It’s a crazy world but we’re all living in it and making time for play has never been so important to our well being as it is in these middle years. Land and Rebecca talk to Aurélie Harp, founder of Humanity Play, and discuss the importance of incorporating play into life. Aurélie shares her journey of starting her coaching and consulting company and how she observed division and labels in society. She emphasizes the power of play in bringing joy and reclaiming agency in life. She encourages individuals to step out of societal expectations and explore the possibilities. Aurélie also highlights the transformative nature of play and the benefits it brings to adulthood and discusses cultural differences in play and lifestyle. In this conversation, Aurélie Harp addresses the relationship between productivity and joy and explains that while productivity can be efficient and even joyful to a certain extent, there comes a point when it becomes exhausting and prevents us from being present in the moment. Aurélie emphasizes the importance of breaking the rule of constant productivity and finding moments of relaxation and playfulness. She also highlights the value of building relationships and exploring different roles and identities. Aurélie encourages listeners to expand their definition of play and find joy in the messy middle of life. She suggests incorporating playfulness into everyday routines and creating meaningful connections with others.

KEY POINTS

• Incorporating play into life, especially in middle age, is essential for bringing joy and reclaiming agency.
• Stepping out of societal expectations and exploring possibilities can lead to a more fulfilling life.
• Play has transformative power and can improve creativity, boost self-confidence, and relieve stress.
• Cultural differences in play and lifestyle offer valuable insights and opportunities for learning.
• Breaking the rule of constant productivity and finding moments of relaxation and playfulness is essential for our well-being.
• Expanding the definition of play allows us to find joy in unexpected activities and experiences.
• Creating meaningful connections with others and embracing love as a response to life's challenges can bring us joy and fulfillment.

You can follow Aurélie here :

https://www.womanityplay.com

https://linktr.ee/womanity

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The Clearing, The Woods, The Path.....sounds like a new M. Night Shyamalan movie, but mid life transitions shouldn't be that scary.

Once they fix the tech issues, Rebecca and Lana get right into it with psychotherapist, Kate Hilton. In this episode they discuss career & life changes, transferrable skills, safe risks and taking that first step outside the clearing.

Kate Hilton is an expert on the essential role of creativity in mental health, and on the power and process of life transitions. She is a Registered Psychotherapist and neuroscience-based Creativity Coach working primarily in the area of transformational change. She is interested in how we shift in our understanding of identity as we pass through different life stages, and how we can get stuck in old stories about who we are.

Kate is also a bestselling author of 4 novels, The Hole in the Middle, Just Like Family, Better Luck Next Time, and the recently released Bury the Lead, co-authored with Elizabeth Renzetti. Kate maintains an active creative practice.

You can follow Kate here :
@katehiltonbooks
KATEHILTON.COM
KATE HILTON THERAPY
Bury The Lead

KEY POINTS

3:10. Mid-life Reflection
3:57. Meaning & Purpose
4:27. Exploring Zones of Discomfort
5:44. We'r Carrying a lot
6:45. Gen X Expectations
7:54. What Does Success Look Like
8:45. Impossible Standards
9:00. Who's Story is it Anyways
9:58. What are your Values
10:30. Reflection
11:28 Develop a Broader Sense of Identity
12:00. Transferable Skills
12:42 You Already have the Answers
15:30. Stability
17:29. Who Do You Want to Be
18:27. Money is Important
19:20. A Holistic Picture
20:48. Parts of Self
22:30. Safe Risk
25:28. You're Standing in a Clearing
27:53. Comparison is the Thief of Joy
30:49. Practical Tips
30:53. Therapy
31:10. Creativity
32:26. Explore Safe Risks

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Paging Dr. TikTok. Just kidding, it's all evidence based medicine here folks!

Three Toronto women sit down to talk about HRT.
In this episode, Rebecca and Lana are joined by Dr. Jessica Shepherd, board certified OB/GYN, CEO of Sanctum Med + Wellness and founder of Modern Meno, a site for trusted menopause management . We debunk hormone replacement therapy myths with our midlife sisters in arms, confront our 'edginess' and question why Viagra is so vital.

Dr. Jessica Shepherd, is a nationally known board certified OB/GYN, and women’s health media expert. She was recently featured on the cover of D Magazine and voted as one of Dallas’ Best Doctors in 2023. She is the CEO of Sanctum Med + Wellness, a regenerative concierge center in Dallas, TX.

