Shownotes

• What most people don’t realize about the happiest couples

• The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma

• How to never get ghosted again

• What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important

• Why repair is an ongoing practice

• Four of the most important skills required to repair successfully

Bio

Baya Voce is a relationship repair expert helping couples fight better and make up faster.

She holds an MSW from Columbia University, is in ongoing supervision with Esther Perel and is trained and mentored by Terry Real. Baya’s approach blends therapeutic depth with the practicality of coaching, teaching couples how to break destructive patterns, rebuild trust and come back together.

Baya collaborates with Columbia University, MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies) and Rick Doblin on pioneering research into MDMA-assisted couples therapy. She also regularly speaks at SXSW, and with over 5 million views, her TEDx talk on loneliness highlights the often-overlooked impact of relational disconnection.

Learn more about Baya’s work on Instagram @bayavoce.

Timestamps

00:00:45 - Guest introduction

00:03:56 - What led Baya to create a career out of relationship repair

00:08:37 - The social shift of perfection in coaching and leadership

00:10:39 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:12:01 - What people don’t realize about the happiest couples

00:14:35 - How a virtual world is challenging our human connections

00:19:08 - The difference between narcissistic abuse vs toxicity from trauma

00:22:47 - A question to ask yourself if you think you’re in a manipulative relationship

00:27:20 - Why Baya chooses to stay in her marriage despite the challenges

00:31:14 - Most couples will experience disillusionment in their relationship

00:33:00 - A question to ask yourself to help shift out of victimization

00:33:47 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:39:29 - The end of a partner’s capacity teaches you how strong you are

00:45:51 - How to never get ghosted again

00:50:57 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:55:23 - Baya explains the third pole of a relationship

01:01:50 - What exactly relationship repair is and why it’s important

01:04:29 - The difference between perception and perspective

01:12:58 - Why repair is an ongoing practice

01:15:17 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

01:18:30 - Four of the most important skills required to repair

01:28:49 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• How purity culture manifests in women’s bodies and sexual experiences

• Why a woman’s pleasure is a gift to everyone around her

• How ecstatic states purify and cleanse the soul

• Why shame is actually the gateway to pleasure

• A powerful practice that saved Dr. Kim’s life

• Why Jesus’ ministry would not exist without the women who supported it

Bio

Dr. Kimberly Rose Pendleton is a speaker, writer, teacher and the founder of UNCOVER, a 7-figure global lifestyle brand focused on intimacy, pleasure and women’s empowerment.

With a M.A. from Yale, a PhD, in-depth coaching training and many years of experience, Dr. Kim considers it a deep honor and pleasure to weave the intellectual side of empowerment, healing and intimacy work into embodied, playful pleasure practices.

Learn more about Dr. Kimberly and her work on her website and find her on all social media platforms @drkimberlyrosependleton.

Timestamps

00:00:48 - Guest introduction

00:02:49 - Layla shares her religious history

00:05:57 - Why Jesus’ ministry would not exist without the women who supported it

00:09:32 - Religious conditioning is baked into our society

00:09:56 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:12:55 - How purity culture manifests in women’s bodies and sexual experiences

00:14:58 - The reality of women who follow the rules of purity culture

00:19:06 - An MRI study from Daniel Bergner’s book What Do Women Want? proves that women silence their pleasure

00:26:29 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:30:40 - Pleasure is something all of us can access

00:37:51 - Dr. Kim shares a powerful practice that saved her life

00:40:30 - Why shame is the gateway to pleasure

00:42:30 - Explore the magic of MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:44:09 - Why a woman’s pleasure is a gift to everyone around her

00:44:51 - How ecstatic states purify the soul from Ritual Texts for the Afterlife: Orpheus and the Bacchic Gold Tablets by Fritz Graf and Sarah Iles Johnston

00:49:11 - A woman connected to her pleasure can do anything

00:52:25 - Dr. Kim shares why her good girl part had to experience a death to liberate her

00:57:29 - Why every woman needs to learn how to activate pleasure

00:57:35 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

01:01:27 - Humans were designed to play multiple notes in life

01:02:24 - Discover Dr. Kim’s free course Harlots and Heretics

01:02:40 - Dr. Kim shares about her experience inside VITA Coaching

01:08:05 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• The importance of focusing on connection instead of healing

• How to describe your feelings from your body instead of your head

• The most effective way to teach attunement to men

• Why lack of attunement feels like apathy

• The difference between suppression and containment

• What it feels like to be present inside of yourself

Bio

Steven Jaggers is a somatic educator, practitioner and the founder of SOMA+IQ™ Breathwork, a powerful modality for nervous system healing and embodied transformation.

