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Women's Leadership Success

Women's Leadership Success

De: Sabrina Braham MA MFT PPC
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Since 1989, Women Business Leadership Skills and Career Development Advice. Interviews with Successful Women CEOs, Managers and Entrepreneurs to Help You Influence People, Improve Performance, Get Promoted, Increase Earnings and Enhance Your Job/Life BalanceSabrina Braham MA MFT PCC 2020 © Economía Exito Profesional Gestión Gestión y Liderazgo Liderazgo
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  • Difficult Conversations at Work: Advanced Negotiation Strategies from a Hostage Negotiator

    Difficult Conversations at Work: Advanced Negotiation Strategies from a Hostage Negotiator
    Dec 9 2025
    Master the "tone, intent, outcome" framework and build trust through vulnerability to navigate your most difficult conversations at work and become a better leader. You've mastered the fundamentals of negotiation in Women’s Leadership Success 153 ( part I). Now it's time to tackle the conversations that keep you up at night: the confrontation with an angry stakeholder, the politically charged discussion dividing your team, the compensation negotiation where everything is on the line, or the feedback conversation that could make or break a critical relationship. This discussion former Scotland Yard negotiator Scott Walker reveals advanced strategies that separate good leaders from exceptional ones. These are the frameworks used when hostages' lives hung in the balance‚ adapted specifically for the high-stakes leadership challenges women executives face every day. Building on the Foundation Effective difficult conversations at work require mastering several core principles: reframing negotiation as a conversation with purpose, managing emotional hijacking through behavioral change indicators, listening at deeper levels to understand emotion and perspective, asking questions rather than making statements, preparing thoroughly using systematic frameworks, and seeking practice opportunities with challenging people. Now we build on that foundation with advanced strategies for the conversations that truly test your leadership capacity. Understanding Their World: The Foundation of Influence You Cannot Influence Someone You Don't Understand A principle that transforms how women leaders approach difficult conversations at work: You can't influence somebody unless you already know what influences them. You're wasting your time. It's the height of arrogance, and you're not really going to succeed long-term anyway. This isn't about manipulation‚ it's about genuine understanding. To truly influence someone, you must understand their beliefs and values, decision-making rules and criteria, primary emotional drivers, how they see the world and their place in it, and what human needs they're trying to meet. The Only Path to This Understanding: Deep Listening Most people think they're excellent listeners, yet often go through the motions without truly engaging. Being on the receiving end when someone is thinking about a million other things feels infuriating and dismissive. The Critical Truth About Listening in Difficult Conversations No one has ever listened themselves out of a job or a relationship. This simple truth carries profound implications for women leaders navigating difficult conversations at work. Deep listening doesn't diminish respect, authority, or influence‚ it amplifies all three. The 5 Levels of Listening for Difficult Conversations Levels 1-3: Surface Listening (Where Most Leaders Get Stuck) Level 1: Distracted Listening Nodding while mentally planning your rebuttal or thinking about other priorities. The other person immediately senses your lack of genuine engagement, trust erodes, resistance increases, and resolution becomes impossible. Level 2: Rebuttal Listening Waiting for them to finish so you can explain why they're wrong. You're not actually processing their perspective, just defending your own. Both parties dig into entrenched positions and the conversation becomes adversarial. Level 3: Logic-Only Listening Focusing solely on facts, data, and logical arguments while ignoring emotions. Most difficult conversations at work are driven by emotional needs, not logical disagreements. You address surface issues while core concerns remain unresolved. Levels 4-5: Transformational Listening Level 4: Listening for Emotion What emotions are driving this person's position? Fear? Frustration? Feeling undervalued? Anxiety about change? Notice emotional shifts and acknowledge them without judgment. Saying "It sounds like this situation is really frustrating for you..." creates connection. Level 5: Listening for Point of View Ask yourself: "Why is this person telling me these specific words RIGHT NOW?" Seek the underlying human needs and deeper motivations beneath the surface position. The presenting issue is rarely the real issue it's usually two to six levels deeper. The Real Issue is Never the Presenting Issue When dealing with kidnappers, they wanted money‚Äîbut it wasn't just about the money. They wanted to save face, to feel like they were in control, to feel significant. If negotiators had only focused on money while ignoring these deeper needs, hostages would have died. In corporate environments, 80% of time on kidnapping cases was spent dealing with internal politics‚Äîwhat's called "the crisis within the crisis." In difficult conversations at work, competing egos and siloed thinking often create more obstacles than the actual business challenge. When your team member asks for a raise, the real issue might be feeling undervalued compared to peers, concern about supporting their ...
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  • Negotiation Skills for Women Leaders: Lessons from a Former Scotland Yard Hostage Negotiator

