Are we too soft on our kids? Dive deep into the controversial world of permissive parenting with Kat and Dr. Leonard Sax, a renowned expert in child and adolescent development. This conversation exposes the troubling outcomes of lax parenting styles and the critical need for more defined boundaries in family dynamics. Explore why striving to be your child's best friend might be undermining their development and contributing to broader societal issues.

Dr. Sax unpacks the collapse of traditional parenting roles and its link to rising anxiety and depression among youths. He stresses the importance of authoritative parenting over permissive approaches, especially in an era dominated by digital distractions like TikTok and addictive video games. Discover how religious families often succeed in instilling resilience in children, and why a return to more structured parenting could lead to healthier, more capable young adults.

Join us as we delve into the effects of permissive parenting on academic performance, attention spans, and the psychological well-being of both boys and girls. Learn why setting limits and restoring adult connections are vital in counteracting the negative impacts of social media and fostering true achievement and power in the next generation.

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Unlock the secrets of genetic psychology with Professor Robert Plomin as we explore how our genes shape our behaviour, personality, and mental health. Dive into the heart of the debate: are we the products of our environment, or do our genes determine who we become?

Join Kat and Professor Robert Plomin in this fascinating discussion about the substantial influence of genetics on psychology. From mental health to cognitive abilities, discover how genetic predispositions interact with environmental factors to shape individual differences. The conversation delves into genetic determinism, the role of polygenic scores in predicting health outcomes, and the ethical dimensions of genetic testing.

We'll explore the balance between genetic makeup and personal choices, challenging the notion that environmental factors alone dictate our psychological traits. This engaging dialogue offers profound insights into how understanding our genetic foundation can lead to more informed and compassionate approaches to mental health and parenting.

Are we truly living under a patriarchy, or is the term currently misunderstood?

Join Kat and George, a man behind TheTinMen as they delve into the heated debate on the true meaning of patriarchy in today's society.

Our discussion not only challenges prevailing notions of male oppression but also shines a light on often ignored issues like men's health, rights, and the unique pressures they face. From examining the real impacts of gamma bias to exploring controversial men's right to choose, this conversation unpacks the complexities surrounding men's roles and rights.

Don’t miss this thought-provoking exploration that challenges conventional wisdom and calls for a deeper understanding of gender dynamics.

Is empathy always a virtue? Or is it just a smoke screen for narcissists?

Join Kat as she delves into a provocative discussion with Dr. Barbara Oakley, exploring why 'empathy is not virtuous' can be a hard truth in today's society hell-bent on thin veneer of kindness.

Unpacking the concept of pathological altruism, they uncover how well-meaning actions can sometimes lead to unintended harm, both personally and societally. From the dangers of extreme activism to the manipulative use of altruistic motives in totalitarian regimes, this conversation challenges our preconceptions and urges a re-evaluation of what it truly means to do good.

This is a compelling exploration of how critical thinking and a balanced perspective on empathy can prevent kindness from turning into calamity.

Uncover why understanding the pitfalls of unchecked empathy is crucial for genuinely beneficial actions, finishing with a powerful reminder: True kindness requires more than good intentions; it demands a clear-eyed view of the consequences.

Time to reverse the fall of our civilisations and explore potential solutions to population collapse that is awaiting us.

Join Kat and Dr. Paul Morland, a renowned author and broadcaster, widely recognised as one of the world's leading demographers as they discuss the paradox of wealth and fertility, the consequences of aging populations, and the urgent need for policies that encourage parenthood.

Discover why societal changes, such as improved housing affordability and supportive childcare, are necessary but not sufficient to reverse the trend of falling birth rates. From the impact of immigration to the role of education in shaping attitudes toward family planning, this conversation navigates the complex landscape of demographic challenges that threaten economic growth and societal health.

Dive deeper into the strategies that could stabilise or even reverse population decline, examining how governments, communities, and individuals can collaborate to foster a demographic environment where the joy of raising children is a celebrated aspect of life.