He has trained over 2,000 practitioners in a unique method that rewires the body’s response to stress, trauma and connection through potent tools like breath, co-regulation and somatic self-inquiry.

Steven’s approach bridges ancient healing traditions with modern neuroscience, offering experiential tools for emotional integration, authentic relating and whole-body aliveness.

His work has been featured in university-accredited programs, major podcasts and global events. Learn more about Steven and his work on his website.

Timestamps

00:00:45 - Guest introduction

00:04:54 - Steven explains what meta skills are and their importance

00:08:25 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:09:34 - The importance of focusing on connection instead of healing

00:13:14 - How to describe your feelings from your body instead of your head

00:17:20 - Steven shares Eckhart Tolle’s definition of stress

00:21:05 - Others can feel your alignment in their nervous systems

00:23:24 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:24:35 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:25:36 - Steven’s definition of eros

00:25:47 - Layla shares her definition of eros

00:32:13 - The most effective way to teach attunement to men

00:42:53 - Why lack of attunement feels like apathy

00:47:26 - The difference between suppression and containment

00:51:52 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:53:19 - Steven explains the 4 modes of communication

00:55:01 - Steven guides Layla through a powerful breathwork practice

01:06:42 - What it feels like to be present inside of yourself

01:07:05 - What it feels like to not be present inside of yourself

01:12:08 - The 3 potentials that can happen for a client during coaching or facilitating

01:16:57 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Why women have a hard time accessing cervical orgasms

• What sex is like before cervical healing vs. what it’s like after

• A guided cervical micropractice you can follow along with

• How to create a relationship with your cervix if it’s been removed

• 3 Ways you can connect with your cervix every day

• Why your cervix is connected to having a healthy nervous system

Bio

Jamie Elizabeth Thompson is a feminine embodiment teacher and the founder of Awakened Woman, a global community and course platform devoted to helping women reclaim their pleasure as holy and cultivate the intimacy they most deeply desire in relationships.

Blending her 17 years of training in Somatic Psycho-Spiritual practices, erotic alchemy, and sacred sexuality, Jamie guides women to transform their relationship with their bodies and pleasure. She specializes in cervical de-armoring and awakening - activating the cervix as a divine erotic portal and a key to unlocking orgasmic aliveness and everyday bliss.

Learn more about Jamie and her work:

• Free Ecstatic Cervical Breathwork Ritual:⁠ https://www.awakenedwoman.life/cervixbreath
• Jamie’s Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/_awakened_woman⁠

• Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/missjamieelizabeth

Timestamps

00:00:44 - Guest introduction

00:03:10 - How Jamie discovered the magic of her cervix

00:04:25 - Jamie describes the moment her whole life opened up during a cervical orgasm

00:08:36 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:09:04 - The ingredients that led Jamie to be able to have a cervical orgasm

00:11:10 - Why women have a hard time accessing cervical orgasms

00:13:37 - The difference between a clitoral orgasm and a cervical orgasm

00:19:04 - Layla shares the story of her most powerful cervical orgasm

00:21:09 - This is one of the greatest gifts of a cervical orgasm

00:21:40 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:22:45 - Layla and Jamie drink MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:24:02 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC™ Elixir

00:25:14 - What sex is like before cervical healing vs. what it’s like after

00:29:24 - The cervix is a gateway into full erotic expression

00:29:55 - The most important things to know about opening and activating your cervix

00:31:48 - A regulated nervous system opens up the pathway for a cervical orgasm

00:34:09 - Jamie shares the #1 pitfall women experience when activating their cervix

00:39:41 - Jamie guides a cervical micropractice you can follow along with

00:52:51 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:53:46 - Jamie and Layla share what they experienced during the practice

00:59:25 - How touching your cervix automatically puts you in a feminine state

01:00:24 - Can you create a relationship with your cervix if it’s been removed?

01:03:13 - 3 Ways you can connect with your cervix every day

01:06:18 - Your cervix is connected to having a healthy nervous system

01:12:12 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• How to use pain to carve out space for more joy

• The key to re-establishing beautiful orgasmic experiences

• Layla’s experience training terror into safety in her nervous system

• The tools that allowed Layla to love greater than her relational trauma

• Why some of our earliest imprints of whether pleasure is safe happen in infancy

• How to heal trauma from a resource perspective so it becomes a gift

Bio

Emily Fletcher is the founder of Ziva Meditation and has taught over 50,000 people. Her best-selling book, Stress Less, Accomplish More, debuted at #7 out of all books on Amazon and has been translated into 12 languages.

Her work has been featured by The New York Times, Good Morning America, The Today Show, Vogue and ABC. She’s been named one of the top 100 women in wellness to watch and has taught at Apple, Google and Harvard Business School.