Dr. Shepherd is also seen regularly as an expert on news shows such as Good Morning America, The Today Show, and CNN and has also written various magazine articles for Vogue, Forbes, Cosmopolitan, Women’s Health, and much more. She is seen on national stages including SXSW, the Women's March in NYC and SheMedia.

Her passion for women’s health has allowed her to be an advocate for menopausal health and health care disparities. As a health care expert, she strives to educate people on their bodies and how to address their physical, sexual, emotional health in addition to the incorporation of wellness.

Her vibrant personality has been highlighted in keynote addresses at events nationally and allowed her to work with celebrities including Sheryl Crow, Ciera, Brooke Burke, Erin Andrews, Dr. Jackie Walters, Kandy Burress and Laila Ali.She strives to educate people on their bodies and how to address their physical, sexual, emotional health in addition to the incorporation of wellness.

Her upcoming book, 'Generation M', will be published in October.

You can follow her here :

@jessicashepherdmd
Modern Meno
Sanctum Med + Wellness
Generation M

Key Points

2:55 WHI study on hormones in late 90s
6:30 Importance of unbiased, vetted information
7:07. Dr. TikTok
7:21 Generation M
10:32 When does peri-menopause start
11:39. You can receive HRT in both peri-menopause and menopause
13:07. HRT can help symptoms and be used for longevity
13:42 Testosterone is also part of the equation
15:35 Some women have contra-indications
16:57. Different modalities of treatment
19:12. Resolving symptoms are most important
20:16. Disparity in access
21:15. Invest in your health for the long term
23:37. Take 15 mins for yourself
26:01. Start small
26:37 100% of women will go through this
26:46. HRT can offer benefits for longevity
27:07. Nutrition is often neglected
27:31 Build muscle mass
28:22. The body is a whole unit
28:42. Protein!

This episode is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should seek medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have from their personal healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

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Episode 10! That's Where We're At!

This week , Rebecca and Lana do a recap of the show so far, how it started and how it's going. We love all the episodes equally, but if we are choosing favourites...... We go head to head with our personal picks from the first 10.

Key Points

1:20. We pick our favourite bits

Lana's Picks
1:28. Sex w/Dr. Lori Brotto
4:26. Style w/ Susie Sheffman
8:29 Optimal Health w/ Galadriel Masterson
13:11. Skin w/ Melani Chong

Rebecca's Picks
2:35. End of Life Planning w/Meredith Cox
6:03. Soul Crew w/Angela Perzow
11:42. Tarot Lori w/Lori Dyan
14:56. Midlife Malaise w/ Sarah Brokaw

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Midlife is difficult and can be exhausting. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed and the weight of that can bring us down. This week Rebecca and Lana discuss midlife blues, strategies for coping and why we should be joining our local Polar Bear Club, with therapist and author, Sarah Brokaw.

Sarah Brokaw is a licensed psychotherapist (LCSW) and certified professional coach with a private practice in Los Angeles. She works with individuals and couples who are struggling with challenges that are getting in the way of their ability to accomplish major goals. She strives to help individuals seeking a greater sense of purpose, fulfillment and success in any area of life by guiding the person on a path to self-empowerment.

Sarah is the New York Times best selling author of ‘Fortytude: Making the Next Decades the Best Years of Your Life-through the 40s, 50s, and Beyond’, and the creator and host of the podcast Shared Secrets that focuses on the healing power of shared vulnerability.

Sarah currently serves as a volunteer therapist for Homeboy Industries, which provides hope, training and support to formerly gang-involved and incarcerated men and women.

KEY POINTS

4:22 Existential Crisis
7:50 Who are we trying to measure up to
10:57 Andropause
11:45 There is a Privilege to Aging
12:57 Daily Mindfulness
13:43 Water Intake
14:16 Deliberate Cold WaterExposure
16:30 What are you Avoiding
17:12 Don't Judge, Just Note It
17:41 Connect with Someone
18:02 Understand you Relationship with Money
21:40 There is a Process
212:49 Change is Inevitable


Links
Fortytude : Making the Next Decades the Best Years of Your Life - Through the 40s, 50s and Beyond

Website: www.sarahbrokaw.com
IG: @sarahauldbrokaw

SharedSecrets: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/shared-secrets/id1066594282

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We all would like to look into the future and know if we’ll win the lotto or meet that tall, dark stranger. But let's face it, a Ouiji board won’t cut it past middle school. We can't know definitively what the future holds, but we do know someone who can help us shed some light on the path ahead.