Understand the balance needed between government action, technological advancements, and personal responsibility in creating sustainable solutions to one of the most pressing issues of our time.

In this episode, Kat Kuczynska is joined by Dr. Mark Leary to talk about the "Goldilocks Zone" for self-reflection. They explore how to strike the perfect balance between too much and too little self-awareness and discuss the evolutionary roots of stress responses, the importance of controlling negative emotions, and the perils of excessive self-focus.

Dr. Leary also shares his insights on social anxiety, the impact of social media, and the necessity of intellectual humility. Drawing from his research and life experiences, Dr. Leary guides us through the complexities of self-esteem, mindfulness, and the importance of community. Tune in for a rich, thought-provoking conversation aimed at helping you navigate the intricacies of the human mind and social connections.

Here are the Highlights:

00:01 Surprising Insights: The Curse of the Self

05:06 The Evolution of Self-Reflection: From Beneficial to Harmful

12:30 Mindfulness and Overthinking: Finding the Balance

17:15 Self-Esteem: Debunking Myths and Finding the Truth

27:02 Self-Esteem as a Social Gauge: How Others Affect Our Self-Worth

32:31 The Dangers of Extreme Individualism

37:00 Impression Management: Navigating Social Perceptions

43:45 Social Media’s Impact on Our Internal Gauge

47:58 The Importance of Context in Caring About Others’ Opinions

52:11 Embracing Realism: Finding Your Goldilocks Zone

56:43 Intellectual Humility: Recognizing We Could Be Wrong

1:02:18 Finding Balance in a Complex World: The Path to a High-Quality Life

1:06:17 Retirement and Ongoing Research: Intellectual Humility and Beyond

About Dr. Mark Leary

Mark Leary is a researcher, writer, and Professor Emeritus of Psychology and Neuroscience at Duke University who is recognised internationally as a leading expert in social and personality psychology. During his career, Mark has published 12 books and more than 250 scholarly articles and chapters on topics dealing with social motivation, emotion, self-relevant thought, and psychological well-being. He has also recorded three courses for the Teaching Company’s Great Courses series: Understanding the Mysteries of Human Behavior, Why You Are Who You Are: Investigations into Human Personality, and Your Public Persona: Self-presentation in Everyday Life.

Mark is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association, the Association for Psychological Science, and the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, for which he served as President in 2014. He received the Lifetime Career Award from the International Society for Self and Identity and was co-recipient of the Scientific Impact Award (with Roy Baumeister) from the Society for Experimental Social Psychology. Mark was founding editor of the journal, Self and Identity, and editor of Personality and Social Psychology Review and Character and Context, the blog of the Society for Personality and Social Psychology.

After 39 years as a faculty member, Mark retired from Duke University in 2019 and now spends much of his time writing and speaking about human behaviour.

About Kat Kuczynska

Successful entrepreneur and a mother turns into a wisdom seeker to figure out how to thrive in an ever-changing and challenging world.

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In today's episode, Kat Kuczynska talks to Dr. David C. Geary in an enlightening discussion about the complexities of education and gender dynamics. They explore how different educational approaches can benefit boys and girls. They also discuss the nuances of equal rights and parental responsibilities and examine the impact of societal narratives on both men and women.

Dr. Geary provides fascinating insights into gender differences in cognitive abilities and professional interests, shaped by everything from pre-natal hormones to societal conditions. They tackle the "gender equality paradox" in STEM fields and discuss the biological and societal factors influencing boys' academic challenges and natural behaviour. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that challenges conventional wisdom and offers deeper insight into the fabric of our social dynamics.