A formerly stressed Broadway performer who was going gray at 27, Emily discovered a powerful practice that cured her insomnia and improved her health on the first day. Her transformation was so dramatic that she felt inspired to share it with others.

It’s Emily’s mission to help as many people as possible achieve extraordinary benefits – like dramatically reduced stress, anxiety relief and deep, restful sleep.

Learn more about Emily and her work on her website.

Timestamps

00:01:00 - Guest introduction

00:02:00 - Emily shares her experience inside VITA Coaching

00:02:43 - What surprised Emily about VITA Coaching

00:04:24 - Emily shares about the death portal she’s been experiencing

00:06:26- The pain carves out space for more joy

00:07:05 - What inspired Layla to create VITA Coaching

00:10:39 - How to re-establish beautiful orgasmic experiences

00:13:33 - The answer to women being fractured in their power

00:13:48 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:18:49 - VITA Coaching is an understanding of women’s evolution of power

00:19:55 - The reactivation and reunion of sex, heart and spirit

00:21:45 - What has helped Emily remember her own divinity

00:25:29 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:27:52 - Layla shares her experience training terror into safety in her nervous system

00:30:09 - How the VITA tools allowed Layla to love greater than her relational trauma

00:32:10 - We have organic pleasure chemicals already in our body

00:33:31 - One of the things Layla is most proud of

00:35:59 - Some of our earliest imprints of whether pleasure is safe happen in infancy

00:39:31 - You heal your trauma at the level of consciousness it occurred

00:39:39 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:42:08 - If you love who you are, you can love what shaped you into it

00:45:43 - When you heal trauma from a resource perspective, it becomes a gift

00:46:22 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:47:26 - Layla shares the most touching thing VITA Coaching grads share with her

00:49:51 - Where to find the most outrageous amount of healing and self-practice

00:53:00 - Save your seat for Your Future is Erotic LIVE Event

00:54:12 - You don’t need to be perfect to be a powerful coach

00:57:02 - Why Layla considers it her responsibility to support your success as a coach

00:57:32 - VITA Coaching niche specializations to scale your impact and income

00:58:54 - Join the VITA Coaching Waitlist and unlock the maximum number of bonuses

00:59:56 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Nisha’s core components of leadership and why they’re so important

• The internal narrative Layla used to carry around leadership

• How to be both soft and gentle and ferocious and fiery as a woman

• Why we are exhausted from hypervigilance

• Steps you can take right now to build your own sanctuary

• Why the world represses mothers from their eroticism

Bio

Nisha Moodley is a Devotional Leadership guide, founder of Global Sisterhood Day, host of Devotion Podcast and a mother. As a biracial woman with training in health and executive coaching, ancestral healing work and community building, she has a unique relationship to the ecology of leadership and a profound ability to catalyze growth for her clients. Her work centers around the path of matriarchal leadership as an expression of our devotional care. For 18 years, Nisha has guided intimate councils and online courses and taught 65+ live retreats, supporting women in liberating their leadership and weaving their gifts in service of a more beautiful world.

Learn more about Nisha and her work on her website.

Timestamps

00:00:42 - Guest introduction

00:03:59 - Layla reads the email love letter she sent to Nisha in 2014

00:10:58 - You never know what might happen when you take a chance

00:12:03 - Nisha’s core components of leadership and why they’re so important

00:15:16 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:16:00 - Layla shares the internal narrative she used to carry around leadership

00:21:04 - The world teaches women that in order to be powerful, they must remain frozen

00:27:06 - How savoring life begins to naturally start shifting your attention outward

00:29:36 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:30:34 - Layla and Nisha drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™

00:32:54 - You can be both soft and gentle and ferocious and fiery as a woman

00:37:28 - We are exhausted from hypervigilance

00:44:47 - Steps you can take right now to build your own sanctuary

00:51:42 - How to be engaged in the sensual experience of life

00:54:08 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

00:57:12 - Nisha’s advice to people who believe in their erotic power but don’t feel it yet

01:04:03 - Why the most real sense of power comes from trusting your body

01:08:44 - Why the world represses mothers from the knowledge that they are erotic beings

01:11:34 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery

01:13:19 - Nisha shares a powerful moment from her journey to erotic reclamation

01:18:27 - Nisha explains what she calls the “great trick” of midlife for women

01:21:04 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• Why relational work has the ability to heal things that solo work can’t

• How to be fully present with what’s true in the moment

• Why deeper inquiry into yourself is at the heart of the spiritual journey

• The beautiful thing about disintegration and why it’s so important

• Why hiding your power creates disarray

• Tom’s top advice for connecting with yourself on a deeper level

Bio

From a young age, Tom Slater sought to learn through direct experience, a path that has taken him across the globe, immersing himself in many traditional and indigenous cultures. His quest to understand himself and the life he was experiencing led him to explore the very nature of his existence, often guiding him down challenging paths, including struggles with addiction and depression.

