Welcome into the Young Dad Pod—whether you’re folding laundry, wiping mashed bananas off the ceiling, or quietly googling ‘how to be a good dad’ in the middle of the night—thank you for being here.

Today’s guest is Lane Igoudin—dad, professor, and author of the memoir A Family, Maybe, which tells the powerful story of how he and his partner Jonathan became a family through the foster care system—while fighting for equality as gay parents in pre-marriage-equality America. Lane is one of the first openly gay dads in the U.S. to foster and adopt, and his story is about more than paperwork and parenting—it’s about love, identity, resilience, and how we protect what matters most.

To everyone listening: if you want a memoir that will challenge your assumptions, inspire your spirit, and remind you what family is really about, grab Lane's book A Family, Maybe at laneigoudin.com/afm.

Visit the website for interactive activity guides and everything YDP- ⁠⁠www.youngdadpod.com
Click the link for YDP deals (Triad Math, Forefathers, and more) - https://linktr.ee/youngdadpod Interested in being a guest on the Young Dad Podcast? Reach out to Jey Young through PodMatch at this link: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/youngdad
Lastly,consider making a monetary donation to support the Pod, https://buymeacoffee.com/youngdadpod.For more info, DM “DadBod” to @madmaxfitness84 on IG. Listeners who mention the “Young Dad Podcast” will receive 1 month FREE.Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Lane's Journey

01:00 The Evolution of Gay Parenting

04:53 The Foster Care System's Challenges

10:28 Reunification vs. Adoption: A Child's Perspective

15:14 The Role of the County as Parent

24:49 The Cost of the System and Its Implications

31:54 The Challenges of Gay Parenting and Adoption

34:08 Scrutiny and Standards in Foster Care

38:55 The System's Failures and Child Welfare

44:50 Navigating Family Dynamics and Cultural Identity

51:07 Conversations Across Divides: Finding Common Ground

In this engaging conversation, Jey Young and EksAyn Anderson explore the profound impact of fatherhood on children and society. They discuss the importance of intentional parenting, the role of influence, and how fathers can instill confidence in their kids. The dialogue emphasizes the need for fathers to take an active role in their children's education and development, adopting a CEO mindset. They also touch on the significance of accountability, positive reinforcement, and teaching life skills to foster independence and work ethic in children. The conversation wraps up with lighthearted questions in the 'Dad Zone', reinforcing the importance of connection and fun in parenting.

Takeaways

Fatherhood is a crucial influence on children's lives.

Dads need to be present and engaged in their children's upbringing.

Confidence in children often stems from their fathers' support.

Parents should act as the CEOs of their children's education.

Positive reinforcement is more effective than criticism.

Teaching accountability helps children understand consequences.

Life skills are essential for children's independence.

Dads should encourage their children to take on challenges.

The choices parents make today impact future generations.

Building a strong connection with children fosters trust and openness.

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Fatherhood and Influence

03:54 The Role of Dads in Building Confidence

07:55 Dads as CEOs of Their Children's Education

11:58 Instilling Confidence Through Challenges

15:48 Positive Reinforcement and Accountability

19:30 The Lasting Impact of Dad's Voice

34:24 Building Trust and Connection with Children

35:25 Teaching Consequences and Responsibilities

37:53 The Importance of Life Skills

39:33 Work Ethic and Perseverance

43:57 Leading with Actions, Not Feelings

48:22 The Power of Choices

51:35 The Irreplaceable Role of Fathers

55:07 Fun in the Dad Zone

Check out the Website for Interactive Activity Guides, Resources, Full Transcripts, all things YDP- ⁠⁠www.youngdadpod.com Clink the Link for YDP Deals (Joon, Forefathers &more)- ⁠https://linktr.ee/youngdadpod Want to be a guest on Young Dad Podcast? Send Jey Young a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/youngdad
Lastly consider a monetary donation to support the Pod, https://buymeacoffee.com/youngdadpod

In this episode of the Young Dad podcast, host Jay Young speaks with Dr. Rebecca Jackson, an expert in brain health and childhood development. They discuss the challenges parents face in understanding their children's behavior, particularly in relation to ADHD and attention issues. Dr. Jackson shares her journey into the field, the importance of brain balance, and practical strategies for parents to support their children's development. The conversation also touches on the rise of ADHD diagnoses, the role of education systems, and the need for self-care among parents.

