• Why do We Allow People So Much Control and How To Take it Back?

  • Apr 15 2022
  • Duración: 57 m
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Why do We Allow People So Much Control and How To Take it Back?

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  • Call it marketing or a tactic to sell you something, but all of us have been conditioned to respond to truth with a market-based mindset. In other words, how will this "_________" make me feel, improve my life, make me happier, make me better, improve my reputation... and so on, and so forth.This mindset makes us vulnerable to the idea that what people think of us if they like us or are accepting of us, is really important. So much that we will dress, talk and behave out of character simply to control what these people think of us. We do it almost instinctively too. So much of my frustrations come back to this reality. In essence, what I am doing though is yielding control of others. I'm saying what you think is so important that I will change something about myself to conform. Sounds pretty ugly when you say it like that I know, but this is what I do, what we all do. We all say we don't care what people think, but then turn around and actually do something to invoke a response from them. Worse, we telegraph to people that we are controlled by what others think every time someone is able to say or do even the slightest thing that sets us off. We become the fish and they know how to bait the hook to get us to bit. So let's say I'm on to something, how do we change this, how do we stop playing this game with ourselves and winding up frustrated, angry, and even hurt by others. In this podcast I want you to understand that change, doesn't happen through tactics and manipulation. That means you're going to have to really do some work to understand how to change this reality. This isn't just about realizing your room needs tidying up so you spend a few hours cleaning. This requires some source code changing. But we can't just erase the hard drive and start over... did you know that even when you format and erase a hard drive... the code is still there. It's just not readable the way that it was before. This is how forensic detectives solve crimes too. Cool stuff... Our minds are the same way, all that we have learned is there... it's just we have to change the way we retrieve it...and in the process of writing new code, we begin to write over the old code.The apostle Paul, a Titan of the Jesus movement in the first century... said in one of his letters to Christians in Rome, that we have to begin to "renew our minds"(Romans 12:2) in order to begin to understand God's purpose in all of this. This means we need to begin to displace poor thinking, that is, the marketing approach we use to value life, and start immersing ourselves in the truth. For you, this may mean beginning a quest to discover the truth, what is real and objectively good and right about your own life. This has the effect of then displacing those previous ideas, the things that float to the surface, and refilling us with weightier truth that provides substance and foundation.But realize, this is not easy, and it shouldn't be either. We have this thing we do and it goes like this, if it isn't easy then there is a better way - and that's not true. It may be true for taking bolts out of cylinder heads or pounding nails in 2x4s, but it's not true for learning the truth and purpose of our lives. The fact is, the process can be shocking and ugly sometimes. It's hard to embrace the truth about who we are... to realize that how we see ourselves, isn't how we really are. This is going to require tough gritty determination and also... sacrifice, which is why, for the most part, we never actually change.In order for us to truly change, something about our core has to change. James Clear in his book Atomic Habits points this out very clearly. The habits of your day-to-day life are the result of your identity, and who you are. You sing because you value singing, and that makes you a singer. You write because you derive meaning from writing, thus, you are a writer. You practice the things that you value and identify with.This very truth is hard for people, but until we truly embrace its impact, we will never truly change. All we end up doing is pointlessly trying to change an outcome by changing a tactic or doing something differently. Until we see who we are, is why we do what we do, we will never truly change. Identity is who you are, it's your purpose maybe, or your value system. So in this episode, I talk about discovering your identity in the pursuit of purpose. I share some solid ideas for why this is rational and true. I also give you some perspective on the practical way to reinforce this pursuit. Start displacing the bad ideas and start embracing the good ones, by immersing yourself in the truth.Here are some of the books and resources that I shared on the podcast today that may help you explore your own truth quest as it relates to Jesus and the Christian worldview. https://crossexamined.orghttps://coldcasechristianity.comC. S. Lewis Movie: The Most Reluctant ConvertAudio Book: Cold Case Christianity by J. Warner WallaceAndy Stanely ...
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