    Negotiation Skills for Women Leaders: Lessons from a Former Scotland Yard Hostage Negotiator
    Nov 15 2025
    Master Tactical Empathy and Emotional Intelligence Techniques That Transform High-Stakes Conversations Into Collaborative SuccessDo you avoid difficult conversations at work? Does the word "negotiation" make you uncomfortable? You're not alone. Research from Cornell University reveals that many women would rather go to the dentist than negotiate for themselves—yet negotiation is one of the most critical leadership skills you must master to advance your career.Here's the surprising truth: Women leaders actually possess natural strengths that lead to superior negotiation outcomes. New 2025 research from Columbia Business School shows that women's relational negotiation approaches result in 23% fewer impasses and often achieve better deals than aggressive tactics—especially when alternatives are weak.In this groundbreaking episode of the Women's Leadership Success podcast, I sit down with Scott Walker, a former Scotland Yard kidnap negotiator who spent five years negotiating the release of hostages from dangerous criminals. Now a keynote speaker and author of the Sunday Times bestseller "Order Out of Chaos," Scott reveals how the same techniques he used to save lives can transform how women leaders navigate workplace negotiations, difficult conversations, and high-stakes decisions.What Is Negotiation Really? (It's Not What You Think) Negotiation Skills for Women Leaders - Reframing Negotiation as a Conversation With Purpose "Life is one big negotiation," Scott explains. "We're negotiating all day, every day. It's simply a conversation with a purpose—whether you're dealing with kidnappers in a boardroom or with your teenagers who just do not want to do what you want them to do."Most women run from negotiation because they've been taught it's:- Aggressive and confrontational- A sleazy sales tactic- A win-lose battle where someone gets hurt- Incompatible with creating equity in relationshipsBut this outdated view keeps talented women leaders from asking for what they deserve and advocating effectively for their teams.The New Definition of Negotiation for Women Leaders:Negotiation is any conversation where you're looking to:- Influence or persuade others- Bring about cooperation or collaboration- Achieve a specific outcome- Solve a shared problem- Build understanding across different perspectivesWhen you reframe negotiation this way, it becomes less about combat and more about connection—which aligns perfectly with women's documented strengths in relational communication.Why Women's Negotiation Skills Are Actually Superior in Leadership Roles Contrary to persistent myths, recent research reveals that women's negotiation approaches often produce better results:Columbia Business School (September 2025): Women negotiators who use relational strategies achieve better outcomes than those using aggressive tactics, particularly when negotiating from positions with weak alternatives. Their approach of "asking for less but receiving more" avoids impasses that derail deals.Darden Business School (2025): Women who secure leadership positions typically use "shaping strategies"—proposing creative solutions that go beyond the immediate scope of negotiation to create value for both parties. This approach generates better long-term outcomes than traditional positional bargaining.Harvard Program on Negotiation (2025): While women still face backlash for negotiating assertively, those who frame their asks around mutual benefit and relationship preservation achieve similar or better outcomes than aggressive negotiators.The bottom line? Your natural inclination toward relationship-building and creative problem-solving isn't a weakness in negotiation—it's a strategic advantage.Scott Walker's Background: From Scotland Yard to Business Boardrooms The Making of a Master NegotiatorScott Walker spent 16 years as a career detective at Scotland Yard, dealing with organized crime and counter-terrorism investigations. But the turning point came when a colleague returned from three days negotiating the release of a kidnapped child from a drug gang."I was drowning in paper cuts from all the crime reports I had to supervise," Scott recalls. "When I heard about what my colleague was doing, I thought, 'I want some of that.'"After completing the rigorous selection process and training, Scott spent five years as a kidnap negotiator:- Receiving calls at 2 AM to race across London- Sitting with terrified families receiving calls from kidnappers- Working with his team to secure hostage releases- Negotiating in life-or-death situations where every word matteredAfter leaving law enforcement, Scott spent another decade doing kidnap negotiation work in the private sector across every industry and continent imaginable.The Universal Negotiation Principles That Apply to Business Leadership and Your Career DevelopmentWhat Scott discovered through thousands of hours negotiating with criminals is that the same principles apply to everyday ...
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  • AI Executive Workflow Automation: Your Blueprint for Systematic Leadership Transformation (Part 2)