Takeaways

Parents often feel overwhelmed by their child's behavior and development.

Dr. Jackson emphasizes the importance of understanding neurological development.

Brain Balance focuses on improving brain function through non-medical approaches.

ADHD diagnoses have increased due to changes in awareness and diagnostic criteria.

The pandemic has exacerbated attention issues in children.

Attention development varies significantly between children.

Education systems need to adapt to the changing needs of students.

Practical strategies can help parents support their child's learning at home.

Self-care is essential for parents to effectively support their children.

Empowering parents with knowledge can lead to better outcomes for children.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Parenting Challenges and ADHD

02:40 Dr. Rebecca Jackson's Journey and Insights

05:24 Understanding ADHD and Its Rising Diagnosis

07:51 The Role of Technology in Attention Development

10:50 Exploring Brain Balance and Non-Medical Approaches

13:21 The Complexity of Attention and Learning

15:58 Navigating the Education System and Support for Kids

24:44 Reforming Education: A Call for Change

27:00 Understanding Attention and Learning

30:06 Creating a Brain-Healthy Environment

32:38 Practical Skills vs. Academic Knowledge

34:29 The Pandemic's Impact on Parental Involvement

37:24 Navigating Modern Education Challenges

40:13 Final Thoughts and Advice for Parents

Check out the Website for Interactive Activity Guides, Resources, Full Transcripts, all things YDP- ⁠⁠www.youngdadpod.com Clink the Link for YDP Deals (Joon, Forefathers &more)- ⁠https://linktr.ee/youngdadpod Want to be a guest on Young Dad Podcast? Send Jey Young a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/youngdad
Lastly consider a monetary donation to support the Pod, https://buymeacoffee.com/youngdadpod

In this episode of the Young Dad podcast, host Jey Young engages with Paul Bauer, a certified master life coach and bestselling author, to explore the intricacies of masculinity, relationships, and personal growth. Paul shares his journey from struggling in relationships to understanding the psychology of attraction and the importance of self-accountability. The conversation delves into modern dating dynamics, the impact of dating apps, and the need for men to reclaim their masculine presence in relationships. They discuss the societal crisis of masculinity, the importance of leadership in relationships, and offer valuable advice for young dads navigating fatherhood.

Takeaways

Men need to embrace their masculinity as a positive trait.

Self-reflection is crucial in understanding relationship dynamics.

Dating apps can be beneficial if approached correctly.

Women are attracted to confidence and decisiveness in men.

Accountability for one's actions is essential in personal growth.

Transactional relationships can lead to dissatisfaction and resentment.

Men should seek support from peers rather than overburdening their partners.

Understanding the psychology of attraction can improve relationships.

Leadership in relationships fosters respect and intimacy.

The crisis of masculinity in society needs to be addressed for healthier relationships.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Masculinity and Relationships

02:36 Paul's Journey: From Navy to Life Coach

09:09 The Downfall of Marriage and Self-Reflection

13:48 Navigating the Dating Scene: Lessons Learned

20:17 Understanding Relationship Dynamics

26:38 Reclaiming Masculinity in Relationships

29:03 The Need for Fearless Masculinity

30:05 Understanding the Masculinity Crisis

30:51 Reprogramming Masculine Presence

34:06 The Impact of Family Dynamics on Masculinity

39:27 The Role of Education in Shaping Masculinity

40:33 Encouraging Responsible Masculinity

41:34 Leadership in Relationships

48:26 Navigating Emotional Vulnerability

52:31 The Dad Zone: Lighthearted Reflections

Check out the Website for Interactive Activity Guides, Resources, Full Transcripts, all things YDP- ⁠⁠www.youngdadpod.com Clink the Link for YDP Deals (Joon, Forefathers &more)- ⁠https://linktr.ee/youngdadpod Want to be a guest on Young Dad Podcast? Send Jey Young a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/youngdad
Lastly consider a monetary donation to support the Pod, https://buymeacoffee.com/youngdadpod

Welcome into the Young Dad Pod—whether you're stacking your kids’ snack drawer, figuring out who gets the houseplants in the divorce, or just trying to protect your peace—thanks for being here and tuning in.

