlock the maximum number of bonuses

00:59:56 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Nisha’s core components of leadership and why they’re so important

• The internal narrative Layla used to carry around leadership

• How to be both soft and gentle and ferocious and fiery as a woman

• Why we are exhausted from hypervigilance

• Steps you can take right now to build your own sanctuary

• Why the world represses mothers from their eroticism

Bio

Nisha Moodley is a Devotional Leadership guide, founder of Global Sisterhood Day, host of Devotion Podcast and a mother. As a biracial woman with training in health and executive coaching, ancestral healing work and community building, she has a unique relationship to the ecology of leadership and a profound ability to catalyze growth for her clients. Her work centers around the path of matriarchal leadership as an expression of our devotional care. For 18 years, Nisha has guided intimate councils and online courses and taught 65+ live retreats, supporting women in liberating their leadership and weaving their gifts in service of a more beautiful world.

Learn more about Nisha and her work on her website.

Timestamps

00:00:42 - Guest introduction

00:03:59 - Layla reads the email love letter she sent to Nisha in 2014

00:10:58 - You never know what might happen when you take a chance

00:12:03 - Nisha’s core components of leadership and why they’re so important

00:15:16 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:16:00 - Layla shares the internal narrative she used to carry around leadership

00:21:04 - The world teaches women that in order to be powerful, they must remain frozen

00:27:06 - How savoring life begins to naturally start shifting your attention outward

00:29:36 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:30:34 - Layla and Nisha drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™

00:32:54 - You can be both soft and gentle and ferocious and fiery as a woman

00:37:28 - We are exhausted from hypervigilance

00:44:47 - Steps you can take right now to build your own sanctuary

00:51:42 - How to be engaged in the sensual experience of life

00:54:08 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:57:12 - Nisha’s advice to people who believe in their erotic power but don’t feel it yet

01:04:03 - Why the most real sense of power comes from trusting your body

01:08:44 - Why the world represses mothers from the knowledge that they are erotic beings

01:11:34 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery

01:13:19 - Nisha shares a powerful moment from her journey to erotic reclamation

01:18:27 - Nisha explains what she calls the “great trick” of midlife for women

01:21:04 - Conclusion