Through this deep exploration, Tom gradually opened up to a more profound connection with his own humanity, confronting the limitations that prevented him from fully feeling and embracing it. His personal journey has taught him invaluable lessons, enabling him to be present with others in a spontaneous and creative way, facilitating their own process of discovery.

Tom’s work, particularly through The Sapience Retreat, focuses on helping individuals integrate all aspects of their being – mental, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual – in a way that fosters a true sense of homecoming, both within themselves and in connection with others. At the heart of his approach is cultivating an open awareness and a deep sense of choice, empowering people to show up more fully and authentically in life.

Learn more about Tom and The Sapience Retreat on his website.

Timestamps

00:00:54 - Guest introduction

00:05:46 - Tom describes what a “meeting” is in his work

00:09:54 - A meeting can be any flavor of energy

00:13:36 - The heart of this work is to have less and less resistance to what’s happening

00:14:07 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:16:59 - Relational work has the ability to heal things that solo work can’t

00:18:44 - The various traps humans get caught in

00:20:19 - Why deeper inquiry into yourself is at the heart of the spiritual journey

00:23:01 - Layla summarizes spiral dynamics

00:26:41 - The beautiful thing about disintegration and why it’s so important

00:29:27 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:31:20 - Layla describes her experience with the beige stage

00:35:10 - Trust and safety only exist in this moment

00:39:51 - The power of unconditional somatic connection

00:40:40 - Layla and Tom drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™

00:43:20 - Layla talks about her “Reclamation in the Red Stage”

00:51:30 - When we hide our power, it can become a force that creates disarray

00:55:23 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:58:35 - How to be present with what’s true in the moment

01:01:09 - Layla shares about her entity removal at The Sapience Retreat

01:08:08 - What Tom whispered to Layla’s inner little girl

01:10:55 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside Crystal Pleasure

01:11:46 - Reach your full pleasure capacity with Men’s Sexual Mastery

01:13:40 - We don’t have to become cosmic starchildren to touch magic

01:17:39 - Just meeting each other as humans is the most advanced thing we can do

01:21:48 - Tom’s top advice for connecting with yourself on a deeper level

01:25:42 - Layla shares about the stuffed animal she used to carry

01:27:46 - Conclusion

Shownotes

• The best and worst sex ideas of 2025

• The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone

• Why safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic

• The biggest sexual problems people face

• Dr. Emily’s take on why people cheat

• How sex is a multi-layered experience

Bio

Emily Morse is a doctor of human sexuality and host of the award-winning #1 sexuality podcast, “Sex With Emily,” which has been on air for two decades. She’s a MasterClass instructor on sex and communication and the bestselling author of Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ & Own Your Pleasure. Emily has been profiled in The New York Times, Forbes and Men’s Health and has been featured by The Today Show, Conan, Entertainment Tonight, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Bustle and others.

Dr. Emily’s mission is to liberate the conversation about sex and pleasure. Her candid conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives.

Learn more about Dr. Emily and find her work on her website.

Timestamps

00:00:41 - Guest introduction

00:02:20 - What made you so good at talking about sex

00:04:43 - If you can’t talk about something, then you can’t have an empowering relationship to it

00:10:31 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:11:28 - Layla sexts with ChatGPT

00:14:31 - The worst sex ideas of 2025

00:17:42 - Every human is a magical universe

00:20:50 - Layla talks about her dating journey as a single woman

00:26:14 - The one piece of advice Layla would give to everyone

00:26:56 - The key to how Layla healed her unworthiness

00:31:57 - Even the experts are still human

00:33:41 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification

00:36:53 - Layla and Dr. Emily drink MOOD SEX MAGIC™

00:41:36 - Why Layla created MOOD Sexy Supplements

00:43:30 - Dr. Emily shares about her journey with somatic therapy

00:47:28 - Safety is the #1 ingredient for being orgasmic

00:48:20 - Discover MOOD SEX MAGIC

00:49:09 - What are the biggest sexual problems people face

00:54:56 - Do people who don’t practice sacred sexuality experience spirituality during sex?

00:57:30 - The divine is there in every moment, winking at you

00:58:27 - Enhance your sensitivity and pleasure inside ⁠Crystal Pleasure⁠

00:59:30 - Dr. Emily talks about why people cheat

01:08:31 - Sex is a multi-layered experience

01:13:40 - How ecstasy amplifies your manifesting powers

01:20:07 - Conclusion