This week Rebecca and Lana consult with Tarot Lori to understand how tarot can be used as a tool for empowerment, self-discovery and personal growth.

Lori Dyan, AKA Tarot Lori, has been reading tarot for over thirty years. She has an international clientele—from CEOs, to celebrities to CIA operatives—and a dedicated Instagram following. Despite being mentored by a actual crystal-ball-gazing witch, Lori is not your average tarot card reader. Her tagline, “Woo Woo Without the Cuckoo,” reflects her modern and accessible style of tarot. Because Lori is a member of the Peguis band (from Cree and Ojibwe descent), her lineage is woven throughout her work—it is the source of her magic. As well as offering online readings and workshops worldwide, Lori is a popular media guest, keynote speaker and event entertainer.

Her new book, ‘Burn Your Shit - The Life Changing Magic of Rituals’, will be available this May from Harper Collins.

Key Points

5:40. Archetypes tap into collective unconscious
6:35 'It's My Turn'
7:14 Cards Provide a Guide
8:42 Unleashed
9:41 Tarot gives you Bread Crumbs
10:15 Universal Commonalities
11:19 Full Moon Ritual AKA 'Burn Your Shit'
12:21 Mission - Inspire, Empower, Enlighten
14:10 How It Works
15:12 Woo Woo PSA
16:13 Rituals Are Self Care
22:24 Core Root of Problems

Tuning In
24:02 Get Quiet
24:27 Loving Yourself in this Moment
24:32 Be Curious


Links
Tarot Lori Website
@tarotlori
Burn Your Shit - The Life Changing Magic of Rituals

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WARNING: This episode discusses topics such as death, and end of life planning that might be triggering for some. Please listen with caution.

"If I had died yesterday, what would I want to be in place?"

Don’t leave them guessing as you exit stage left!

You can leave your family scrambling to make arrangements—or calmly executing your wishes. There's a lot of planning for the end of life, whether it's happening in months, years, or decades, that goes beyond your will and estate. You’ll love the peace of mind that comes from your own carefully designed and executed End of Life Plan.

Lana and Rebecca discuss cremation vs green burial, funeral playlists and most importantly, who is going to do our makeup !

Meredith Cox is a Family Lawyer, Accredited Mediator, Transition Coach and End of Life Facilitator, bringing a unique blend of legal experience, conflict resolution skills and end of life planning qualifications to her practical, 360° approach. Throughout her 30 year career, Meredith has witnessed the transformative power of compassion, humour and respectful communication. With a commitment to guiding individuals through life challenges, Meredith empowers clients to navigate transitions with accountability, clarity and knowledge.

Remember - it’s always too early to plan until it’s too late.

Key Points

2:01 Start Decluttering
2:23 Tell Someone Your Plan
3:05 The BASICS
3:08 Legal & Financial
4:53 Guardianship of Children
6:15 Property Disclosure
6:38 Make in Inventory
7:07 Digital information
7:20 Old School Back Up - on PAPER!
7:50 Digital Executor
9:28. Household Information
10:18 Swedish Death Plan
13:13 Burial Preferences
14:50 Funeral Arrangements
15:50 Cremation vs Green Burial
19:16 It all comes down to Values, Wishes, Beliefs
19:21 Legacy
21:21 Death Party
23:31. Advanced Care Plan
27:23. Review Annually

Meredith G Cox
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Before I Go Solutions

The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and Your Family from a Lifetime of Clutter

Advance Care Planning Ontario

MyGoodbyes App

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Love the skin you're in. This week we talk to cosmetic scientist Melani Chong about owning our wrinkles, old-school skin hacks and dropping the rocks already.
Melani Chong has been in the fashion industry for 30 years. She is a cosmetic scientist and skincare formulator and received her postgrad education at MIT. Melani has been offered a seat on the Harvard Medical Healthcare Leadership program for 2024. She is the founder of MC2 Industries a cosmetic research & development consulting company that consults on brand/product development for consumer products, pharmaceutical, home and personal care amenities for an international clientele.

Key Points

3:33 Microbiome
5:32 Transitions in our skin
7:12 Hormones are major players
10:23 Actives
11:27 Emotional & Practical Investment
12:50 Value on your wrinkles
14:27 Tools of the trade
17:07 Old School Hacks
20:30 Keep it simple
26:19 Drop the rocks



Links

Melani Chong Instagram

Melani Beauty

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