Back with us today is Padideh Jafari, a family law attorney with 22 years of experience who made waves in our last conversation about narcissistic abuse and male victims of domestic violence. Today, we’re digging deeper into those themes—and opening the door to a new, often overlooked issue in family law: what happens when you're divorcing someone who is a narcissist and a hoarder?

From the emotional toll to real concerns about child safety and living conditions, this is the kind of conversation that more parents—and especially more dads—need to be having.If you are in SOCAL and need legal help for family law, divorce law, mediation or collaborative law- https://jafarilegal.com/

https://www.instagram.com/jafarilegal/

Check out the Website for Interactive Activity Guides, Resources, Full Transcripts, all things YDP- ⁠⁠www.youngdadpod.com

Clink the Link for YDP Deals (Joon, Forefathers &more)- ⁠https://linktr.ee/youngdadpod

Want to be a guest on Young Dad Podcast? Send Jey Young a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/youngdad
Lastly consider a monetary donation to support the Pod, https://buymeacoffee.com/youngdadpodChapters

00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Guest

02:43 Men's Mental Health and Narcissistic Abuse

05:33 The Impact of Hoarding on Families

08:31 Understanding the Dynamics of Narcissistic Relationships

11:16 The Role of CPS in Hoarding Cases

13:46 Legal Challenges in Hoarding Situations

14:20 The Emotional Toll of Hoarding on Children

16:13 Navigating Divorce with a Hoarder

16:47 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

25:01 The Impact of Visual Evidence in Court

28:39 Navigating the Aftermath of a Hoarding Situation

31:08 Understanding Narcissism in Family Dynamics

34:32 The Need for Psychological Insight in Legal Cases

38:49 The Challenges of Leaving an Abusive Environment

43:24 Finding Peace After Turmoil

Keywords

narcissistic abuse, male victims, hoarding, domestic violence, mental health, divorce, CPS, psychological impact, recovery, support

In this heartfelt conversation, Jey Young reflects on the significance of Father's Day, sharing personal stories about father figures in his life and the impact they had on him. He discusses the journey of becoming a father himself, the challenges and joys that come with it, and emphasizes the importance of being present and building connections with children. Jey offers advice for new dads, highlighting that perfection is unattainable, but meaningful relationships are essential. He encourages fathers to embrace their roles and the fleeting moments of parenthood.

Takeaways

Father's Day is often overshadowed by negativity and cultural issues.

The relationship with a father is crucial for personal development.

Personal experiences shape our understanding of fatherhood.

Being a father involves both challenges and joys.

Presence and connection are more important than perfection in parenting.

Every father has a unique story and impact on their children.

It's essential to cherish the moments spent with children.

Men's mental health should be taken seriously and openly discussed.

Fatherhood is a journey filled with learning and growth.

Building a loving relationship with children is key to successful parenting.

Chapters

00:00 Reflections on Father's Day and Its Significance

02:32 The Impact of Father Figures

06:14 Lessons from My Father

08:20 Becoming a Father: Responsibilities and Challenges

11:16 The Importance of Presence in Parenting

15:04 Advice for New Dads: Connection Over Perfection

Visit the website for interactive activity guides and everything YDP- ⁠⁠www.youngdadpod.com
Click the link for YDP deals (Triad Math, Forefathers, and more) - https://linktr.ee/youngdadpod Interested in being a guest on the Young Dad Podcast? Reach out to Jey Young through PodMatch at this link: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/youngdad
Lastly,consider making a monetary donation to support the Pod, https://buymeacoffee.com/youngdadpod.

For more info, DM “DadBod” to @madmaxfitness84 on IG. Listeners who mention the “Young Dad Podcast” will receive 1 month FREE.

In this episode of the Young Dad Podcast, host Jey Young speaks with Leighton Campbell, author of 'Your Happiness Equation.' They explore the concept of happiness, the importance of fatherhood, and how personal experiences shape our understanding of joy. Layton shares insights from his journey of writing the book, the validation he received from readers, and the deep connections formed through parenting. The conversation delves into measuring happiness, sustaining it through effort, and the creative ways to engage with children. Layton emphasizes that happiness is not a destination but a continuous practice, encouraging listeners to find joy in everyday moments and to be intentional in their parenting.

