So having a first job is always a big adjustment when you go from being a kid to pre-adult, but what did ours teach us and how have they been useful for life in general? We think it's so important regardless of your financial situation to have that experience! 

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This week we discuss emotional needs and whether it’s possible to meet your own, how to communicate what you need and where these needs could be met in all aspects of life.

What are 3 basic emotional needs?

1. How do you think you go about getting your emotional needs met?
2. How do I respond to others?  Is it usually passive, aggressive or assertive?
3. Do I often deny I have needs?  Do I put others’ needs above my own?
4. Do I demand my needs be met by everyone?  Do I feel I have the right to have my needs met?
5. Do I express my needs in honest, open ways?  How can I improve this?

The SDT (self-determination theory) reduces basic human needs down to just three: autonomy, competence and relatedness: autonomy is defined as the desire to self-organise behaviour and experience; competence means having an impact on and attaining valued outcomes; relatedness is the desire to feel connected to others, to give love and care 

"To hope that another human can meet our needs is asking too much of anyone."

Romanoff suggests being alert to when you tend to reach out for others to fulfill your needs. For many people, this might be when you are bored, lonely, or anxious or otherwise need to regulate your emotions.

"Once you identify your triggers, you can begin to reduce your dependence on others in these situations," says Romanoff. "If you delay reaching out, you could strengthen your own internal resources to process difficult emotions, for example by journaling, exercising, taking a warm shower, or another relaxing activity."

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There’s a lot more we could talk about on this subject but let’s do a sort of introduction as to why we buy designer items and what they mean or don’t mean to us.

• Repeated studies have shown that by buying luxury items, consumers are able to transport themselves to a place of higher self-esteem, they get a sense of belonging to an exclusive club, they might even feel that they’ve accomplished something by spending thousands on a new handbag.
•  At the heart of it all, stuff makes us feel good, and we all love feeling good. Many human behaviors are rewarded with pleasurable feelings (caused by the chemical dopamine). Buying stuff can release those same pleasure chemicals, and for many of us, our natural addiction to feeling good can hence be easily satisfied by buying something.
• Researchers at Yale have determined that this quest for authenticity develops early in childhood. A study that tried to convince children that a cloning machine had produced their favorite toy found that most children refused to accept the duplicate as identical. It turns out that the sentimentality of the item—the memory or feeling that comes from having purchased a genuine luxury good—is part of the reason that we seek authenticity.

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