Here are the Highlights:

00:00 The Nature vs. Nurture Debate in Gender Differences

07:52 Rough and Tumble Play: Boys’ Natural Inclination

12:38 Career Choices: Interests and Skills Shaped by Gender

19:00 The Gender Equality Paradox: More Equal Societies, More Occupational Segregation

25:23 Boys’ Education: Addressing the Unique Needs of Boys

30:32 The Controversial Debate on Reproductive Rights and Gender Equality

36:42 Cognitive Differences: Strengths and Vulnerabilities

42:31 The Health and Developmental Differences Between Genders

49:55 Evolutionary Perspectives on Sex Differences

56:10 Current and Future Research: Insights and Expectations

About Dr. David C. Geary

David C. Geary is a distinguished cognitive scientist and evolutionary psychologist, renowned for his expertise in mathematical cognition, learning, and the biological underpinnings of sex differences. With a Ph.D. from the University of California at Riverside in 1986, he has held faculty positions at the University of Texas at El Paso and the University of Missouri. Presently a Curators' Distinguished Professor and Thomas Jefferson Fellow in the Department of Psychological Sciences and Interdisciplinary Neuroscience Program, Dr. Geary has authored several influential books, including "Children's Mathematical Development," "Male, Female: The Evolution of Human Sex Differences," "The Origin of Mind: Evolution of Brain, Cognition, and General Intelligence," and "Evolution of Vulnerability: Implications for Sex Differences in Health and Development." He has also co-authored the book "Sex Differences: Summarizing More Than a Century of Scientific Research." Additionally, Dr. Geary has contributed over 330 articles and chapters across diverse fields such as cognitive, developmental, and evolutionary psychology, education, biology, and medicine. Notably, he has delivered invited addresses at various prestigious institutions in the United States, Canada, Europe, and East Asia, covering a wide spectrum of disciplines.

About Kat Kuczynska

Successful entrepreneur and a mother turns into a wisdom seeker to figure out how to thrive in an ever-changing and challenging world.

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In today's episode, Dr. Joyce Benenson offers a deep dive into her groundbreaking research on the differences between men and women. She shares surprising findings that challenge common beliefs, such as the discovery that young boys and men are highly communal, caring, and cooperative, contrasting with the common stereotype of men we have in our minds.

We explore the unique ways men and women form relationships and alliances. Dr. Benenson also delves into the fascinating world of female intersexual competition, revealing that women do compete as much as men do, but using more subtle strategies.

This conversation covers a range of intriguing topics, including gender dynamics, the evolution of the human brain for social navigation, and the sensitivity of women to threats, which might influence their behaviour in avoiding controversy or cancelling dissenting voices.

Join us for an insightful and thought-provoking discussion that will challenge your perceptions and deepen your understanding of gender differences and evolutionary biology that dives us all.

Here are the Highlights:

01:51 Women do compete as much as men do but they use more subtle strategies.

08:54 Ancient evidence supports shift in gender dynamics.

15:01 Unveiling Female Intersexual Competition: Subtle and Indirect Forms

29:42 Material possessions and status don't lessen competitiveness.

35:42 Long human childhood leads to bigger brains.

42:14 Gender Differences in Competition and Self-Protection

47:58 The Role of Emotional Upset in Cancel Culture

53:44 The Importance of Understanding Evolutionary Biology

57:34 Questioning personality traits tested in different contexts.

01:03:59 Research focuses on sex ratios and alliances.

About Joyce

Dr. Joyce Benenson is a lecturer in Human Evolutionary Biology Department at Harvard University. Her research focuses on the development of human social structures, emphasizing sex differences in competition and cooperation, drawing insights from non-human primates, especially chimpanzees. She teaches courses on Primate Development and Mammalian Behavior.

Dr. Benenson began studying children's interactions at the age of 19 as an undergraduate at Duke University. After earning her Ph.D. from Harvard University in 1988, she held various academic positions including post-doctoral researcher at Radcliffe College, assistant professor at the University of Hartford, assistant and associate professor at McGill University in Canada, reader in Ethology at the University of Plymouth in England, and full professor of Psychology at Emmanuel College in Boston.

Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Warriors-Worriers-Survival-Joyce-Benenson/dp/0199972230

About Kat Kuczynska

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