Takeaways

Happiness is a deep emotional experience, not just surface-level joy.

Building structures in life that produce happiness requires effort and sacrifice.

Fatherhood brings unique joys and challenges that contribute to personal happiness.

Happiness can be measured, but it is subjective and requires self-examination.

The journey towards happiness involves growth and relationships, not just achievements.

Every phase of parenting has its challenges and joys; embrace them all.

Creativity in parenting can lead to memorable experiences for children.

Happiness is an ongoing practice that requires maintenance and vigilance.

It's important to expose children to new experiences to broaden their horizons.

You can find happiness in local experiences, regardless of financial constraints.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Happiness and Personal Stories

02:53 The Depth of Happiness and Emotional Connections

05:31 Building Structures for Lasting Happiness

08:21 The Impact of Sharing and Validation

11:12 Parenting Moments and Life Lessons

13:59 The Happiness Equation: Measuring Happiness

16:46 Sustaining Happiness: Effort and Maintenance

19:13 Patterns in Happiness Responses

22:06 Chasing Happiness vs. Present Happiness

28:15 The Pursuit of Happiness

29:09 Letting Go of Expectations

33:08 The Role of Family in Happiness

35:27 Lessons in Happiness from Parenthood

41:13 Creative Parenting Strategies

43:04 Lighthearted Dad Zone Questions

Check out the Website for Interactive Activity Guides, Resources, Full Transcripts, all things YDP- ⁠⁠www.youngdadpod.com Clink the Link for YDP Deals (Joon, Forefathers &more)- ⁠https://linktr.ee/youngdadpod Want to be a guest on Young Dad Podcast? Send Jey Young a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/youngdad
Lastly consider a monetary donation to support the Pod, https://buymeacoffee.com/youngdadpod

In this episode of the Young Dad Podcast, host Jey Young speaks with Robbie Carlson, a father of four who shares his inspiring journey from homelessness to home ownership. They discuss the importance of building strong foundations in fatherhood, maintaining faith during tough times, and the significance of small wins in life. Robbie emphasizes the need for good men in society and the role fathers play in shaping their children's expectations and values. The conversation also touches on the challenges of parenting, the transition from boyhood to manhood, and the importance of setting a good example for children.

Takeaways

Building a strong foundation is crucial for fatherhood.

Mental battles are a significant part of overcoming challenges.

Small wins can lead to greater achievements in life.

Every child is different and requires unique parenting approaches.

Fathers play a vital role in shaping their daughters' expectations of men.

Good men are essential for a healthy society.

Faith can help families stay together during tough times.

It's important to celebrate differences in children.

Parents should be mindful of the advice they take and give.

Setting a good example is key to raising responsible children.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Resilience and Fatherhood

02:55 Journey from Homelessness to Home Ownership

05:31 Mental Battles and Small Wins

08:20 Building a Strong Family Foundation

10:59 Finding Purpose in Adversity

14:05 The Importance of Community and Faith

16:36 Navigating Life's Challenges

19:45 Creating a Supportive Environment

22:37 Reflections on Personal Growth

25:25 The Role of Government and Community

28:21 Concluding Thoughts on Resilience and Change

35:04 Navigating Convenience and Growth

35:57 The Cycle of Strength and Weakness

37:27 Transitioning from Boyhood to Manhood

38:45 Expectations in the Workforce

39:49 Building a Strong Foundation

40:53 The Role of Parents in Shaping Values

41:51 The Silence of Good Men

43:14 Raising Daughters with High Standards

44:18 Emulating Good Examples for Children

46:37 The Impact of Parental Behavior

48:29 Setting Boundaries with Technology

50:44 The Dad Zone Begins

55:33 Advice for New Dads

Check out the Website for Interactive Activity Guides, Resources, Full Transcripts, all things YDP- ⁠⁠www.youngdadpod.com Clink the Link for YDP Deals (Joon, Forefathers &more)- ⁠https://linktr.ee/youngdadpod Want to be a guest on Young Dad Podcast? Send Jey Young a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/youngdad
Lastly consider a monetary donation to support the Pod, https://buymeacoffee.com/youngdadpod