    AI Executive Workflow Automation: Your Blueprint for Systematic Leadership Transformation (Part 2)
    Oct 19 2025
    From Novice Prompts to Expert Systems: How to Build AI Workflows That Run Your Routine Work While You LeadIn Part 1, we explored the foundational mindset for AI executive productivity—the shift from 80% routine work to 80% creative work. Now, in Part 2, Barry O'Reilly reveals the specific AI executive workflow automation systems that make this transformation real.This isn't theory. These are the exact workflows, prompts, and systems that Barry and leading executives use daily to reclaim their time and amplify their leadership impact.What you'll learn: The weekly business review system that takes 90 seconds instead of 30 minutes. How to audit your work with AI's help. Building your personal prompt library. And why your unlearning rate must exceed your irrelevance rate.The AI Executive Workflow Automation Philosophy: Creative Work + Automated DisciplineBefore diving into specific systems, understand the core principle driving effective AI executive workflow automation: "Every time you can automate routine but disciplined work, you're moving the needle toward having more capacity to do creative problem-solving work. That's where you get the power and real promise of what AI is—people doing the best work of their life." Barry O'Reilly The Work Category FrameworkAI executive workflow automation works by understanding two distinct categories of leadership work:Category 1: Creative Problem-Solving WorkStrategic planning and vision developmentComplex decision-making in ambiguous situationsCoaching team members through challengesInnovation and new product/service designBuilding relationships and influencing stakeholdersPattern recognition across diverse business situationsCategory 2: Routine Disciplined WorkWriting meeting follow-ups and summariesTracking action items and deadlinesSending reminder notificationsCompiling weekly/monthly reportsScheduling and calendar managementData entry and information organizationThe AI Executive Workflow Automation Insight: Humans should do Category 1. Machines should automate Category 2. The problem is most executives spend 80% of their time in Category 2.As Barry explains: "Machines essentially offer this opportunity to automate a lot of that disciplined, repeatable, routine work—like having an auto-scheduler that sends an email 5 days before a task is due. I don't want to think about it, I don't want to send it, but a machine is amazing at making sure it follows up and does that."The Self-Audit: Ask AI to Analyze Your Work EfficiencyThe first AI executive workflow automation you should implement is having AI audit where you're spending your time. This creates objective data about your current state.The Initial Audit PromptCopy this prompt into ChatGPT, Claude, or your preferred LLM: What AI Will Ask YouWhen Barry guides executives through this process, AI typically asks questions like:About Creative Work:"What tasks do you find most creative, interesting, and rewarding? List them all out.""When do you feel most energized during your workday?""What work would you do more of if you had unlimited time?"About Routine Work:"What tasks are time-sinks that feel like necessary evils?""What do you find yourself repeatedly doing that could be standardized?""What work drains your energy without adding strategic value?"About Time Allocation:"What percentage do you spend on creative work versus routine work?""Over the last year, how much time have you spent on these categories?" (You can even connect your calendar)Example: The Business Expenses AutomationBarry provides a concrete example: "Say it identifies you spend 5 hours a week doing your business expenses. Necessary, because your accountant wants those things. The machine could say to you, 'Instead of spending those 5 hours manually capturing expenses each month, why don't you try to automate it like this?'"Potential Solution: Use an app where you photograph receipts as they happen, automatically transcribe them into a spreadsheet, and capture images—transforming 90 minutes of weekly work into 30 seconds.The Key Insight: You can ask the tool itself to help you identify where it can help you. This self-teaching capability is revolutionary.Building Your AI workflow Prompt Library: From Novice to ExpertOne of the most powerful aspects of AI executive workflow automation is building a library of prompts that consistently deliver high-quality results. But your prompts should evolve dramatically as you progress.The Progression of Prompt SophisticationNovice Stage (Months 0-2):Barry's reflection: "If I look at prompts I wrote even 6 months ago, I was basically saying 'formulate me a strategy to take over the world' and I was excited by the response it gave me."Novice prompt characteristics:Extremely broad and vagueNo context providedGeneric asks like "make this better"One-sentence requestsSatisfied with any responseExample novice prompts:"Write an email to my team""Summarize this meeting""Give me marketing ideas"Intermediate Stage...
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