Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

• I’m in a Betrayal & Beyond group and it’s teaching me so much about emotional awareness and health. My husband is in a Seven Pillars group and he’s not learning anything about emotional health or betrayal trauma? Why is this?
• When/How will my husband learn to be empathetic and take responsibility for the pain he’s caused me, if it’s not in the Seven Pillars work?
• My husband has been in group for months and I’m not seeing any changes in his attitude or behaviors. Can I talk to his group leader to find out if he’s actually doing the work?

Show notes:

Help Her Heal, by Carol Juergensen Sheets

Help Them Heal, by Carol Juergensen Sheets

Worthy of Her Trust, by Stephen Arterburn

Pure Desire Counseling

Betrayal & Beyond (Women's Betrayal Resource)

Seven Pillars of Freedom (Men's Recovery Resource)

The Compassionate Warrior (Men's Recovery Resource)

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

• Can my husband rape me?
• Can I say no to my husband?
• I feel disconnected when we don't have sex, but when I have sex with my husband I feel used. What can I do to change this pattern?

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer these questions:

• My question is how do you know if you are actually having an orgasm?
• I don’t know that I have ever enjoyed sex. I can orgasm but I don’t know how to wake my body up. Sex was shamed in my Christian home then I was supposed to enjoy it after marriage but for so long, sex was used as a tool when my husband was in his addiction. We are doing so much better, relationally, after PD but I don’t know how to start liking sex.
• How are the brain and orgasm connected?

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer these questions:

• My husband went to a “massage parlor” for a hand job about every two weeks until I discovered what he was doing 13 months later. How do I get over the shame?
• My question is, after a 33-year marriage, where I trusted my husband, I found out he was having a long-term affair with a married woman. I suspected porn and seeing some of the pictures on his phone, he was into some very devious stuff. I’m now divorced, and I’m wondering if I can trust another man again to love who I am and not feel like I have to be a woman of the world to grab a man’s attention again. I’m doubting that I’m someone desirable in bed anymore.
• After having sex with my husband, I feel so much shame and often cry. Why is this? We’ve been through the healing process, but I can’t seem to shake these feelings after sex.

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer the following questions:

• Since discovery, it's been hard for me to know when my husband is telling me the truth. Should I trust my gut intuition even though he’s telling me I’m being paranoid?
• What is gaslighting? Can you give examples of what this looks like?
• What are the best ways to respond if I think someone is gaslighting me?

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The Betrayal Bind, by Michelle Mays

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

• Why am I so angry?
• My husband betrayed me; why am I taking it out on my kids?
• Growing up, it was implied that being angry was sinful. I know I'm hurt but how do I know if I'm dealing with anger?

Anger Test

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

• Is calling a sexual sin “addiction” just excusing the behavior?
• Is sex addiction real?
• People who struggle with sex addiction, why can’t they just stop the behavior?

Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships

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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:

• What is betrayal trauma?
• My husband says I'm overreacting but the pain and foggy-headedness I'm feeling seem uncontrollable. Is it possible to heal from betrayal trauma?
• Women I’ve been with in group use phrases like "before Pure Desire and after Pure Desire.” What are they referring to?

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